Comments on: Why the F*#k Do Men Always Come Back?! https://matthewhussey.com/blog/why-the-fk-do-men-always-come-back/ Have The Love Life You Want Sat, 02 Nov 2024 00:24:39 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.1 By: Angie van Lingen https://matthewhussey.com/blog/why-the-fk-do-men-always-come-back/#comment-1231595 Sat, 02 Nov 2024 00:24:39 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=50458#comment-1231595 Honestly they can come back due to actually being in love with you and not realizing and processing their emotions until they lost something. Most people are like this, they take people and things for granted and advantage of.

]]> By: Threads bay https://matthewhussey.com/blog/why-the-fk-do-men-always-come-back/#comment-1196516 Thu, 24 Aug 2023 09:34:11 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=50458#comment-1196516 I don’t know why the f*#k do men always come back, but I’m glad they do!

]]> By: Carolann https://matthewhussey.com/blog/why-the-fk-do-men-always-come-back/#comment-1164061 Mon, 21 Mar 2022 16:00:22 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=50458#comment-1164061 Why does someone finish with you. Walk out your relationship. Block you on social media..
THEN unblock you, message you on your birthday – which with others including his kids he forgets..
Baring in mind two years before you got back together he admitted he had watched you on social media….

This guy has been in and out of my life since we were teenagers. Married three times, got divorced to be with me then when he wasn’t getting his own way – he bailed out….
Broke me so badly I didn’t want to live…

What is he doing????

]]> By: Esther marie https://matthewhussey.com/blog/why-the-fk-do-men-always-come-back/#comment-1164057 Mon, 21 Mar 2022 15:11:38 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=50458#comment-1164057 My ex let me go about 5 months ago we still talk but he says he does not love me and dies not feel the same way I feel but he sends me pictures of him take it he is 56 and I’m 49 years old he says he wants to try somebody else so that he can be happy I had gave him space to be with someone else before when he left me the first time and that lady was cheating on him while she was with him that so called relationship only lasted 2 weeks then she ghosted him because he lives off ssi and works one day a week at some rehab center and volunteers as a ranger but dies not get paid for it so he lives on a low income because of his crones disease and I have been there for him I was even willing to give him part of my liver he still up to this day says he does not feel the same about me so he says I met someone been talking to him but I have no connection with him like I do with my ex but my ex told me last night to go for it and date this other guy but when I Said okay he starts texting me more with pic of tinka my favorite puppy in the world which is his dog! And pic of him working at a ranger activity in chandler AZ helping police guide traffic then I said good Night and he texts me which I did not respond please help what should I do i want to let him go I’m hurt and heart broken don’t know if he is playing games with me I have lost the love of my life in war Ling ago and finally met this ex I have only been in 1 other dating relationship before this guy and after losing the love of my life to war in Afghanistan please help me to understand this dating stuff its hard and I really like my ex but all he does is sit at home when he don’t do his ranger meeting or activity or his 1 day job is he stays up all night playing video games sleeps all day I don’t know what to do or what is wrong with him and why he chooses to date other woman and as he says he flavors them to chocolate or vanilla is what he told me but he says he likes having me as a friend what does that mean so confused and just such a weird thing so I would appreciate the help thanks sincerely Esther Marie

]]> By: Belinda https://matthewhussey.com/blog/why-the-fk-do-men-always-come-back/#comment-1164045 Mon, 21 Mar 2022 11:11:04 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=50458#comment-1164045 Thank you so much for this video Matthew. It really speaks to me. Married 25 yrs, I moved out 12 months ago with 2 kids for good reasons. It was not easy but by God’s grace, things worked out and I also stumbled upon your Virtual Retreat!
Within 6 months I received a 3am call from him crying over the phone. I was worried for his mental well-being. Managed to convince him to see a counsellor but he thought I agreed to marital counselling together. Fortunately the counsellor rang me up to check and I said ‘no, I’m not ready to do marital counselling with him. But I’m concerned about his well-being and thinks he will benefit from your help, first’
Now another 6 months down the track.. You said
1. Let him in slowly, very slowly
Question: Is 12 months slow enough?

2. Look for evidence of change.
Dilemma: I see some evidence but also reversion to old patterns.. how do I know the change is sustainable? I have changed too , for better, (not bitter I hope)
Question: Should I agree to see marital counsellor together? If so, what are my standards?

