Comments on: What Makes a Man Suddenly Commit?

By: Lynne

Lynne — Wed, 10 Jul 2024 17:04:05 +0000

Ladies and gentlemen! This is all very good advice, however, before you put any of it into action you need to ask yourself a few things:
1.) Is this a person that has explicitly stated they are not ready and willing to commit? If not, move along quickly.
2.) How well do you know this person? Coming in too strong in the beginning will scare most people away.
3.) Is it just a crush? This is a BIG one. When we have a crush on someone, we put them on a pedestal. We ignore all of their faults and red-flags. We create a perfect vision of them in our head and think of them as perfect which breeds resentment and the desire to try and change them. Then reality sets in. A lot of ugly comes with that.

By: Olga

Olga — Sun, 24 Jul 2022 17:57:21 +0000

Hello.
I appreciate most of your advices, but the second part of this video seems plain dangerous to me.
One should definitely avoid at all costs people who can t commit. The probability for such a person to change is much lower than the one of winning at the lottery.
People with commitment issues get worse in time, as their trauma goes deeper with each new superficial relation they get into, their brain gets even more addicted to not commiting and their way of avoiding meaningful/deep relationships just becomes their way of being, becomes them.
One should definitely avoid such persons, as a relationship therewith damages a lot. (for instance the rate of heart attacks is higher for persons coupled with avoiding/desorganised partners, also known for their commitment issues; not the mention the fact that commitment issues usually come along with a lot of other issues).
All my best,
Olga

By: Scarlet

Scarlet — Tue, 19 Jul 2022 16:05:38 +0000

Wow, thank you so much Matthew and Stephen Hussey for providing all this helpful information with your compassion in this video and your new guide! You have saved me! I really needed this right now. It gave me clarity. I’ve been struggling this past month questioning what to do. I actually wondered what you would say in my situation and had tried at one point to find out the answer online. Recently I connected on all levels with a man who I’ve known for years, but didn’t know on a personal level. It seemed like we both wanted the same thing in a relationship and were moving forward. When we connected he had told me he had been taking a break from dating to focus on himself and to get rid of his exes stuff (literally and probably also figuratively) because he felt his life was too complicated to bring someone into. After about 4 weeks, some things shifted in his life and he realized that he still does not feel ready to be in a relationship. I’ve been questioning whether to stay in touch or not. It’s been hard because I feel like we could have a really great relationship if his life were more settled and I feel like I want to support him through this time. I’ve realized though that it’s not been great for my own energy and emotional health right now. This gave me clarity of what I need to tell him and how. I really appreciate as you said your practical and easy to follow guidance, hopefully it will be easy enough to follow through. I just need to have the courage to actually do it. I’m hoping that by writing this I will be more committed, because what you said about liking myself more and valuing my time and energy I think is important.

By: Beryl

Beryl — Mon, 18 Jul 2022 09:41:08 +0000

I think it’s more like the scene in “Sex and the City.” A man is like a cab. He’s driving around and then suddenly one day puts his light on … and marries the next female rider. :) It’s timing. He has to be in the mindset to be looking for a long-term partner.

By: Frances

Frances — Mon, 18 Jul 2022 05:37:25 +0000

He’s stoped talking f no reason

By: Carla Hoch

Carla Hoch — Sun, 17 Jul 2022 18:13:27 +0000

Thank you for the encouraging video. I’m in a relationship that has stalled. One moment he’s saying I want you and the next he is pulling back.