If you want to get a man to commit, you need to follow a few rules so that you actually get results. Getting a man to commit is one of the all time big questions that every woman at some point in her life has wrestled with.
It is one of the most common asked questions that I have women ask me when I coach them and the golden rule is:
‘Think pleasure and pain!’
Let me explain what I mean by this.
Suppose you’ve been dating a guy for 4 weeks or so and he tells you he doesn’t want to be exclusive. Perhaps he just tells you he’s not ready to commit.
Let’s go through the specific rules of how to make him want to be in a relationship with you.
RULE No. 1 – Never ever give your man an ultimatum!
A response women often make is to give an ultimatum, in other words they’ll say to the guy that if he does not commit to her exclusively from now on, she is sorry but their relationship is over.
Now this looks like a decent approach, right? – WRONG
If you give a man an ultimatum, he will run a mile every time. By bearing down on him to make an ‘all or nothing’ decision, you will only make him associate pain and stress with commitment.
He will see it as having to resign himself to a relationship, and he’ll romanticize the freedom that he would get being single.
Rule No. 2 – Don’t give him all the benefits of a relationship before he’s committed to one
A guy has to earn is place in your life. What a lot of women make the mistake of doing is giving themselves completely to a guy before he has expressed any intention of committing.
Not only does this apply sexually, but also to how much time they give him. They let him call her up and come over whenever he’s around, they break plans for him, come and look after him when he’s ill, the list goes on….
If you give a guy all these things before you’re even dating he’ll think:
“Why do I need to commit when I can get all this attention and still be single?”
Rule No. 3 – Get him to associate massive pleasure to commitment!
Another mistake women make when men won’t commit is trying to be colder towards him. This is also the wrong response.
Although it’s right that you might want to back off a bit (or even date other men), you want to make sure that whatever time you do spend together is the most fun he could possibly have!
That way when you leave he’ll think: “I want to spend more time with this girl, we have such an amazing time together!”
You always need the guy to realize that every time he commits to you a little bit more, things get more fun, more exciting, more romantic, and more sexy. If you give him everything all at once right away, there’s nothing left for him to achieve by being in a relationship with you.
What you ideally want is for him to feel like the single life can never be as much fun than experiencing new things with you can be.
A guy needs to feel like he’s missing out by not committing to you.
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My boyfriend never tells me after seeing him when he intends to see me again. Does that mean he is not committed to the relationship?
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This guy told me that he want something serious so the months was going pass by then I told him that in my case I was a serious relationship.He told me that he didn’t expected me saying those things to him.He want me to met his family and he was to met my family as will.so I’m not sure if he going to push away from me :(
I am a 25 years old persian girl who moved to USA.I really want to date an American guy but I don’t know how to use these rules and steps.when I read your blogs and watch your videos I totally undrestand what you mean but I don’t know how to them when I’m seeing a guy.I have always had this problem that at the beggining I can attract guys so fast but after a short time I feel like they are not atteacted to me anymore.I have a hard time attracting guys(especially white guys) permanently.
Hello Matt,
The 3 rules really make sense, I can see why they should work. Actually, when I was in a relationship with my ex (who I dated for almost 2 years), I didn’t even know these rules existed, but I applied them because somehow that was the approach that made sense to me. However, it didn’t work and the romance faded away quickly… He wasn’t seeing another woman at all. Maybe the problem was his, not mine? I mean: maybe he was too immature to commit? Is that possible?
I don’t want help getting my ex back, not at all. I’m just telling my story here because I want to understand it, so I don’t make the same mistake twice. Anyway, maybe this story can be useful for you somehow.
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I am inlove with my friend and i told him how i feel abt him and he said that his not ready what do i do 2 show him that i really love him
When a man says he’s not ready, take him for gis word. Woman make the mistake thinking we can change a man’s mind
a lady is not suppose to approach a guy but since you’ve done it there’s no big deal but please live him alone since he said he’s not ready
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26yrs ago my first love & I BROKE up he was looking for me ever since and has found me we’ve reconnected since Christmas Day..He had expressed his undying love for me anf do far has kept his word about things he saif he would do..I am not the type to call or text I let him do that cuz I think hr should earn his way back into my life (am I wrong for doing it that way)?..he works two jobs so we do not text as much is that ok? And where he stays he mentioned not being able to get much sleep so I told him if he wants to rest or sleep he can come to my house (is that ok? He tells mr he loves me quite often (I say it back is that I mean it) we r intimate sexually when theres time, but more intimate spritually I like that (is this good) he has not hurt mr in anyway yet, he says hes not here for that so far so good..how r ee doing? In ur opinion?
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So what do you do if you break rule #2? I broke the part where I gave in sexually w/o a commitment and told the guy that I havn’t been accepting other dates once we had sex. Please don’t say how wrong this is, I realize I didn’t handle it well and who is perfect. All the dates were scheduled in advance, none were booty calls, he contacts me everyday but he isn’t acting really like a boyfriend and hasn’t asked for commitment. Now I feel like I should be still dating b/c I have seen him online at the site I met him on so I realized I really need to still be dating but I don’t know how to handle this without seeming like a flake myself.
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Are you still in touch with him? or has there been no contact? Can you give more info to help you? I would like to offer advice but need more specifics.
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