Comments on: How to Stop Obsessing Over Someone You Want https://matthewhussey.com/blog/how-to-stop-obsessing-over-someone-you-want/ Have The Love Life You Want Thu, 10 Nov 2022 11:37:38 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.1 By: Tracey https://matthewhussey.com/blog/how-to-stop-obsessing-over-someone-you-want/#comment-1176474 Thu, 10 Nov 2022 11:37:38 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=66768#comment-1176474 Wow…. heartfelt thanks. This was stunning simplicity and cuts through all of the mind games we sometimes play with ourselves. ‘Go find out’ is now my motto.

]]> By: Anna https://matthewhussey.com/blog/how-to-stop-obsessing-over-someone-you-want/#comment-1176279 Sun, 06 Nov 2022 18:49:41 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=66768#comment-1176279 This video comes just in time.

A couple of months ago, I joined a classical choir for social reasons in my new country, Germany.

The accompanist (piano) rocked up on Saturday for an all day workshop. I had a chat with him and we were late back to rehearsal, after being called back in. Made a joke that it is OK to be late if you’re chatting to the guy doing the accompanying, as rehearsal doesn’t start back until he is there. He laughed.

I signed off saying I’d see him at our concert in four weeks. He said he was doing our rehearsal for the next 4 weeks.

Normally, I’d be obsessing about details & digging for info in the background; tomorrow night I’ll go in looking fresh, and find a way to bump into him before or after rehearsal and have another little chat.

I’ll be trying my best not to make bad jokes in a language I’m learning about massive Organs. He plays that too. No idea of his name yet, but I will ask him if I catch him.

]]> By: Nancy https://matthewhussey.com/blog/how-to-stop-obsessing-over-someone-you-want/#comment-1176276 Sun, 06 Nov 2022 17:20:08 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=66768#comment-1176276 What an amazing call to freedom from unnecessary, confusing and damaging self-induced heart break — unrequited love — but it’s only in my head.

This is one of the most valuable, insightful, well-expressed messages I have ever seen on love and dating. This message is so on point with situations like this that we allow to happen in our lives. Thank you, Matthew

]]> By: Lou https://matthewhussey.com/blog/how-to-stop-obsessing-over-someone-you-want/#comment-1176275 Sun, 06 Nov 2022 17:09:16 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=66768#comment-1176275 Gold as always. Thanks Matthew. I am curious as to whether there is any point in your opinion when you can fantasise? I tried to stop doing that and I think the guy I am seeing felt I wasn’t as invested in it because it came across as I didn’t care about the relationship. He had been analysing it, a lot to the point when he wasn’t in the moment.

But i also want to thank you. He says I am teaching him to be in the moment more, considering earlier in the year I was obsessing in the way you talk about in this video about a guy on a dating site I hadn’t even met. You’re advice has been so helpful this year and i can see a lot of growth in how i approach dating. So thank you. :)

]]> By: Liz https://matthewhussey.com/blog/how-to-stop-obsessing-over-someone-you-want/#comment-1176271 Sun, 06 Nov 2022 15:36:02 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=66768#comment-1176271 Really insightful. It is hard to realize the time spent in our head. Is there a sweet spot where you leave the door open while in engaging in other relationships? I find that when I give myself an ultimatum it makes me focus on the person even more.

]]> By: Bridgette https://matthewhussey.com/blog/how-to-stop-obsessing-over-someone-you-want/#comment-1176270 Sun, 06 Nov 2022 15:01:49 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=66768#comment-1176270 Wow amazing stuff really enjoyed the video and learned so much from it

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