Comments on: Freaking Out About Still Being Single??

By: Adau Rebecca

Adau Rebecca — Mon, 18 Jul 2022 11:08:44 +0000

I look for love for me in my life I neet your help please to fllow the one please

By: Florence Stenson

Florence Stenson — Mon, 11 Jul 2022 22:12:01 +0000

Hi i like what i heard i will try the last 3. Im a 57year old woman, married and divorce twice. Afraid of dating at my age.

By: Katka

Katka — Mon, 11 Jul 2022 19:51:30 +0000

In reply to Peggy Murphy. Peggy, thanks for sharing your story! I feel the underlying issue in your case is not as you yourself know the fear of rejection, in fact, it may be a fear of loosing him/your soulmate again (it may be something like If I find my soulmate, he'll die - even though it may sound weird and illogical). Try to free write what's in your mind around this (c.45 min). You may find your specific belief and say it bye-bye. Hope I helped a bit, enjoy the life

By: Bec

Bec — Sun, 10 Jul 2022 20:28:37 +0000

This is just brilliant. I have finally learned to love my own company at 49 years old. I was in a loveless marriage for 14 years and then jumped from relationship to relationship. Over the last year I have chosen to be single and work on myself. I’ve never been happier. There are no shortage of interested guys (despite me not actively looking for a partner) and I am not worried about when the right one will turn up in my life anymore. I’m enjoying every day and have lots of new interests (mountain biking, guitar, djing) and know I offer so much more to the right relationship than I did a year ago. Life is good just how it is and I’m excited to see what the future brings.

By: Tina

Tina — Sun, 10 Jul 2022 19:28:51 +0000

I don’t think the “still single” is only about comparison with others. It’s also a reflection as to where we’d like to be in life when, so more about your own expectations.
As women, we’ve also got an expiration date on becoming mothers. Some of us don’t want to be ‘older’ mummas (no judgements here) but would love to embark on that journey in our early 30s.
There’s a certain amount of grief we have to go through when our ow. expectations aren’t met, or when we have to give up being a mum altogether. I have numerous women friends who wanted to be mums but couldn’t because of the lack of a partner. They’re now in their 40s and we need to normalize talking about that loss that never was.

By: Peggy Murphy

Peggy Murphy — Sun, 10 Jul 2022 18:19:52 +0000

Hi Matthew. Thank you.
My situation is a little different, but that doesn’t matter. I am 58 years old. Looking through my life, starting in my mid-teens, I was always in a relationship, and found that creating a relationship was very easy. I was always treated well. At age 28, I married my “soulmate”, and we have 3 kids. Sadly, when I was 49, my husband developed a malignant brain tumor, and he died when I was 50. Of course I was devastated, but I ALWAYS had the perspective that I would connect with someone else when I felt ready. I met that someone only 6 months later, and within the next year we got engaged. But something was not right, and our relationship ended after 3 years. It’s easy for me to say that I was just not ready, but I’m not sure it’s that simple. Since then I’ve been in another serious relationship that I shut down, because he was the king of love bombing, and I got uncomfortable. I met someone else who seemed perfect, but we couldn’t make that one work either. I am frustrated with why relationships, which always came easily to me, are now a source of struggle for me. My issue now, is that I am very sad about not having a life partner now. I do not fear rejection, and in fact I have experienced almost no rejection in my life. Trying to stay patient that my next life partner actually does exist. Working now on improving some health issues, that will put me in a better position when he does pop up. Thank you for your insight and your encouragement.

By: Anthonette

Anthonette — Sun, 10 Jul 2022 17:38:14 +0000

I agree and I enjoyed my journey i realized that it is so good when you can pray and meditate you have peace of mind with yourself.

By: Julia

Julia — Sun, 10 Jul 2022 15:47:03 +0000

WOW Matthew, this speaks to me hugely! I’m single and 25, and am scared and anxious about being alone and that even if I meet someone at 30, that’s a bit late for someone who wants to start a family. And it bothers me when I see friends meeting people and have “lost” a friend or two because if their relationship and marriage. I’m going to copy down your points and really reflect on them when this fear rises up. #7 is one of my favorites if not the one.