3. Set my standards clearly…
Yes I need to work on this.. I feel so much of my time and energy taken up by this relationship; when there are many other things I’d like to grow and work on.

I’m a returnee to your Retreat. Unfortunately with work and no more lockdown, I had to miss chunks of it.. hoping to catch up on replays

]]> By: Kirsty https://matthewhussey.com/blog/why-the-fk-do-men-always-come-back/#comment-1164024 Mon, 21 Mar 2022 06:37:08 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=50458#comment-1164024 My ex has been turning up at my house, because he was on block and I wasn’t visible to him or contactable. I listened to what he had to say and after a few times of coming to see me he broke my barriers down. I gave him a chance and spent time with him, but soon found out that it was all lies (the ghosting started again) and he was actually still with his new girlfriend. I told her what had been going on and that he had said he wanted me back and had been seeing me, to which she broke the news ‘we’re off on holiday this weekend and moving in together’. I feel sick and stupid that I let him do this to me (after his multiple cheating before). anyone even thinking of letting men back in please be extremely cautious because this has been very damaging to me. I’m now trying to heal once more – but this damage is deeper because it was own fault for even listening in the first place. This man is extremely toxic (text book narcissist).

]]> By: Anne Elizabeth https://matthewhussey.com/blog/why-the-fk-do-men-always-come-back/#comment-1164022 Mon, 21 Mar 2022 05:48:27 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=50458#comment-1164022 I started dating a coworker in Oct 2021 after starting the job in July 2021. First time dating a coworker, first dating experience since getting sober, first time I shared that I have Major Depression Disorder and former sexual abuse plus, it was over 3 years since I had been with anyone. In Nov he texted that he needed time to see if was ready for a relationship, I had not even brought up the conversation, then we started dating again in mid December. 2 weeks ago he texted me again that he was too self-centered & no where near being ready for any type of romantic relationship. Again I hadn’t brought anything up but apparently my “behavior” was overbearing- if pop by his office in the am to say hi & text him after work but we hadn’t been together for 2 weeks before he ended it. We met for some “closure” where I said I wasn’t feeling things either because I was in one of the depression lows & not feeling myself. We never said let’s be friends or just coworkers. He texted me as soon as I got home & I replied & he responded but I didn’t again. This was a week ago and then he emailed me some jokes in St Patrick’s Day with a note “I came up to your office to see how you’re doing. Just to say hi in person. Hope all is well.” He did stop by & was flagging his arms to get my attention but was in a meeting & just waved. I haven’t replied to the email. Want to and try to establish a friendship (I don’t want anything romantic with him) and I really miss our conversations but I’m not sure if it’s a good idea or it’s too soon or he’s testing me and I want to have some respect.

]]> By: Sara https://matthewhussey.com/blog/why-the-fk-do-men-always-come-back/#comment-1164015 Mon, 21 Mar 2022 04:23:06 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=50458#comment-1164015 In reply to Ruhi.

It’s not love. Love heals not breaks people apart. This man is a narc, 20 years is a long time. Find someone who cherishes you. You deserve it. Block. Check out videos on healing CPTSD, removing yourself from Trauma Bonds… and hang in there. I understand how you feel and I urge you to love yourself as I love you enough to spend time replying to you on a busy Monday morning. You are worth it. You are enough. You are incredible. Release him, free yourself, and you will find that goodness comes to those open to it.

]]> By: Ruhi https://matthewhussey.com/blog/why-the-fk-do-men-always-come-back/#comment-1164007 Mon, 21 Mar 2022 01:54:40 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=50458#comment-1164007 It’s been 20 years and my ex keeps coming back again n again. My entire healing process goes bonkers. Now he is back saying his marriage is over and he wants to spend rest of his life with me. I know I need to block him right away but I love him and he knows that.

]]> By: Majda https://matthewhussey.com/blog/why-the-fk-do-men-always-come-back/#comment-1164004 Mon, 21 Mar 2022 01:16:27 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=50458#comment-1164004 In reply to Layla.

The problem is as you said you’ll always be there for him and he knows that. You shouldn t be there for someone who doesn t prioritize you similarly. Invest in those who invest in you, and I mean actions, not words. Good luck!

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