Comments on: If You Hear THIS From Your Long-Distance Partner . . . RUN!

By: Sydney Mckanic

Sydney Mckanic — Sun, 23 Jun 2024 13:26:31 +0000

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By: Cecilia

Cecilia — Sun, 07 Apr 2024 17:25:43 +0000

I think you are really worth gold! You gave me so much insight on distance relationships.
Thank you

By: Deborah Durham

Deborah Durham — Sat, 06 Apr 2024 20:17:14 +0000

Matthew, it may be because I am
older (75) and never married and no kids and had a demanding career and now mostly retired and I treasure my solo time, but for me I think a long distance relationship could be really great. I recently reconnected with a former beau in another city and the first question I asked him when it seemed like we were going to move forward was “Are we exclusive?” To which he responded emphatically, “Well I am!” So while we are both in very different places (not geographically) than we were the first time around, and I am monogamous and seeking same, I see it as exploring if could I really be with this guy for the long run. We are dating exclusively. There are some issues I am feeling my way around to see how we can negotiate differences, but he makes me feel like a million bucks. If anything, he’s a little over the top lavishing me with compliments and I am the avoidant. Time will tell.

By: Martha P Sanchez

Martha P Sanchez — Fri, 05 Apr 2024 23:27:57 +0000

REALLY GIRL! Wth…. don’t ever do that again! If Matthew will not say it I will. Don’t you ever give the power to anyone to make you feel inferior, devalued, anxious, and – or less than. Please know your worth because if you don’t value yourself nobody else will. You lived that awful experience, hopefully you learned from it, and you move on. I’m not Matthew or counselor but I read and listen to his videos.
Best of Luck !

By: Puleng

Puleng — Tue, 02 Apr 2024 10:28:29 +0000

Thank you for the email Matthew. This lady is really me. He is full of mindgames. And i asked him few days ago when is he going to funish playing he told me that he is not in a hurry because he is not going anywhere. The following day he greeted me and i greeted him back, after that i blocked him and deleted his numbers. We are 1 year doing this ride of a distance relationship. I thought i had to take back my power and stop being
played like that.
Thank you

By: Lily

Lily — Mon, 01 Apr 2024 06:19:28 +0000

Thank you Mathew so much for this video, when you were talking about that woman I felt like you were talking about me, as I have been in the exact situation as she is for years already, everytime I have tried to have a decent conversation about where we stand I always got Rabbits and Flowers in return. What you say is so clear to my mind but the heart does not seem to understand, so we really need to get our power back to make things clear to our hearts as well. Than you.

By: MAL

MAL — Sun, 31 Mar 2024 21:22:49 +0000

In reply to Dells. You are so giving and generous. Take care

By: Grace

Grace — Sun, 31 Mar 2024 16:29:43 +0000

I met an a someone last summer in another country, one that I visit twice a year and where I have family. We had an amazing few days and then I was off to other locations during my 3 week stay. I knew that we came from different worlds, but I thought that we could both appreciate one another for those differences. We kept in touch, and after a few months I invited him to visit me in the US. He was relunctant at first, but accepted. I purchased the ticket, but the communication didn’t increase, it was still texts and not daily, as I felt that I couldn’t ask for anything more. His trip was still a few months away and so I asked him what the situation was… whether we were dating other people or going to stay exclusive until he came. He responded with “Are we in highschool?” Which I took to mean that we weren’t exclusive. Which broke my heart. Then he told me that he wasn’t hooking up with anyone, so I was happy. Still communication was infrequent. He didn’t like to facetime and he worked alot. Two months before the trip I was going to cancel as I told him that my needs weren’t being met. He couldn’t even give me the bare minimum. We Facetimed once in 4 months. He told me things would get better after December. He also told me that he wasn’t a big communicator, didn’t like to talk over the phone, but hearing from me made him happy. I was ready to cancel, but then felt bad, because I knew he was looking forward to coming here. Needless to say, the communication increased, we FT more and spoke daily, but I still knew very little about him. Not enough to finance a trip to the US to see me. When I offered to change plans and come to his country, a place I am familiar with, and wouldn’t need his guidance or depend on him, he seemed disappointed. Needless to say, I kept going with this avoidant. When I asked him how he felt about long term relationships his answer was “I’m not negative.” I was like wtf am I doing with this guy?! I kept going, hoping things would get better and gave hime the benefit of the doubt. Anyway he arrived and I picked him up from the airport. I had waited 6 months to see him and had hopes and feelings for him. I also created this fantasy about what our life could potentially be like. PS. When you ask, Matthew, “How do they make you feel?” The answer was always anxious. I couldn’t sleep at night for months. I felt like I was on a rollercoaster and the hope was that when he got here, he would open up and things would get better. Well when he got here, I kept telling him that I loved him. I know that sounds crazy, but I meant it in a way that I cared about him deeply. Of course I did, I planned and financed a trip for him to come to the US. He freaked out. Told me he felt pressured and was uncomfortable. Out of the 12 days I planned, we spent 4 together. It was a disaster. I still to this day don’t know who he is and he of course has blocked me and never wants to speak to me again.

By: Grace

Grace — Sun, 31 Mar 2024 16:27:04 +0000

I met an a man last summer in another country, one that I visit twice a year and where I have family. We had an amazing few days and then I was off to other locations during my 3 week stay. I knew that we came from different worlds, but I thought that we could both appreciate one another for those differences. We kept in touch, and after a few months I invited him to visit me in the US. He was relunctant at first, but accepted. I purchased the ticket, but the communication didn’t increase, it was still texts and not daily, as I felt that I couldn’t ask for anything more. His trip was still a few months away and so I asked him what the situation was… whether we were dating other people or going to stay exclusive until he came. He responded with “Are we in highschool?” Which I took to mean that we weren’t exclusive. Which broke my heart. Then he told me that he wasn’t hooking up with anyone, so I was happy. Still communication was infrequent. He didn’t like to facetime and he worked alot. Two months before the trip I was going to cancel as I told him that my needs weren’t being met. He couldn’t even give me the bare minimum. We Facetimed once in 4 months. He told me things would get better after December. He also told me that he wasn’t a big communicator, didn’t like to talk over the phone, but hearing from me made him happy. I was ready to cancel, but then felt bad, because I knew he was looking forward to coming here. Needless to say, the communication increased, we FT more and spoke daily, but I still knew very little about him. Not enough to finance a trip to the US to see me. When I offered to change plans and come to his country, a place I am familiar with, and wouldn’t need his guidance or depend on him, he seemed disappointed. Needless to say, I kept going with this avoidant. When I asked him how he felt about long term relationships his answer was “I’m not negative.” I was like wtf am I doing with this guy?! I kept going, hoping things would get better and gave hime the benefit of the doubt. Anyway he arrived and I picked him up from the airport. I had waited 6 months to see him and had hopes and feelings for him. I also created this fantasy about what our life could potentially be like. PS. When you ask, Matthew, “How do they make you feel?” The answer was always anxious. I couldn’t sleep at night for months. I felt like I was on a rollercoaster and the hope was that when he got here, he would open up and things would get better. Well when he got here, I kept telling him that I loved him. I know that sounds crazy, but I meant it in a way that I cared about him deeply. Of course I did, I planned and financed a trip for him to come to the US. He freaked out. Told me he felt pressured and was uncomfortable. Out of the 12 days I planned, we spent 4 together. It was a disaster. I still to this day don’t know who he is and he of course has blocked me and never wants to speak to me again.