Knowledge is one of the most attractive things we can have.
Sometimes knowledge comes in the form of what we know, other times in the form of things we can do and skills we have.
We live in a world where it’s become more necessary than ever to have eclectic knowledge and diverse skillsets.
Men are running out of ways to feel special
It’s not enough that we make money or have status, because women today already have these things.
We have to work a little harder to be interesting
We cannot afford NOT to be a Renaissance man or woman with a variety of skillsets, art forms and knowledge bases.
Knowledge and skill is a good look on anyone – as is curiosity which inevitably leads us to these things.
And attraction is sustained for longer periods of time when you’re able to keep surprising your partner.
Challenge:
Go and learn about or study something that you have no real need for. Just do something new.
When you’ve decided, leave a comment about the thing you’ve picked. Then come back and leave another at the end of the week to let me know how you’ve gotten on! Do you feel more interesting? Do you have a story because of it?
Be sure to let me know as you’ll be giving me ideas for what I can go on to do next myself!
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I recently watched a documentary about stone henge and another site that was uncovered that has lead the research team to theorize that stone henge was a site for sun worship. Very interesting :)
Hi there. This video topic is really interesting to me but for a different reason to me. I’m not having a problem appearing as attractive or flirting, I’m having a problem turning it off, tuning down the flirt. I do it without even thinking and this bad habit has gotten me into trouble before. Recently, for example, I had a meeting with a professor, I don’t want to flirt with professors, and I do try, but in the back of my head I’m always wondering if I’m coming off as a flirt without substance. I leaned over, smiled, and lightly smacked him on the shoulder to make a point. I shouldn’t have done that and I regret it now because flirting, I think comes off as ridiculous to serious professors. I think there must be no worse turn off for a guy than a woman who is all tight clothes and no brain inside. I watched the other video about developing the three layers: core, inner and surface, that really helped with these issues. My question is, how do I recover from a reputation of being a tight clothes, empty headed flirt, if I’ve already made that impression. Now I feel like even if I read ten of the books my professor told me to read, he will still see me as the empty headed flirt he met at the beginning of the school year. Not as a serious student who is as developed inside as out. How do I turn down the flirt?
Hi! I’m just learning japanese this semester at college! you give such great advices! and you are so cool :) say HIIIIIIII ;)
I don’t really have difficulty finding men to date, but I always complain that I don’t meet interesting men, so I decided to become more interesting myself! I was already learning guitar to help with my songwriting prior to seeing this video. Now I am also studying Modern/Contemporary American Poetry and educating myself on sustainability and ecosystem degradation. Thanks for the great advice as always!
I really think that it would be good for Matt to address the issue of college especially graduate school where relationships with our classmates change so drastically. I’m seeing that men don’t want to be thought of as potential date material anymore, they want to be treated as intellectual colleagues and this is a new experience for us as we’re maturing and trying to figure out what our new roles towards one another should be. It’s even harder returning to school as older students, especially in relation to professors who are sometimes even younger than us. Just when we were getting used to flirting and behaving a certain way, the rules have changed, flirting is scrutinized much more closely now and the competition among students is more intense. If you flirt or dress inappropriately at any school event, it is hard to regain the respect of classmates. I feel very nervous, especially since my personality is just flirty, friendly, approachable, and humorous. For a while, I did depend on my looks, now I’m having to relearn all that while standing shoulder to shoulder with women who have a better developed intellect than me.. grrrrrr…
So how do I get the guy if flirting has to be even more discrete than it used to be? Its harder to tell which men are available and who is interested when the rules, the body language, the gestures and talk have changed with our new roles as graduate students and colleagues.
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well, I was learning 3rd language,was working part-time in something just for fun & practicing new skills …was doing that for myself in the 1st place & I was HAPPY, but I kept attracting -unintentionally- more stupid unfaithful men to my life, & that’s really hurt…now I’m lost… I’m done. sorry I don’t want to take anyone down but my point is: I think being too attractive is NOT enough, How to attract the right person,,, this is the Question.
Hello, I’m from Brazil and checked on your videos on Youtube, and then they led me to the website. I’ve found the videos quite interesting and so nice to finally hear advices from a male perspective. So thank you for that. I accepted this challenge and I started learning Norwegian as a 4th language (if that much) and is something that I really have no need for, since it is a language mainly spoken by Norwegians, and guess what, I love it. And now, I have people who often ask me on conversations: “Really? Norwegian? What for?”. It just gives me another subject to speak of. So, thank you again. Ana
I loved your video matt!
