Comments on: What’s The Matter With Him?

By: Randousha

Randousha — Sat, 07 Apr 2012 13:55:52 +0000

Hi Matthew !
I am 20 years old. I am attracted to a guy who is 25 . We have been friends for 6 years now. Two months ago we went together to a fancy restaurant and he payed. Then after few weeks I asked him to help me with my speech. He had a paper due that night but He wanted to finish my speech and everything and he didn’t say anything about his paper until we were done I told him that we took most of his time working on my thing, but he said do not worry I still have time .
Last week we were suppose to hangout with my and his roommates . my roommate couldn’t come so he asked his roommate to bring a girl with him , and he payed for me again . then at the end when he wanted to drop everybody off . He dropped the girl , his roommate then he took me home . It was the first time that he calls me by my nickname. Every time we hangout he says that we should do it again , but he doesn’t call me or text me to go out until both of us deiced or if I tell him that I have nothing on that day.
I think he likes me , but I am scared to flirt . I just don’t want to come across in a bad way . He is a quiet guy who doesn’t flirt allot , he is fun , and quiet. He is also so mature ! His personality has all I need , and He matches the list that I have for my future .
I don’t know much about his old dating life because we never really talked about this thing .
I really want to make sure that he likes me and I want to see him more often. We go to the same collage but he is a graduate student , so I never see him .
What shall I do to know if he likes me or not?
What shall I do to see him more and keep in touch without letting him loose interest in me?

By: Monika

Monika — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 09:05:25 +0000

In reply to Elizabeth AND Matt

I’ve had the same experience (both of them) with one guy, that we were together for 4 years. He also made me feel crazy in the the way Elizabeth is talking about. But I never thought of him as a cheating type, because he simply wasn’t. :) We also ended up almost every time at the orals. There was a simple reason for all of it – he just took me for granted. Now that I look back, I realise that (like with every problem in a relationship) it took two to create that problem. It was his fault that he became lazy and put no effort in our relationship and my fault because I led him to that and let him do that.
I broke up with him, not because of this (this is something, that can be solved), but because, excuse the language, he was simply an irresponsable and unmature loser. :)
I realised that I deserve better than that and I advise Elizabeth and other girls that end up with orals, to be more selfconfident and demand of a man to put in a relationship as much effort as you do, otherwise he is just not worthy of you.
Recently I’ve met a couple that was together for 10 years and they still seemed like they are freshly in love. I didn’d know that even existed! But obviously it does, you just have to meet the right one…:)
So if you think, he’s the right one, put more effort in your relationship, work on your problems and don’t give up, maybe he’ll notice that and start to appreciate you more. But if you think, he isn’t the right one, start appreciate YOURSELF more and just simply aim higher at what you want out of a guy. I do that now, and I’m telling you, the results are amasing, I didn’t know that that kind of guys exist! :)
I wish you all good luck in your love lifes and don’t forget – LOVE YOURSELF AND YOUR LIFE FIRST BEFORE ANYTHING ELSE!

Monika ;)

By: Elizabeth D

Elizabeth D — Thu, 07 Jul 2011 06:36:47 +0000

I think my boyfriends cheating , he always hides his phone , He ignores my calls , he looks at other women in front of me , why wont he admit it or just break up with me . He makes me feel like I’m crazy . Am I or is my gut right ? what do you think ??