I am 25, and my boyfriend is 36. When we go out he’s very open about which girls he is attracted to, acting in the same way I imagine men act when they are with other men (stares, comments, suggestive facial expressions or gestures). His male friends (even when I’m around) act in this way as well, and I think part of his behavior is a zen to prove he has not been changed or tamed. Though I respect his honesty (about not pretending like these attractions suddenly died the instant he met me), I find myself hurt when that same excitement is lost at home. I have tried walking around in enticing undies, texting naughty things to build up anticipation, pointing out how sexy I find his hair/arms/outfit/whatever, but it doesn’t yield the I-want-to-rip-your-clothes-off reaction that I want. When I approached him about it, he said that his sex drive has diminished greatly with age, and I admit I have no real reason or evidence to suggest otherwise, but (ever the perfectionist)I feel like I could still do something to make the situation (for both of us) better. Any suggestions?
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