Comments on: Feel Them Pulling Away? DO NOT Chase; Do THIS Instead!

By: Jen

Jen — Mon, 09 Sep 2024 11:26:33 +0000

Great helpful video and very funny too

By: Sandra

Sandra — Sun, 08 Sep 2024 07:18:35 +0000

Wow – I so needed to read this right now! Over investment and lack of boundaries has been a core pattern of mine, on top of which I’ve been healing for a couple of years after leaving a long term narcissistic relationship. During that 2 year time period dating has not been on my mind at all, but a couple of months ago I crossed paths with someone from my past which brought it all up again – because I really really like this person, and we had a couple of great connections, etc etc and I chickened out because I didn’t recognise the opportunity in front of me and I was unprepared for it. There has been nothing since, (but I now recognise thanks to what I’ve learned on Love Life that even if I had recognised it, there’s no guarantee I’d be that much further ahead than I am now, because there’s always something!) I actually asked Matthew AI about that situation and got some advice that I thought I might get a chance to act on today, but for various slightly kooky but practical reasons, this did not come to pass. Instead I literally made a decision en route to turn around and come back home because my intuition was telling me to. It wasn’t that hard to do – right now I really do have other priorities. How I feel hasn’t changed, but it’s no longer determining my decisions. And if we did connect again, he’d have to win me over again because he disappeared almost immediately after showing interest. It wouldn’t be possible to pick up where it was left. The really hard part now is still holding the middle ground – neither pushing the whole thing away/forgetting about it or allowing it to live in my head rent free. I know that if he did the right things, I would indeed come alive again – and also that I really have nothing to justify taking it further at this point because there’s nowhere to go. I’ve learned something about myself today – I now know that I’m no longer willing to push things to ridiculous lengths just for the mere possibility of connecting with someone, and to the exclusion of other things in my life which are important and require my attention. Relative to where I’ve been, that’s progress!

By: Bree

Bree — Fri, 06 Sep 2024 15:07:05 +0000

I enjoyed watching Audrey :)
I tried Matthew AI. Impressed! I’m thinking about getting full access as I might venture into dating again.
My takeaway today is to be more ‘measured’ in opening up and also in reacting to a guy’s perceived coldness, to not allow them to take up to much time and space and energy in the workings of my mind ;)
Thank you for your advice.

By: Cecily

Cecily — Tue, 03 Sep 2024 09:12:57 +0000

it is a great video and I genuinely enjoyed tips you shared. I like the part you said it was too early to tell him your standard since it is only beginning of the date. What if the guy keeps telling me he would like to see me, but not plan any actually meeting, never said when would he finished his busy season? When I asked him when he was free, or replied to me with dates, he said I expected too much from him? It is very confusing. So, I told him if he did not want to meet again, he should tell me. Do not lead me on. If he did want to see me, show me he cared… is it too direct, and scary words to send to guys?

By: Anne

Anne — Mon, 02 Sep 2024 05:47:23 +0000

I’m not too sure what the lady who wrote in to you wanted though. I mean the guy is on a trip.. with his kids? I’m sure he has his hands full (if they are young) and/or just wants to be more present with his family? If my date went on a trip I won’t be blowing up his phone or expecting him to be on his phone all the time texting me. And they were seeing each for only a few weeks.. so yes, clearly an over-investment on her part. Cause it doesn’t even sound like a serious, committed relationship. I think the key thing is we’ve all got lives on top of dating, and should be invested in those things than just obsessing over what our date is doing/why they aren’t replying.

By: Avital Marva

Avital Marva — Sun, 01 Sep 2024 20:09:50 +0000

That is just crazy!
This is exciting and I believe it will be helpfull

I’ll surely use this App

By: Lycer

Lycer — Sun, 01 Sep 2024 19:51:34 +0000

Thanks Matthew yet for me is a different situation, we had a little misunderstanding yet he bloke me and no matter what i say he is not responding!! What should I do and we ve been dating for a year

By: Katy

Katy — Sun, 01 Sep 2024 16:09:13 +0000

Holy cow! Thank you Mathew & Audrey. I have been “dating” a guy for 3mos & this is the exact solution I needed to know how to show him what disappearing other than singular emojis does to the momentum / meaning of the relationship. In my case he works a job where he will travel for 2wks or just a few days. When together the momentum is so normal & attended to. When away he slips into an abyss. BUT in our case, at the very start he said, “you are my #1 dating app (& everywhere) pick, am I yours? This hook made me feel amazing & so I revealed it was true, he was also my #1. So he then said let’s try something & only date each other because I see so many boxes checked w/ you… Each date was great/ attentive/ exciting/ respectful. Then he goes on vacation w/ his mom & crickets other than literally 2 scenery pics w/ only him. No mom?? Then I sent the “Hi” text a day later he sends his reply, “Hi”. Another 6 day’s nothing. I text, “this is falling apart”. No response. When he gets to town, has bought a gift from the location & endorses it w/ this is for you being so patient!! The token reward is odd but me seeing all these other boxes of potential checked reacted as if the momentum was even stronger. THANK YOU JESUS for Mathew &
Audrey showing the magic spoon 2nd text & displaying how I am creating my own terrible boundary w/ this person who = “He is not intent on making sure that the connection is sustained or progressed while he is away”. I am almost 50 & every great Mr. Big dreamboat (referencing Carrie from
Sex in the City) uses this tactic & me reacting w/o Audrey’s wooden spoon was the actual solution. Wow I have SO MUCH confidence now & CAN NOT wait to send my “haven’t heard from you in ages… maybe next Thursday we can connect” text. Plus now I know how to break the cycle of agreeing to exclusive date when they are not maintaining or sustaining.

By: Jessica Menard

Jessica Menard — Sun, 01 Sep 2024 16:03:52 +0000

Thank you for this. Even though I follow you, I still always learn something new and appreciate all the advice you give. One day I’ll be able to date successfully and be confident in my choices.