Comments on: How To Get Over Someone You Never Dated

By: Ross

Ross — Fri, 06 Aug 2021 05:29:41 +0000

I’ve been talking to this guy for almost a year and a half now, we meet on a dating app, and we are very far from each other. We always talk every day, and just exchange ideas and be ourselves until it came to a time when we casually do sexting – which gave me more feelings, cause I don’t do that but eventually it was in our routine somehow. We share a lot with what we want in life, what we are doing regularly, and just plainly be involved with each other’s lives. But then he said to me last March that he thought of meeting someone over the summer but then again remembered me, then I asked him if he can see us being together, he retaliated with he doesn’t know me that well cause we only talk via messages or video chats but not really video calls and we haven’t met each other yet. I played it cool and accept his reasons but then again he said he’s not closing the possibility, cause he like my personality and he finds me attractive. So we still talk from time to time and still do sexting, but eventually, the messages had a hit on scarcity cause he was busy already cause their country has no lockdown anymore. Our last sext was July then just a few days ago, he said he’s seeing someone and he hopes she’s not gonna add to the list of his heartbreaks (cause I asked him about his heartbreak) it crushed me, but I don’t know where to stand cause we were just “friends experimenting” (as per him) but still I was holding to maybe someday he will like me back with all the circumstances. But I guess I was wrong, and I can’t just drop him cause I consider him as a friend. And now I don’t even know what to do, cause I am always rational that I can’t get mad at him. After all, I have no right. And that I am feeling sorry for myself that now he’s all happy having someone and still got me as a friend, and I got nothing but the hope and dreams that was not with him after all. So numb now, hopefully, I get myself back

By: raz

raz — Mon, 26 Apr 2021 05:55:21 +0000

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By: Kelly

Kelly — Tue, 23 Mar 2021 00:48:34 +0000

Thank you! It took me way too long to deal with this in my past… for a lot of reasons… but I think the worst was people telling my I couldn’t possibly be feeling the things I felt because we never dated. Once I accepted that they couldn’t tell me how I felt, I felt less crazy and could heal. Even after all this time, though, you are still one of the first to say it was normal.

By: Christina

Christina — Sun, 21 Mar 2021 14:20:54 +0000

This post is so great! Thank you!

Also, to all the people in here, if you won’t get your answer soon, find your inspiration and understand other’s people experiences below this post.

It’s just funny to see how many things has happened to me as well and checking out these people’s story makes me realise more things and my path is so much clearer now!

I know things can be confusing and the way that our brain “creates” these stories of thinking of having someone can be painful but it’s better to don’t invest too much time into it.

Your time is precious and someone else will turn out to be way better for you. Until then, think twice about your time and measure your decision wisely

By: Christina

Christina — Sun, 21 Mar 2021 02:57:25 +0000

Is it worth letting him know about my feelings towards him? I feel like if I am not going to do it, it might become an instant regret and it’s so difficult to get over without at least letting him know about my crush on him.

By: Paula

Paula — Sun, 21 Mar 2021 00:32:40 +0000

Hi. Love this. BUT, I am on the other side. I am a 60 year old woman. I dated a man I knew from my 20’s these past 2 years. We had and have a great time. BUT… he is not the love of my life, but I am his!!!
He wants to keep seeing me even though he knows it’s not going anywhere! I feel awful because I don’t “need” him.
Help!

By: Ruth

Ruth — Fri, 25 Sep 2020 01:18:11 +0000

I’ve never struggled to get over break-ups but when I found myself in a situation like this it was so hard to move one because I kept romanticizing the ‘relationship.’ These are great tips! It’s so empowering to realize that you deserve better.

By: Andie

Andie — Thu, 01 Aug 2019 20:08:25 +0000

When I read the subject I feel very happy because I’ve always thought I was a rare specie of romantic girl.

I met a guy 6 years ago (Yes! 6 years!!) I just felt overwhelmed with the amount of common points that we had. He was so charming, so clever, with so much joy and good sense of humor, and was my type of guy I just can’t believed it. And additionally he seemed to like me as well; in fact he told me to went to live with him. But he was from other country and I supposed to followed him and left all behind.

We continued to chat for other 7 months until, I thought It was enough because I discovery he was (beginning ?) a relationship with a girl.

But I always thought “What if”. We continued to talk very rarely (2 -3 times a year) and when he contacted me my heart just melt down everytime

In 1 occasion we talked and we said “We should go to the other’s country” but he said lately “Why we didn’t have sex? We should did it”

I thought “Oh, maybe he feel the same for me as I do; that special person that is that unsolved subject. Al least I’m important in a way for him”

2 weeks before I stalked him (that I never do or did) and found out he got married.
What a shock!! The last time he told me that he sometimes think of me was 3 months ago, really.

Now everything has changed; he is no more “the” guy that I was infatuated with; he is a married man.

And I need to move forward for good.
Your articule will really help me with this porpuse.

By: Anna

Anna — Sat, 15 Jun 2019 03:24:04 +0000

I met this guy over snapchat and he seemed really nice and we had a lot of mutual friends. we started talking a lot and i started catching feelings. i invited him and a couple other people over, and i dont think hes gonna come. he told me and friends that he likes me but wants to meet. hes not making it easy and he now often ignores my notifications. i know hes ignoring me, but it hurts because he says he still has feelings. i needed this article right now. im thinking before i get deeper into this, i should try and start getting over him in case this a**hole decides to drop me :( (i also have the jealousy problem, its not good)

By: Courtney

Courtney — Sat, 13 Apr 2019 20:13:06 +0000

I seem to have fallen into this situation, too. I’ve been texting with this guy for a couple of months now. One day I felt brave and told him that I liked him. He said he was flattered, but wasn’t looking to get into a relationship at the moment. I respected that and was fine with being friends.

We continued texting and some of the texts even came off as being flirty. I was holding out hope that maybe he would change his mind and ask me out…until last week when he asked me for advice on this other girl he likes – telling me that he “doesn’t want to lose this one”.

Talk about a hammer to the heart…I’ve been telling myself to get over it. He was never ‘mine’, and all we did was text, so why be so upset about it? But it really hurts. :( What’s worse is he hasn’t texted me since. Now I just feel lost and really, really stupid. Was I misreading his texts? Was he just being nice to me? Why would he keep telling me he wasn’t interested in a serious relationship, but then is wanting to be with this other girl?

Any advice on this would be helpful. Even just writing this out makes me feel a little better.

Thank you.