How To Be Sexier And Smarter At The Same Time

Knowledge is one of the most attractive things we can have.

Sometimes knowledge comes in the form of what we know, other times in the form of things we can do and skills we have.

We live in a world where it’s become more necessary than ever to have eclectic knowledge and diverse skillsets.

Men are running out of ways to feel special

It’s not enough that we make money or have status, because women today already have these things.

We have to work a little harder to be interesting

We cannot afford NOT to be a Renaissance man or woman with a variety of skillsets, art forms and knowledge bases.

Knowledge and skill is a good look on anyone – as is curiosity which inevitably leads us to these things.

And attraction is sustained for longer periods of time when you’re able to keep surprising your partner.

Challenge:

Go and learn about or study something that you have no real need for. Just do something new.

When you’ve decided, leave a comment about the thing you’ve picked. Then come back and leave another at the end of the week to let me know how you’ve gotten on! Do you feel more interesting? Do you have a story because of it?

Be sure to let me know as you’ll be giving me ideas for what I can go on to do next myself!

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  • I recently went zip lining. Highest point was 300ft up, 1/4 mile long and 55 mph! Great conversation piece with men! I love all of your video blogs Matthew! You have wisdom beyond your years and are hilarious as well! Thank you so much for all of your wonderful insights!

  • I’m i just discovered,that I have a passion for art. and I considered to change my major in collage. Also, Your are so cool I watched most of your videos, and I would like to find a man just like you. Oh! I almost forget. You are so sexy that I’ve been dreaming a bout you.

  • Hi Matt,

    This is my first time commenting on anything you have done(God willing i would like to meet you someday) Okay, thing is please can you talk about interracial relationships any thing from advise to opinions. I am black and i more attracted to white guys, some of my friends think am crazy ( i don’t care) want to learn from your point of view and also for other ladies like me that might not be bold enough to talk about their preferences.

    Thanks.

  • Matthew- you are amazing, inspiring and it’s wonderful that you so generously share your intelligence with us women! Thank you. :) it’s no wonder- I bet you get plenty of kudos everyday! ;)
    I love this video and the challenge you spark! Life is about being interesting and not to others but for ourselves.
    This day and age it seems there’s so much pressure to impress. I’m only in my early 40’s but I guess I’ve always been kindof old school. I am who I am and I will share with someone what I feel I want to share; what I have to share with the world is sacred to me. Oh and in case you were wondering -old school isn’t boring or “old”- I love to have plenty of good wholesome fun; I jusy don’t feel the need to impress.
    Keep up your awesome work! ;)

    1. I’m not a native English speaker, but I’m always trying to broaden my vocabulary. So today I ‘ve learned about kudos. I had no idea what the word meant, so I got out my dictionary (yes, the retro kind in the shape of a book) and looked it up. Apparently it even exists in my native language!

      I’m also attempting to learn Spanish by watching an Argentinan telenovela online, which is a lot more fun than taking a course.

  • This is a great video :). I love curious people. I ‘ve decided thati want to improve my vocabulary in both french and spanish, so bought one book in french and three in spanish. The reading is quite interesting. Also i love sports and recently i’ve decided that i know pretty much nothing about rugby, so i have to learn the rules, diferences and similarities between rugby union and rugby league. Already started my reading on that and i’m sure the next match i’ll see will mske more sense :).

  • i watched a youtube about how to stem the roses so i planted 32 roses and have almost more than fifty seeds of different colors!i live in a townhouse and dont have garden but i can give them to friends when they are ready and make them happy :)xx

  • Hey Matt
    Firstly I need to compliment you on your art to deliver such great ideas with so much ease. Just cant take my eyes off you, you are so damn attractive.
    I think you have such great understanding n mastery over what you do n I totally agree that additional skills add to your knowledge which in turn makes you an interesting person. I have always believed this as I can say from my experience that knowing yoga music n beauty gives me such a upper hand n it attracts so many people towards me n I haven’t stopped at that. I m taking next course in sound engineering. I really need to thank you for your awesome work in bringing happiness to so many people. Great going you handsome guy.

  • hey Matt,

    another great video, as always! and really inspiring!
    it just so happened to me the other day, that one person from the group i was hanging out with, started a conversation about a subject i had to study for my university exams. unfortunately, since i had only forcefully studied that, i was unable to join the conversation and disappointed, let myself forget all about the incident.
    now after this video, i suddenly have gained interest on the matter! i decided i’ll go back to the book and read it for pleasure this time, to see what i can truly learn from it!

    thank you once again for the inspiration and wish you a great week!! :D

  • Hi Matt,

    I’ve just watched your video and I have to say, you’re totally right! I’ve learned the exactly same thing around a year ago.

    After I graduated from college, I started to work as a project manager in an IT department. For quit a time I was doing nothing else but concentrating on work related stuff. I almost forgot about hobbies, passions, interests.

    One day in a random conversation with friends i started to feel incomplete. There was nothing I could talk about, but my work and hobbies I’ve given up on.
    So i decided that I need to add something new to my life.

    I started to design my own jewelary and clothes and to wear it. I was feeling already more complete, because there was something else in my life than my work. Mostly, I didn’t even had to start a conversation about it by myself. I could just add it to an ongoing conversation about fashion, cloth, hobbies. and it definitely pushed my self-confidence, as people started completenting me about my jewelary or asking where I bought my dress. I could say: “I didn’t. I made it by myself.” Suddenly, I could talk about something more than my work and people became like more interested in my personality.

