Comments on: The Strange But Obvious Way To Sound Like A Smarter Person In Conversation https://matthewhussey.com/blog/the-strange-but-obvious-way-to-sound-like-a-smarter-person-in-conversation/ Have The Love Life You Want Sun, 19 Jul 2015 18:29:28 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.1 By: Margot https://matthewhussey.com/blog/the-strange-but-obvious-way-to-sound-like-a-smarter-person-in-conversation/#comment-509818 Sun, 19 Jul 2015 18:29:28 +0000 http://www.gettheguy.co.uk/?p=14934#comment-509818 You should know who said, “l know that I know nothing”. Just remember that.
The very fact you constantly mention the books you’ve read, how much you read, and your academic life suggests you are trying hard to prove yourself. Stop it. Wise people just are. They don’t need to mention it. Knowledge isn’t a synonym of wisdom.
Trying hard to prove yourself was one of the reasons why l lost interest in your posts.
You’re very young still, so l assume this is a phase that you will grow out of as you head to your 30s. Hopefully. Arrogance is a turn off. Be generous about your knowledge, just don’t wear it on your chest like a badge of honour. It isn’t.

]]> By: Victoria https://matthewhussey.com/blog/the-strange-but-obvious-way-to-sound-like-a-smarter-person-in-conversation/#comment-506264 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 19:44:30 +0000 http://www.gettheguy.co.uk/?p=14934#comment-506264 Humbleness and humility are excellent traits in people who already have a reputation for being highly intelligent or accomplished. But when mere mortals try to imitate the great, they risk being discounted and dismissed.

In my experience, women must be particularly careful about being modest. When an assertive man occasionally says “I don’t know,” it provides a favorable contrast with his normal demeanor. When a highly accomplished woman admits to ignorance in some matter, a common reaction is “I knew she was not THAT smart.”

This dichotomy is very unfortunate and it’s slowly disappearing as more women prove their competence. But ignoring it can be dangerous.

Victoria

]]> By: Haiho https://matthewhussey.com/blog/the-strange-but-obvious-way-to-sound-like-a-smarter-person-in-conversation/#comment-505667 Mon, 06 Jul 2015 23:43:01 +0000 http://www.gettheguy.co.uk/?p=14934#comment-505667 I remember my last year in school, I had to give a book presentation (I still wonder at myself why I chose such a badshit book like ‘the blinding’ by Elias Canetti).
I got a lot of weird faces asking me questions of ‘why’?? ..is he scared of getting beaten up, and and all that..
I got the best grade, but with a minus point.
Perfectionist-me was really upset, still am when thinking about it!
The feedback from my teacher was: Too insecure performance.
I said ‘I don’t know’ too often.
The task was only to recite the content, not having to analyse the characters.. which I tried, seriously, but it ultimately always brought me back to ‘I don’t know’.
I’m not a psycho-analyst. Even if, it’s always not more than a guess to think you really ‘know’ what’s going on in somebody else’s mind.
It brought me to such a differentiated place that I couldn’t get to an opinion, considering so many aspects of everything I dealt with:D
Very tiring, even confusing.
I always was stunned when people had an opinion having researched, or thought through a matter less then me – how come they already made up their mind?
I didn’t like, but in the same time admired that.
They just make up their mind, done!

There are some people to whom I have big respect for in this matter though:
Ryan Holiday, even though he can have a strong opinion on many things (how does he do that at his age?? Without the ‘formal’ education even!? I wish I knew) VERY often I saw him just go ‘I don’t know’.
I really loved that, it was sympathetic and it didn’t make me see him as a less intelligent person, in the contrary.
I was surprised by that myself, but I liked it!
Another great example is Richard Feynman.
No I haven’t read his ‘lectures’ yet, that’s a big bite..
Still from what I saw in one of his interviews: He suddenly got that big smile on his face saying: ‘I take it back! I changed my mind’ – and states a different opinion of his:D

I’m pretty sure though, if I had stated my ‘I don’t knows’ in a more confident way, I would’ve gotten a better grade for my presentation..

]]> By: Rivka https://matthewhussey.com/blog/the-strange-but-obvious-way-to-sound-like-a-smarter-person-in-conversation/#comment-504959 Sun, 05 Jul 2015 06:46:39 +0000 http://www.gettheguy.co.uk/?p=14934#comment-504959 I often say “I don’t know”, and my Dad gets so annoyed at me for that.

]]> By: Kooky https://matthewhussey.com/blog/the-strange-but-obvious-way-to-sound-like-a-smarter-person-in-conversation/#comment-504871 Sat, 04 Jul 2015 21:45:09 +0000 http://www.gettheguy.co.uk/?p=14934#comment-504871 YES, YES , YES :D . I love this artical , wait you wrote the artical I love you man :D .

” But now I realise admitting your ignorance shows that you aren’t a phony. It makes me want to know more, instead of being comfortable in the knowledge I currently have.

True intelligence is committing to lifelong learning whilst also realizing how little you know. ”
this is soooooo true .

and what I learnt from your friend’s story is when you say you don’t know , you give reason to yourself not to stop learning , because when you say you know everything ( which is a lie ) you stop your brain of thinking , and then you become a dead person even if you are alive .
WOW THANK YOU SOOOOO MUCH FOR THIS GREAT LESSON :*
LOVE :D

]]> By: Aiysha https://matthewhussey.com/blog/the-strange-but-obvious-way-to-sound-like-a-smarter-person-in-conversation/#comment-503935 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 20:00:16 +0000 http://www.gettheguy.co.uk/?p=14934#comment-503935 I enjoyed the article because I can really relate. A common response I give is I don’t know because most of the time I don’t =P I sure don’t want to be labelled and your definitely right about learning being a life long process!

]]> By: Vavavoom https://matthewhussey.com/blog/the-strange-but-obvious-way-to-sound-like-a-smarter-person-in-conversation/#comment-503919 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 19:08:48 +0000 http://www.gettheguy.co.uk/?p=14934#comment-503919 I loved this thank you – I do say I don’t know or I’ll have to look into this and I’ve been wondering about peoples perception of me because of it.

What did you study?

]]> By: Shanna https://matthewhussey.com/blog/the-strange-but-obvious-way-to-sound-like-a-smarter-person-in-conversation/#comment-503853 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 15:31:32 +0000 http://www.gettheguy.co.uk/?p=14934#comment-503853 Dear Steve,

I do indeed, love this bit of knowledge, about our lack of knowledge.

I’m reminded of a time, not more than a year prior, in which I was reacquainted with a childhood friendly. I constantly replied to this fellow with an, “I know.” and after days of this, he had to say, “Do you know everything?” responding, I happily admitted,”No. I don’t know everything”. He would then ask me another, “What DO you know?” and I would follow with, “I know a lot, and I don’t know a lot…”
A smile on his face, with a look about him, all to say nothing, would say everything…

Thank you, for this piece and all that you all teach!

Sincerely,
Shanna
Xx

]]> By: Arianna https://matthewhussey.com/blog/the-strange-but-obvious-way-to-sound-like-a-smarter-person-in-conversation/#comment-503803 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 13:49:50 +0000 http://www.gettheguy.co.uk/?p=14934#comment-503803 Steve,

I love this – “True intelligence is committing to lifelong learning whilst also realizing how little you know.” It sounds like something I would write. :)

I believe the trademark of a lifelong learner is that they are happy to say that they do not know because it fuels their fire. Life long learners are excited by adventure, as unknowing creates a craving that can only be satisfied by discovery.

I am glad you are back! <3

Warmly,
Arianna

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