Learning about new things is something I love, I guess it’s one of my traits……
but it always seems to befuddle men or they tell me I might be too good for them?!
Its not like I babble on about it
Hi Matthew ,
I’m a proponent to learning something new everyday. Regardless if it’s just something small or complex, as long as I’ve learn something new. However, the things I gravitate to inquire are always something to do with my profession and passionate about. How do I learn about auto mechanics? I just met this guy and he is passionate about his job. He told me to ask him anything about fixing cars. Honestly, I have no clue about cars, I know how to put oil, water and change tires. That’s the extent of my knowledge and never been interested in learning more, LOL. I just take my car to the dealer and have them do the maintenance . Any suggestion what to ask? Thanks a bunch Matthew for being there for thousands of us followers.
Great video! Art nouveau…
ps- have the ‘wait or create’ bracelets shipped? I’m signed up for the conference hmm.. =)
I’m learning how to communicate more effectively. I’ve met a great guy. We make each other happy, however we sometimes misunderstand each other and it frustrates me when we do. My question to you, Mr. Matthew Hussey, is what is the difference between settling and having these kinds of differences in a relationship that are obviously important?
Did you know that Hawaii only has two endangered species? The Hawaiian Hoary Bat and Monk Seal. Now the better question to everybody is would you get a very large tattoo on you if it would save an endangered species and if yes then which animal and why? P.s. this was really fun. Thanks for the idea Matthew!
I have learned new things about animals and mysterius things such as ancient aliens. :D
I learnt how to do perspective drawing … it was great fun !
I decided I would read more about all the reforms at mexicos so I could understand what is happening there with the teachers and the people
I love your videos, Matt! This one in particular is very good, and may be some much needed inspiration! When I was much younger and idealistic, I used to set a New Year’s resolution every year to learn 5 new things. I didn’t always make 5, but I always did at least 3. I haven’t set that goal for about 10 years now, and you got me thinking that I probably should! So I my New Year’s resolution is being made pretty late in the year, but why not?
Matt, thank you for your profound mind. You are inspiring! Thank you for YOU. Your smart and sexy sentiments bring to mind Lewis Carrol’s the Queen of Hearts’ famous lines as she is speaking with Alice…
“Alice laughed. `There’s no use trying,’ she said: `one can’t believe impossible things.’
“`I daresay you haven’t had much practice,’ said the Queen. `When I was your age, I always did it for half-an-hour a day. Why, sometimes I’ve believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast.”
The Queen’s outside-the-box perspective is contagious. So I am practicing to believe at least six impossible things before breakfast. I am an Illustrator. I think I will read up on Quantum mechanics this week. Interestingly, we are all Manifesters, and what we think is but the beginnings of reality.
Ahh. I would venture to say you and the Queen have much in common, my friend.
Hey Matthew! I am 16 years old and I have a question for you. Iam really good friends with this guy. We text alot but for some reason he doesn’t talk to me in school. He flirts and talks to every single girl other than me. Sometimes I feel like he only texts me when he’s feeling low and I feel like a pillow he falls back upon. I help him out every time he’s depressed. I feel like crap every ttime he’s talking to some other girl but ignoring me. Should I stop talking to him? (P.s I seem to forgive way too easily)
Help me?
Aww, honey ok you need to just stop talking to this guy and put him lower down on your priorities list. He doesn’t deserve your attention if this is what he’s doing! I’ve had a lot of this, put up with a lot of stuff like this, and trust me hun he’s not going to change if you keep helping him out when he hasn’t done anything for you. Men, they like to earn everything they get from you. If they don’t have to work for your attention they won’t care for you. Trust me! I’ve had a lot of it! Also you’re only 16, so young, you’ve got your whole life to learn about this stuff, so just cut off contact with this guy, if he works hard enough the give him the time of day, otherwise just move on! There are PLENTY of guys out there! Keep watching Matts videos, your starting out young, so you’ll be a pro with men in no time! Good luck babe x
Thank you for your advice! :)
im glad you’ve read about ancient Egypt,coz u’ll need it one day when we meet =D im egyptian ;D