Knowledge is one of the most attractive things we can have.
Sometimes knowledge comes in the form of what we know, other times in the form of things we can do and skills we have.
We live in a world where it’s become more necessary than ever to have eclectic knowledge and diverse skillsets.
Men are running out of ways to feel special
It’s not enough that we make money or have status, because women today already have these things.
We have to work a little harder to be interesting
We cannot afford NOT to be a Renaissance man or woman with a variety of skillsets, art forms and knowledge bases.
Knowledge and skill is a good look on anyone – as is curiosity which inevitably leads us to these things.
And attraction is sustained for longer periods of time when you’re able to keep surprising your partner.
Challenge:
Go and learn about or study something that you have no real need for. Just do something new.
When you’ve decided, leave a comment about the thing you’ve picked. Then come back and leave another at the end of the week to let me know how you’ve gotten on! Do you feel more interesting? Do you have a story because of it?
Be sure to let me know as you’ll be giving me ideas for what I can go on to do next myself!
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Hi Matthew, I recently came across your channel on YouTube and I find your insights fascinating.
After watching the above video I can tell you there is nothing more attractive than a man who has knowledge of more than just sport or cars. I have a high IQ (not bragging at all) and some guys I have dated have found my intelligence intimidating because of this and I now only mention going to university or education if he brings it up. How can I date a guy when my brains are not what interest him?
Hi Matthew; First time I have seen your videos. I presume you are targeting a younger audience. As a mature woman, previously married for over 30 years, am new to the dating scene. I found your sharing informative and thought provoking. Some good tips…. thanks
Thanks for the latest video. I couldn’t agree more there’s nothing more attractive than a multi-faceted individual.
This summer I want to lean to kayak and also speak Spanish.
Hey there. Big fan! I was just wondering if you know the song Ne Yo – Miss Independent? :D And what are your thoughts about it? Should a woman make a man feel like a man, make him feel needed (like you said in some of your videos)? Or should she focus on being independent, taking into consideration the point Ne Yo makes in his song, that there is something very attractive about an independent woman?
I’m going to learn ballroom dancing – something that I’ve always wanted to do…
Hey, thanks for the vid, great tip to life in general, that probably also could go to guys who have a “lacking” personality.
I have been a inspiration seeker my whole life, and I am defintelly an interesting person. I’ve lived in 4 different countries, I speak 5 different languages (currently learning Dutch and for hobby Irish), I played the flute when I was younger, I’ve done several different martial arts (MMA, GJJ, Kickboxing, Boxing, Judo and Takewondo), several different dances (modern, street jazz, bugg, breakdancing, hiphop), I have a passion for Photoraphy and ocaisionally take some freelance jobs, I studied 3D and animation, currently doing a master in Games, I love writing and have a few blogs, I climb from time to time, I just started learning fencing and a few new programming languages, I love art, history, science. My world is filled to the rank with so much fun, and I love learning new stuff. I have no hard times finding guys that like me and find me interesting. I have broken a few hearts, and I have had my heart broken at least once. My problem is more how to find guys that are smarter than me (I consider myself a sepiosexual), and can challenge me intellectually. But I don’t stress over it. I’m happy being single (been for a year now), and I am pretty sure the right guy would eventually pop up in my life.
I have read three books on how to read body language. It’s made watching your videos much more interesting! ;-)
I fifind your video interesting my teacher has a crach on me and his trying to approach me but im not that open to guys and i like him I’ve never been in a relationship now i feel nervous around him i feel unsecured im preparing my doctora on pharmacy he’s above me so i kind of feel weaker and he’s to hot for me but watching your video im pointing out my specifics as you said i can cook very well different cuisine also talk 5 languages sing dance design draw im pretty popular now i think he thinks im to hot for him cause im confident smart not that available for him recently i started to change my body language like smiling more joking be social more i think that’s what motivate him whats make bim attractive to me i used to think im out of his ligue i kept wondering what’s attracted him to me between hundreds of girls i think he’s just scared of rejection as i mentioned he’s my teacher it would be awkward im confused i hope you share your thoughts about my problem thank you
I learned to Tango in my dance class this week :)
Hi Matt,
if I have to choose only one thing I’ve learned this week.. I’d probably go this one: I’ve never known that we as humans learn most of social skills by the age of 2! wow.. that’s a lot to learn in such a short term :) What do you think?
Hi Matt, thanks for all wonderful videos I was not a good conversationalist but now am confident in conversing with people as I learnt a lot from videos.
Hi matt…i love your videos….but im still looking for one that would help a single mom like me get back in the game:)….matt….are women with kids out of the game for good?what scares guys so much about the mommy-thing?
well to comment to your video I started learning new languages, and so far I can speak Arabic, French, English, Turkish and I’m a beginner in Spanish. Moreover, I’m doing some deep researches on how the brain works .
now, there’s something KILLING my curiosity, and I can’t wait to have an answer for it, YOUR ANSWER for it . Since you are so excellent and an expert on relationships, u must have enough values, standards and particular rules when it comes to finding your Mrs Right and building a long term relationship with your soulmate , cause let’s be honest a woman cant be provided with all the tips and instructions you give otherwise she’ll become a robot, or try to be an ideal or perfect person while there’s no such thing. so I’m wondering emm , till now did u find your Miss Right with all the instructions and advices you show on your “gettheguy process” ? :D ;)
P.S. with all my respect to you Mathew, it’s just that I’m wondering abt this and I’m eagerly and impatiently waiting for your answer.