    A couple of month later, I started to learn more about politics. Before that, I was watching the news more on a rare than on a regular basis. And again, now I feel much more confident in a discussion about politics. I can talk about it and I even have an opinion on it. I’m not hiding my face behind a drink anymore, hoping that I don’t have to say anything.

    I’m telling you this, because I’ve watched around 4 or 5 videos you’ve made and I think that you’re really encouraging people.

    The video you’ve made about “high value” is very inspiring! That was the first one I’ve watched and I thought “Oh, the guy actually does know what he’s talking about!” I’ve sended the link to a couple of friends and there where all thrilled! Woman sometimes doesn’t thing so far. Hihi… so I was happy to watch a video today with an “execise” I’ve already have some exerience with.

    Keep it up, Matt :)!

    Regards,
    Sylvia

  • Hello Matthew,

    i love all of your videos and think they are fantastic.
    Just a quick few questions I hope you can help me with,
    First of all I really like my male best friend,
    We have been best friends since the start of university and have both said in little ways that we think each others are attractive we have spent ‘a few nights together’ so to speak, and I know we both find each other attractive intellectually as well, but now my problem is that he obviously does not want me fully in a committed relationship for some reason? and i am wondering why i use all of your techniques on him and he still only sees me as a friend and i am not sure why? What can i do to make him see me in a better way? we have also lived together for a while now while living in student accommodation i find my self in a bit of a pickle! how do i make him more attracted to me? how do i get him to make the moves on me? how do i make him more interested? as best friends he knows me pretty well but i just need him to change his perspective but how?

    If you could help me in any way shape or form this would be 100% appreciated.

    Thank you so much,
    Chelsea. x

  • I’ve always wanted to learn how to dance, and this summer at the fair was a square dancing demonstration. I signed up for a contest to win a couple free lessons, well… I won! Been taking lessons and am realizing how good of a social outlet it is and learning a fun new skill at the same time!

    Love your advice!
    mercy

  • I learned an important life skill today. How to make a good sandwich. Everyone likes those! But for real I’ve been focusing on learning more about patience and self confidence. I’ve reached a point where all my friends are in serious relationships or married except me. But I think making yourself happy alone is the first step to making someone else happy in a relationship. I’m the person who gets the look when another person learns I’ve never had a real relationship (I’m only 23!), like you can’t be serious. Yes I am the good morals, innocent girl who can be shy sometimes and crazy fun other times. At least I like to think I’m kind of funny with my lame jokes and enjoyable to be around with my easy going attitude. Getting hit on based on physical attraction is great on my self confidence but I’m not looking for a quick fling or something physical (which I don’t or wouldn’t do anyways), I want a lasting relationship. So here I am patiently waiting for the right one to come along. Tips and advice appreciated! Adding on I love watching and learning what you have to say Matthew, much love and success to you.

  • Whts up hussey! Enjoyed ur video (actually like a marathon of them)and agree that knowledge is attractive. I am learning sign language and learning more about black history, malcolm x to african culture. Example guy says hes from Nigeria and i say oh Lagos ( the capital) and hes not but my knowledge interest him. I love using my brain in attraction but there is key to not being a know it all. People don’t like to be corrected and when u show tht u can learn from wht thy say it makes for a 2 way exchange….love ur videos!! Appreciate how u give advice from experience(not just yours) vs opinion keep it up!

  • Hey Matt.Just discovered you on you tube, am totally loving your videos. I am always reading and learning more and just a wide range of knowledge. I enjoy having interesting valuable conversations, its not always easy to find a guy to have them with though. But dude you need to get your ass down to Australia, when you coming???

  • i’m trying to be a polyglot (speak many languages).. i have a deep interest in art and in art criticism, ballet, drama, politics, russian literature and history, and photography and travel.. and i am a biologist (who also loves chemistry and physics)..oh, and i’m also starting to become a yoga-freak. and im trying to get back to playing the violin.

    once every blue moon do i meet someone with this many interests..and this is kinda of what’s difficult. very few at my uni have this many interests and a lot of my friends don’t.. i’ve always found it very hard to become further interested with someone (after a few meetings) who is not so colorful, on my level or even worse; feels intimidated by me and tries to show me who’s boss in another way (douche).

    i don’t even know why i’m writing this here. i guess, i’m just saying that the opposite can also be a problem.

  • Hi, Matthew, your videos are really inspiring! The other day when I run out of ideas of how to attract my crush, your video on Youtube caught my attention. I was quite suspicious about the idea of attracting someone with some sort of ‘skill-set’, but to my surprise, your video is not just about that, but rather how to become a better person and how to improve ourselves in general. I just want to say that THANK YOU for your effort and you really are an inspiring person!

  • Here are a few things I’ve learned from you so far:
    It’s important too examine yourself, change the characteristics that aren’t helping you grow. Be honest. Be silly. Be curious. Be interested in other people. Lastly, do the things that will help you become the best version of yourself.
    Those are just some of things I’ve picked up from you so far and I know I’ll be learning more.
    Thank you Matthew. You are an awesome human being :]

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