Comments on: Long Distance Relationship? AVOID This Mistake

By: Hara

Hara — Fri, 21 Jun 2024 13:39:06 +0000

Matthew your book and advice have become the lifesaver that keeps my head above water. Married for 43 years, I’m now a widow at 70. I had what I thought was a long distance, virtual relationship for over a year. Come to find out, he’s engaged to someone 30 years younger and told her I was the same age as his mother and would embarrass him with the family. I’m reading, meditating and trying not to be utterly depressed at men’s behavior.

By: Suha Audren-Cassim

Suha Audren-Cassim — Tue, 18 Jun 2024 04:35:12 +0000

loved the public debate on who is more Tidy!! So funny but so relatable.
Ok so I love a sparkling clean bathroom where in an emergency one can sleep in even ! Would hate any mess in it. So perhaps you clean up coz that personal space is important? And Audrey is more the common /public space clean freak ?? And wants a generally neat living space ?

By: Allison

Allison — Mon, 17 Jun 2024 22:14:07 +0000

I would love to hear more about sabotaging a good relationship. I am finally dating a great guy but every time we have a disagreement, I get anxious like the relationship has ended. Then I spiral being ready to stop talking to him or I think of all the little nuances that annoy me with him and that I should end it first. Then he calls me later that day or the next like everything is fine, no drama. He has been upfront that he wants a future with me so I know it is an insecurity in myself. I know this stems from my past relationship as disagreements with my ex were incredibly toxic. I do meditation or watch your videos during these times which help calm my crazy/anxious thoughts. But I am afraid I’ll end it with him over something so silly. What other ideas would you recommend to help re-wire the brain that disagreements are normal and to not let past relationship trauma ruin a new good relationship?

By: R and J

R and J — Mon, 17 Jun 2024 21:30:38 +0000

I’m 58 and I have just left a 2 and a half year long distance relationship. I am heartbroken having blown up the relationship with the man I love but also realising that we were not moving forward or resolving the issues that were causing conflict. My daughter is 23. We are both reading Love Life and we can both relate to the principles in the book despite our age difference. Thank you

By: Vero

Vero — Mon, 17 Jun 2024 17:04:18 +0000

Hi Matthew and Audrey !
I’ve met a guy from another country. First we’ve been talking for about 4 months everyday. He finally came to my country and we met each other. Spent all days together and travel. He returned back and hardly ever communicate. So, I asked him if he is willing to know me better, because I want to do so with him. Never replied that. And it was a simple and straight question. Instead he send me messages from time to time, or a photo. I really would like to talk with him and find out what is in his mind. But, he seems like not being reachable. I know he likes me, but also know that I can’t have a long distance relation if he doesn’t communicate with me and doesn’t put the same energy. I wish he could be honestly open and talk with me.

By: Diane Wadsworth Gray

Diane Wadsworth Gray — Mon, 17 Jun 2024 05:19:39 +0000

I research a man’s background before I would ever date them. I find out where they lived so I can check the court records in that county and state. I believe by doing this I have kept myself safe from dating men that have clearly NOT treated other women well. I don’t want to be their next victim. Looking for love does not mean casting all caution to the wind. Be cautious and keep yourself safe ladies.

By: Emma Mackenzie

Emma Mackenzie — Mon, 17 Jun 2024 04:02:43 +0000

How can I convince my new partner not to take personally my teenage daughters’ rudeness?

By: Anne

Anne — Sun, 16 Jun 2024 15:35:07 +0000

Dear Mathew,
I was is a relationship whereby he drove 250km one way to visit me, however, he became anxious to solidify our relationship by wanting to move in! Big mistake! I never allowed him to but he simply tried to visit for longer periods of time. It became an uncomfortable situation. Later, I came to find out he had a house but it was dilapidated from neglect! Women need to stay alert to red flags such as a sense of urgency in a relationship that can easily be mistaken for desire! Long distance relationships are somewhat dangerous because they can mask vital information about a person’s reality. Unfortunately, I fell for the guy and spent 7 years on a roller coaster of highs and deep lows! He ended up saying he was going to claim common law and go after the equity in my apartment, without giving any monetary investment on his part! True story! My question is how can I, after experiencing such calamities in a relationship, reasonably trust anyone?

By: Trish

Trish — Sun, 16 Jun 2024 15:04:23 +0000

I was just introduced to a man in another city. Think airplane distance. Our conversations have been wonderful, flirtatious but also serious. We have our faith in common which is a priority for me, and for him too. We have only exchanged photos but plan to meet in 3 weeks. Way out of my comfort zone but I believe the potential for relationship is worth the risk.

By: M

Sun, 16 Jun 2024 14:20:00 +0000

Thank you for the feedback on how to reframe when we create a story in our minds of someone, and it does hurt like hell when he doesn’t feel the same. I’m struggling with this exact thing. Perhaps once in a few years I’ll find someone I really like, and we had some mutual interest, until he became distant. I have a huge imagination, am a romantic and realize I’ve been envisioning a version of him that I don’t even know. We still have contact and I’m having great difficulty with heartache, depression and anxiety because I’m not getting the same energy back from him. I can see how ridiculous it is, but I can’t seem to move on from this silly story on my head. I can see how ridiculous I am, but my heard won’t listen to my head. We live in separate countries also, I feel so so stupid honestly, and that it’s affected me so badly.