My name is Kenya and I live in New York City , I watch your videos all the time. It is not common for a man to literally tell you the correct ways of getting a good guy, like actually giving woman the key to one day finding their soulmate .
I definitely agree with your idea that we do need to Expend our minds because it is definitely a good way to start or even have a conversation with someone. For example, sometimes when I am not doing anything I go on YouTube and I type ” retro report” and it basically has all of these stories that are true but nobody pays attention to them so I take the story that I find and I look more into it because the more interested that I am in the topic the more likely I am to learn more. Other things I do such as playing the violin or going running everyday in the morning because for some reason I always find a story to tell when I go jogging in the morning , it is either I seen the most strangest animal or that I seen the most nicest looking car as I am jogging and for some reason I would feel the need to have a conversation about that because I think knowing about cars even just a little bit could help as well . However , most importantly I think that a woman should only go out of her ways to learn things because she wants to and not because she wants to impress guys. And also that I appreciate your work it’s very helpful.
Thank you for your time.
Hi Matt,
Thank you for sharing all of your knowledge, it helps me everyday. I appreciate that this topic is not just limited to just relationships as I have found way to utilize it for work as well! I always enjoy challenging myself to learn something new, but this video encouraged me to venture out of my norm. I have begun to learn about Options Trading! A lot of content which I’m still learning to understand but I’m enjoying every minute of it.
Thanks
Drea
Hey just wanted to say your amazing! Super smart and everything you say has given me a better understanding of what I’ve been doing wrong, well not wrong just not truly understanding it, but the way you phrase things has given me a better perspective, this is in general. I watched loads of your youtube videos last night!! Just fascinating how our minds work.
Anyways keep up the hard work! (Clearly you’very done this for years now, kind of late in finding out ) And thank you for all those youtube videos!
hi thanks for the advice its given me more info to work with.
im in my 40,s now and things have changed a lot since teen years , but its still ok , find i am better on paper than text .
HI MATTHEW AM STEPHANE I LOVE THE FACT YOU HAVE THESE SKILL AND YOUR PASSING ON TO US,,MAKING AND HELPING US GROW ALL TOGTHERS AS ONE BIG FAMILY AND BESIDE YOU ARE BLESSED AT IT AND WHAT YOU DO,ITHANK YOU ,NOW I HAVE SOMEONE THAT IS BEEN IN THE FIELD OF DATING ,AND ME WELL NOT JUST SO,,TO TELL YOU I BECAME REBEL ABOUT SEEKING NICE BEAUTIFUL ATTRACTIVE WOMAN BUT HAVING BAD AND WORST RELATION EXPERIENCES GOT ME PUSH AWAY AND DECIDED TO BE WELL JUST ME AGAIN AND THAT I WAS GONNA BE SELF SUFFICENT I HAVE A QUESTION AM 44 IVE BEEN MORE HURT IN SO MANY WAYS POSSIBLE,NOT BECAUSE I WAS A RUDE SELF CENTER,EGO-CENTRIC,IN FACT IVE ALWAYS WAS TO SWEET AND GENERIOUS AND SOFT AND CARING AND GIVING THAT I WAS TOLD I WAS TO SOFT AND NEED TO BE A MAN,WHICH I AM IN MY OWN WAYS WAS ALL I EVER KNEW FROM GROWING UP WITH STRICK YET SOFT LOVING PARENTS BESIDE THAT I TOLD MYSELF THAT I DONT NEED TO CHANGED IF THEY DONT LIKE ME,,WELL SORRY,,,ANY WAY,,LOLL BACK TO MY QUESTION NOW 5 YRS ALONE,,AM INTERESTED IN GETTING IN MEETING WOMAN IN MY COMFORT ZONE AGAIN ,IVE BEEN WATCHING AT LEAST 20 VIDS YOU MADE,AND I STILL FIND PROBLEM TRUSTING THEM AGAIN,AND FEAR OF REJECTION OVER AND OVER, BEING PUSH ,AND HOW MUCH MORE TIME AND EFFORT AND ENERGY TO FIND THE RIGHT ONE WHO WILL BE PROBABLY HMMM,,NEVER HAVE THE CHANCE TO MEET HER. HOPE YOU CAN HELP ME ,,SORRY IF AM ALL OVER THE PLACE,,ITS HARD TO SAY AND TALKING ABOUT SOMEONE YOU DONT KNOW IN A SHORT AMOUNT OF TIME AND SPACE TO HELP YOU ,,FROM WERE I COME FROM ,BUT ILL BE MORE IN DEPT WHEN EVER WE HAVE A CHANCE TO SAY MORE,,LOLL HOPE TO CHAT WITH YOU SOON AND TAKE CARE UNTIL THEN MY FRIEND
Hi matt
Love your videos
Only discoveres you a few days ago and im hooked.
How do i ask you about a specific situation of mine? Do i just comment on here?
Debbie, this man is grand. Just call him up and hire him!