Comments on: If You Get Too Obsessed Too Quickly When You Like Someone… WATCH THIS

By: LH

LH — Sun, 21 Jul 2024 16:29:30 +0000

Well, I now feel seen in the most uncomfortable way humanly possible. Matthew’s way of explaining these patterns has shed more insight into that ex I’ve been trying to stop ruminating over for the last year than a whole year of therapy.

Social media has called attention to some of these attachment styles. Yes, it’s easier to identify the habits. And having the bigger picture patterns with the unmet needs as a root cause is helpful. Having the issues explained with empathy and possible solutions is so lovely and I really appreciate this insight. Thank you, Matthew.

By: Karla M. Shiley

Karla M. Shiley — Sun, 14 Jul 2024 11:51:15 +0000

In reply to Louiza. This is me. I loved your book as well. This was very helpful to have it broken down and be given strategies to deal with that feeling of anxiety. I loved how you described it by looking outside for safety. I have always done this. Your conversation regarding talking to ourselves because we know ourselves better than anyone and talking ourselves through these feelings is very helpful. Thank you for your very clear and concise ways of cutting through to the heart of the issue and making sense of it and having a solution to deal with it.

By: Karin

Karin — Thu, 11 Jul 2024 14:57:42 +0000

Great talk! Just what I needed to hear Thank you for your insight and advice . I am definitely the “ anxious anxiety “ woman! I know it stems from my childhood but good to hear the reinforcement techniques.

By: Deb Danes

Deb Danes — Sun, 07 Jul 2024 14:24:42 +0000

Hi Matthew and beautiful Audrey, my name is Deb I was in a 27 yr marriage from 19 until 11 yrs ago and I must say the dating world is daunting to say the least. I’m 57 now have no problem attracting men however, have learnt that I’m anxious attachment style and can also be dismissive all due to my trauma upbringing. After my divorce I threw myself into a 7 yr relationship and was extremely vulnerable and not healed. 12 mths ago ended it then, went a bit mongrel tbh and went from man to man at incredible speed then got with a narcissistic abusive man thank heaven that I ended that. But recently I thought I had found someone that might be worth my effort. Appears like you said I invested too much too quickly and got anxious. Of course I had to do the angry text but I’m not sorry as I know I shouldn’t have slept with him. I had had 3 or 4 times before that that I didn’t so I figured I did the right thing and had value. Not true…He hadn’t dated me and just met me out at the local each time. Then after the fact he asked me out for dinner which BTW was fantastic and we text back and forward after …I then started to fantasize as we do. But I realise his dinner was just a payoff to save his reputation as everyone even his past situationships said to me he is a great guy. I then couldn’t wait any longer as no comms of course and did the angry text early Sun morning. I have so much to give, it hurt but I am glad in a way I know earlier rather than later. Actions or non actions speak louder than words. He is not available or open for any kind of frienship/relationship. Thank you you have saved my sanity.

By: Candice

Candice — Sun, 07 Jul 2024 11:45:48 +0000

In reply to Gary. Such a great video! You absolutely nailed this. Thank you, so helpful.

By: Debbie

Debbie — Sun, 07 Jul 2024 02:32:39 +0000

This was exactly what I needed to hear as you’ve described my dating experience for the past few years! Can’t wait to hear more…

By: Dixie DuBonnet

Dixie DuBonnet — Fri, 05 Jul 2024 19:38:38 +0000

In reply to Louiza. So glad I saw this video! I now understand why I push the panic button early on . Instead of wondering what’s wrong with me, I can give it the name anxiety. This is a game changer. Thank you Matthew!!

By: Erin

Erin — Fri, 05 Jul 2024 18:20:08 +0000

Hi Matt,
I really needed this message. I just started talking with someone whom I am enjoying, but I need to keep things in perspective and not get carried away. I think I am able to stop the rumination once I recognize it, but I don’t want it to hinder myself from putting myself out there. The hurt has been enormous, but it is in the past. Great message! So appreciated! Looking forward to more as I read your book. The break up chapter is so fitting for me at the moment. Thank you!

By: Cybele

Cybele — Thu, 04 Jul 2024 14:26:09 +0000

Hi, Matthew,

Thank you for your vídeo. It helped a lot. I was acting the way you described in my last relationship. At the time I had some suspicion that I was being anxious. But now I’m certain.

By: Clair

Clair — Wed, 03 Jul 2024 15:48:22 +0000

This is absolutely beautiful and very helpful, this is not my situation by the way but I get really involved and completely in when in a relationship and I think it is important to watch out for this and handle it immediately that feel crisp in.
Thanks Matthew for sharing.. I sure
will pass it on.