This article really resonates with me right now as I have learned more about my standards from the last guy I was seeing. He was a genuine sweetheart who cared about me as a person. The problem was that he was so invested in other areas of his life and trying to fix issues in them that he cut off communication with me because he was overwhelmed. I tried to be hopeful and told him I cared. But ultimately I had my breaking point when I realized I couldn’t consider being in a relationship with someone who represents everything I’ve looked for in someone…but doesn’t communicate what’s going on. And good relationships are founded on that. So it ended up being one-sided, and I wished him well (because he had a condition which affected his ability to communicate which is why I waited so long). But I also said that I needed someone in my life who wanted to be equals. Clearly right now he’s not in a place to be in a relationship, so it hurts to an extent. But I’m sticking to my standards and hope to find someone who can be ALL of those things the way I deserve.

So thank you, Matthew, for discussing the value is standards for anybody (man or woman) who deserves to develop their self-respect.

Hi: I just went through similar with a guy who only wanted sex!

I spent one week to two trying to let him see what my North Star was. He was so adamant to see me alone on a park bench, or go to his house and watch a movie. or visa/versa.

Thank goodness, I know what I want and didn’t get emotionally involved by meeting him. He was very charasmatic and tried so hard to persuade me.. someday, I would love to have what he wanted but he was not offering what I wanted.
He , as I told him was just a player.

I am glad to listen to you and see that my standards are high.
No romantic dates, or nights that I dream of.
Happy as I am without Scammers and Players.
God bless, and thanks for confirming that!
Eve