Are you seeing someone who won’t commit but who doesn’t let you move on either?
You’re about to hear a phone call between me and a young lady who had this issue and wanted to know what was going on in his mind.
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Matthew:
Julia, why don’t you tell us your question?
Julia:
Okay. Well, it’s a little complicated, but I’ll try to make it short. I’ve been with this guy for about two years. We broke up eight months ago. For the past eight months, I’ve been in competition with this girl online – a girl he never met, most likely a girl he’s never going to meet. I also recently found out he slept with his ex a couple of months ago.
So my question is, he keeps telling me, “I don’t want to commit. I don’t want to commit to a relationship.” But I feel like he’s committed to her because he’s always going back to her and me. So why is it so hard for him to commit? Or is it just he wants her because he knows she’s temporary, and he sees a future with me and that scares him? I don’t know. Why is it so hard for him to commit, from a guy’s perspective?
Matthew:
Okay, so he slept with his ex after he was with you?
Julia:
Right.
Matthew:
And he’s also been talking to this woman online?
Julia:
Right. And me. All at the same time.
Matthew:
Okay. How old is this guy?
Julia:
He’s 17, I’m 18.
Matthew:
Okay. So what do you think might be going on for him right now, as a 17-year-old young man?
Julia:
I don’t know. I feel like he’s just starting to mature, but why doesn’t he just let me go if it’s so hard for him to commit? And yet I told him, “Just let me go, because this is hard.”
Matthew:
Because he’s selfish.
Julia:
That’s what I thought. That’s exactly what I thought.
Matthew:
Because he’s selfish, and because 17-year-olds are selfish.
Julia:
Right.
Matthew:
That doesn’t mean all 17-year-olds are bad people, but if you want to come up with a bit of a stereotype, teenagers are selfish. By the way, he may be selfish for another 10 years, but he’s not essentially looking out for your feelings. He’s, right now, enjoying validation from every direction.
Julia:
Right. Oh, God.
Matthew:
It may be, he likes you so much he doesn’t want to let go – but caring about you would be to let you go, and he doesn’t care about you enough to do that.
And I think it’s good for you to experience selfish men at this age, because meeting a guy like this and feeling attraction for him is good, the pain is good, the rejection is good. It’s all very important, and I wouldn’t wish for anything else for you.
If you called me today and said… If I had a magic wand that could take away all of this, and make him right for you, and make him commit, and not have you have to experience being in competition for anybody, I still wouldn’t wave it. I would still want you to go through all of this and have this experience, because it’s really important for making you an interesting and developed person.
Julia:
Wow, you’re amazing. Oh, my God. Everything you just said was on point.
Matthew:
So have fun out there, Julia. Enjoy it. Don’t waste any more time here. You don’t have to be mean about it. You don’t have to cut yourself off from him completely if you don’t want to, but he’s not denying himself other experiences and you shouldn’t either.
Julia:
Okay. Got it.
Matthew:
All right?
Hello Matthew i would love to thank you so much for your advice its always on point i had the same problem in a 5 year situationship. I have been nothing but patient loyal understanding and forgiving in a non committal situationship I finally got the strength to walk away not going to lie though it hurts because I love this man with everything in me but i have to love me first so proud of myself Have Not called him anyways thank you so much for what you do you are truly a blessing sending you much love Mr Hussey!!!!❤
The tittle, the material was so interesting. Thanks
I am separated, now I am in affair with selfish man. So, by reading this, I thought I was wasting times with him.
But in some other ways I don’t know how to cut the relation.
Hey Matthew,
I am 37 years old. I met this guy when I was 34yrs. The relationship has going steady; however we have recently broken up. Apparently, the topic of Marriage,Partnership and kids has been a hot topic for the pass few months. I have come to the realization that my boyfriend of 3years, like idea of having a relationship, but he has no intentions for future proceedings. I gathered the courage and told him that if I am not in his future plans, then I believe it’s best to end the relationship. Surprisingly, he gave up without a fight. He said he agreed with me because he does not want kids right now. More so, Marriage is not on the agenda at this time.
I was devastated and I pulled away. Of course I am going through the grieving process which i believe it is a horrible experience. Honestly, I find that I keep asking myself “if I made the right decision”?
Can you kindly give me some tips to assure me that I did make the right decision because my heart and mind are not in accordance. As a result, the thought process is making me uneasy.
Thanks,
lisa
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