There will come a time in your relationship with the guy your sure is ‘The One’ when you want nothing more to take the next step, get engaged and continue the rest of your life with him by your side.
However tradition has it that you have to wait for your man to propose so it seems your destined to become one of those girlfriends that gaze at him meaningfully during your friends weddings, walk painfully slowly past jewellers and ask him what he would call his children.
Well it really doesn’t have to be like this!
I cant stress how important it is not to try these methods of getting your guy to propose
a) A man proposing under pressure will be a man likely to bolt down the aisle on the day, when he realises he wasn’t ready.
b) Pressuring him means he is more likely to bolt before the proposal has taken place as he is feeling like you have been trying to trap him.
Most men do want to marry the woman they love. They do dream of settling down and having children. But it needs to be their idea. They don’t want to be scared by your talk of saving for a big wedding and what age you just start trying for children. As soon as the idea of getting married become something less like its in his control and more like something your threatening him with the less likely it is to happen.
I don’t believe in there being any tried and tested methods of getting your guy to propose as it will only happen and last if its meant to be
But you can help by reminding him how happy you would be together;
1) Carry on having fun together,remind him your the kind of girl he would want to spend the rest of his life with, the girl he can have a laugh with, have great sex with and get silly on tequila with, your not an old married couple yet and you don’t want him to see you that way. Nagging him about going to the pub and spending nights in watching ‘Who wants to be a Millionaire’ will only discourage him.
2) Don’t be afraid to talk about a future that doesn’t see you two getting married, if its the opposite of what he wants it will spur him into proposing. I don’t mean you have to threaten him I mean talking hypothetically about a quite unlikely fantasy future that gets him thinking.
3) Talk about the future in terms of exciting trips abroad or things you would like to achieve together like learning a new language or financial achievements you aspire too instead of discussing mortgages and children.
Remember: He wants to propose to you, the woman he fell in love with, not bridezilla. But catching the bouquet at your friends wedding won’t hurt…
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Great post, I think a proposal is a natural step forward for a couple and will only happen when both parties are ready however having said that, i do believe that things can quickly get stale so it is important to ensure that you do try and discuss things and have a few chats to make it clear where you both want the relationship to move
Totally agree. I guy likes to feel like he chose everything about his life. When it comes to marriage, he wants to feel like he plunged into the forest and emerged with his very own unicorn. Talking about a future in which you’re not married is a great idea, because your gentle push will trigger his pull, and he’ll feel like he needs to grab you while he can.
how do you mean talk about a future in which you are not married? can i have an example so i know how?
I resent the idea of getting a guy to propose. Shouldn’t a healthy couple be able to have the conversation about marriage and children in an open, straightforward way? It seems to me a natural thing to talk about after a while. Of course the language you use and the overall atmosphere of the relationship and the conversation will influence the willingness to commit as far as marriage (for women too, btw). But these are supposed to be things you work on anyway, not specifically with the aim of making him propose – aren’t they?
Matt, I love your articles, but this one is seriously immature, and I can’t help but think you’ve outsourced. Why in heck would you suggest in (a) that “this will make a man bolt down the aisle the day of the wedding”. That statistically, never happens. Less hyberbole is appreciated.
Hi mathew ,
In our tradition the man comes with his mother to engage the girl without knowing or seeing each other before ,so if the guy liked the girl he will come again and they will get to know each other then the engagment ..so i want to know if there a way to make the guy come again !! ?!
I met a lovely man online avd we back me friends and l noticed he was unable to have sex only twice cos of his lack of labido. I tried to understand but was difficult we said we loved each other but when he found out l was three yes older as l am 60 he 57 he didn’t want to carry oon but we have remained friends but without cuddles r any loving in a per ons way. I was so hurt and walked out but he still calls abd texts me and are friends and go places together. What happened as l am very sad. I am attractive fit and heath for my age and l would be grateful for any advice.
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I been dating my boyfriend for 7 years and nothing has happened. We don’t have kids neither Witch we both in the same page but I feel at least I would of gotten engaged by now . Sometimes I just lost hope and I’m not sure what to do .
I have dated my bf for 8 years, also no kids. I want to be engaged to him but I don’t want to force him into it. It gets a little embarrassing saying you’re bf/gf after so long and it’s not easy watching all your younger classmates and friends get married after only dating a year or two. The nice thing is though, that since I am older I can save my own money, make more informed decisions, and have fun pinteresting ideas until he is finally ready, which he says will be in the next few years so I am not too worried. If your bf is avoiding talking about getting married like the plague then that may be a bigger problem. Otherwise like the article says, be happy and have fun together so he WANTS to marry you.
I happened to meet my childhood friend after so many years in my hometown. We met for the first time when I was on the way to my French class we exchanged contact info, kept in touch, started to hang out a lot during my college hours, we fell for each other at the same time too, but after I completed my college, I stopped going anywhere out because I joined a software engineering class and the timings were just not suitable for us to meet up. It was one night, that he called me at 2 in the night and he sounded very tense with himself when I called him back he said, “There is this girl who was talking to me on the way to work in the bus and I fell for her. I think the relationship between both of us will not work. We don’t have that time as we had before, because you get free on some other time and I get free at some other time, so I’m sorry I hope you understand, but we will keep in touch.” The moment he said that I was like what the hell. I was totally in tears. And so I cant afford to lose him. Can you give me some advice and tips to get him back, because I cant imagine myself with anyone else, I just cant afford to lose him. Can I get a reply soon because its too hard to handle right now.
You are completely and understandably distraught. It never feels good to lose someone you love or feel rejected. The hard truth is though, that you can’t make someone love you. If you did manage to lure him back into the relationship it would break again sooner or later because his heart is not into it. You need ice cream, good crys, watch Bridget Jones diary, and in two months you will be OVER him because I am also in the tech industry and there is an array of single sweethearts dying to meet the new woman in the office.
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