Comments on: You Are Not Alone…

By: Anonymous because I am a private personality type

Anonymous because I am a private personality type — Thu, 04 Nov 2021 01:45:18 +0000

Hey there, Matthew. I appreciate the raw video. I am a happily married woman with kids that absolutely adores you. There is something about the fact that although you probably do not intend to show, your personality shows in your videos, and I absolutely love it. True, we do not get to see all of yourself. I have come to realize there are very few people who analyze things and have this cerebral need for analyzing everything. I honestly thought there was something wrong with me years ago, it is only that recently I have to realize this is something that is part of me. This need to discuss and analyze to share with like minds. When one makes this realization, the world becomes truly lonely, it is lonely to think there are not many people who share like minds of openess and inquisitiveness. I feel truly lonely in that aspect. I visit your YouTube channel only because I enjoy the fact that another human being that has a veracity and curiosity for analysis exists. Truly Matthew, I absolutely am thankful that you live in this world. It brings comfort to my mind. You are a bit younger than me, but you will come to realize the similar in due time.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Sun, 13 Jan 2019 20:10:10 +0000

I appreciate your vulnerability and glad you decided to release this in its raw form. You just became human and relatable to me. I have just a little different perspective…Loneliness is not a weakness but a chance for your strength to emerge and change your focus. It is an emotional wake-up to all the amazing choices you have in life…for those people who are happiest in their own misery and unable to make changes in self discovery then tragically loneliness becomes their master and they become lost in the stagnant quagmire of their own thoughts and feelings. My father is one of the loneliest men I know and it is difficult for me to spend any amount of time with him because I care for him and get sucked into his misery when I should be encouraging and uplifting. The sad thing is that he doesn’t understand why he doesn’t get visitors and why people don’t make more of an effort to come see him.

By: Tammy Cherry

Tammy Cherry — Sat, 05 Jan 2019 21:17:48 +0000

Just found this video. It’s been a rough 17 years of loneliness. I have been working on my worth the past year and making great strides. I’m considering your retreat this year. Bless you Matthew

By: Mark

Mark — Fri, 09 Feb 2018 14:22:28 +0000

In reply to Jillian Fratepietro.

Jill – you are a beautiful person and know that you are not alone. Your fashion, beautiful smile, and caring way does not go unnoticed. You took my breathe away the other day when I met you.

Long Island Guy

By: Michelle

Michelle — Tue, 25 Jul 2017 16:59:19 +0000

Whenever i feel any tiny bit of loneliness, self-doubt, or anything other than happy within myself and the day, i turn to you, Matt. Your videos, blogs, programs are all i need to lift me up, remind myself why i started with Get The Guy and put a smile on my face to enjoy the rest of my day.
Thank you… You really are my daily inspiration!

By: Steph

Steph — Tue, 04 Jul 2017 05:29:31 +0000

My english is not the best but I just needed to comment this,first of all: THANK YOU because this just came at perfect timimg for me I have all this feelings of loneliness and I know its all about the pressure, I have certain age and in my country I “should” be married some years ago and right know I should been thinking about babys; but surprise!!! Im not…Im single and even if I been dreaming about it my person is not here yet, sometimes I try to understand that we all have different moments in life, different experiences and that not everyone is as happy as they show at social media but with this video I will sleep a little less worried because I know Im not the only one feeling this way..thank you so so much!

By: Sandra Villalta

Sandra Villalta — Sat, 20 May 2017 17:50:11 +0000

Well in the video you say we think because we alone we are the only ones but not is more people feeling the same. Well I don’t have really friends only I have co workers we see each other another only at work or in reunions but I don’t have the one to talk about my loneliness or my other feelings if I happy sad angry. Well I have one friend he was annoying but he was in the past near but somedaily he was fat he always call to made me laugh or get me upset but just to know he was in the other side of my phone was satisfied but one day he was gone forever he passed away die of cancer every time since that day I expecting his call but now I realize will be no calls anymore. I have a daughter but now she is more focus in her relationship with her boyfriend she decide to give me one day from the seven days to me but really she doesn’t she just give me 3 hours from that day I can’t talk to her I just listen to her and that made me happy she come to speak to me and get some opinion about it but I’m ok with it. And my routine go back to the same go back to my coworkers and do on but I still didn’t find the one I lost and that made me sad and lonely but I still have hope one day I’ll find the one to talk laugh cry and get mad about it. Thanks I hope you understand what I wrote

By: Lynn (from Santa Barbara)

Lynn (from Santa Barbara) — Wed, 26 Apr 2017 17:38:24 +0000

Mmmm, honest and candid message about the benefits and shared experience of loneliness.

SHARED experience. True and encouraging. Thanks.

I need to leave my boyfriend of two years because despite a deep love for each other, great chemistry and a lot of fun, not enough of boxes are checked (lack of confidence, some integrity, and some leadership issues). I’m sad and feel alone because being with him has made my life better than it had been in years, in fact ever: he is kind, patient, funny, gracious and adventurous and someone that I will love forever, whether we are together or not.

I hate that because we won’t be in a dedicated relationship anymore we can’t be in each other’s company as cherished friends. For a while it won’t be possible to be together and not fall back into the relationship.

I’m not looking forward to living in this state but I suspect it will force me to grow, to appreciate and take stock of my side of the equation in this and all relationships. And this loneliness will bring me to my knees to talk to God a bit more.

I’m learning that just because I’m sad or lonely doesn’t mean I need to “fix” these emotions and get rid of them. This is what “normal” and “healthy” really are. Not mother’s “go to your room until you can be happy again.” There’s stench in the social media air that says we should always be happy and to push down anger, sadness, frustration and so on.

Nope. I’m not getting on that train to crazy-town.

I’m going to embrace these awful feelings because they are what will heal me and allow me to move on to next best thing that is planned for me.

Giddy up. We go.

By: Tamara

Tamara — Wed, 18 Jan 2017 11:16:36 +0000

Hi Matthew,
Thank you for posting this one.
I think I feel it too sometimes with even being in a big crowded place. Surrounded by lots of people. Just a bit of restless feeling.
And when being alone it can pull you down too, when overthinking starts. At least that happens too me sometimes.. I guess I miss someone around from time to time, who fully understands and listens.. It seems like it is harder for people to listen too.. with everybody being bizzy and on a schedhule and with not socializing in person.. like always being on their phone, watching tv and stuff.. people talk less to eachother.. which is sad to even look at sometimes.. like we are all focussed on our own stuff. I’m guilty of that too sometimes.. but I try to make a diverence :)

Love, Tamara

By: Nina Khan

Nina Khan — Sat, 23 Jul 2016 21:30:59 +0000

Thanks Matthew. This video touched my heart. I am not dating at the moment as I am afraid to open my heart, but one day I will, when I am ready. I have a very active social life, but at the end of some days, the loneliness engulfs me. Thank you for understanding.