Comments on: Is Coronavirus Revealing You Have a One-Sided Relationship?

By: Marianne

Marianne — Thu, 30 Apr 2020 13:12:28 +0000

Crazy thing. Before it was definitely a one-sided relationship, and we ended up breaking up, but we remained friends and in that time he actually got to know me better. I leaned back, followed a lot of your advice in “how to get him running back”. Now he’s initiating more contact, he’s showing more effort, even expressing his feelings more. We’re slowly moving towards eachother, but I’m letting him do more work, creating that space. We’re also working on mask projects together to try to help save lives, being a team fighting the worst crisis of our lives together and that’s created a bonding mechanism. Grateful, patient, I’m in no hurry. We’re building something here.

By: Collen

Collen — Mon, 27 Apr 2020 02:13:41 +0000

Hey Matt. I have same situation as her but we aren’t in relationships. We far from each other. I used to crush in him during high school. He’s my senior back then. After he graduated we didn’t see each other again. So last month it’s apart of instagram challenge something like that when he was the first person who liked the picture so I need to send him a text about the game rules. But then it took me a few minutes to think should I send it to him or not? After that I said “nah it just a game anyway” so I sent to him. I thought he not going to reply me but he did! And we having a conversation after so many years never in touch with each other. Since that day he text me everyday and that feeling cone back again. He know my feeling towards him tho. I told him I hope he text me not bcs he bored or take advantage for me. He told me not to worried about it. There’s a time he being sweet, there’s a time he being romantic. When I asked him his real feeling towards me he said “I can’t tell you everything through text because action speaks louder than a words”. But these few days, we less texting not like usual we always text each other and flirt each other. I clearly don’t know is he feel the same as I did? Is he not interested on me? He told me he still wanna talk to me but just because these few days he less texting me it makes me overthinking about it. What should I do?

By: Angela

Angela — Wed, 22 Apr 2020 02:51:43 +0000

As the woman who Matthew talked to on the video chat, I can honestly say that having a discussion with my boyfriend (my lovely stubborn and independent boyfriend) that same evening was a changer… I have excused his ways and not been as assertive as I should be. Giving of myself more than I get back and accepting too much.
Thank you again for having the time to do an impromptu session with me and helping me in a way I didn’t expect.

Since that conversation, my guy and I have talked more and I even showed him this video so he could understand what I didn’t say well enough. Though he had his doubts about a relationship coach lol, he did say that he supports me if I get advice and assistance from you ;)

He appreciated the explanation of the color analogy in what you said in this video (again I must not have done well enough lol) and I am so glad I could have the ability to bring up this to him so hopefully our relationship, as odd and quirky as it is, grows and doesn’t get dominated just because I’m accepting less than I deserve.

Thank you again… For your knowledge, charisma and the patience to not whip me upside the head when we chatted haha

Best wishes and yes I’m a member of your posse now… I’ve seen the light:)

By: Niki

Niki — Mon, 20 Apr 2020 22:17:27 +0000

You are so beautiful, Matt. So cute, such a lovely person. And funny too, as you are making fun of your tiny belly! Anyway, you are right once again. Thank you for this nice and valuable video.

By: Jean

Jean — Mon, 20 Apr 2020 17:49:41 +0000

Love this…and I feel we are doing everything right so far. He is 1.5 hr from me. We had been out about 4 times before this CV19, but had talked since January. It is funny because we met on a dating site, we have common occupations and it is a good foundation. We initially started talking through Snapchat after the messaging through the dating site. We did this until we were ready to move to exchanging phone numbers (I waited for him to give me his number and ask me to call). In response, I gave him my number back, and he called me first. We then moved to Facebook friends and also chatted through messenger..I found him still messaging me through Snap and messenger, even though he had my phone number, and we have chatted on the phone a few times. Well, I just came forward last week and I explained to him that at this point, it was important to me to mainly speak through text and phone calls. I am doing this because to me exclusively chatting through messenger or Snap is shady…like it makes me wonder if a man is hiding something (I did not tell him this though). Well, he has pleasantly responded to me telling him my needs and me saying that it is important to me at this point for us to talk more through actual text and phone calls. I got Matt’s ebook “How to Talk to Men”. I have been reading it, and have using some of the scripts appropriately. Telling him to call me the way specified had definitely gotten me somewhere with him. Since we are moving slowly, I feel this is helping us and we are doing good so far by talking in the phone, which I have nudged him to do more of. It helps us get to know each other still even though we can’t go out…which he has told me he can’t wait to see me again once the stay home orders are lifted and we are able to go somewhere that is open.

By: Monika

Monika — Mon, 20 Apr 2020 05:21:33 +0000

Not only did my had-to-be-ex ignore me 6 weeks ago, when I asked him if there was any hand sanitizer in his neighborhood, as there was none available near me, (a slap in the face for sure!), there was more, and worse, to follow. He is really into porn big-time. I asked him to please not watch it when we talked on the phone, as it was disrespectul to me, and he just totally refused, calling me the next night, and simply babbled quickly, like a big, dumb, spoiled, baby brat, “I don’t wanna!!” So, there are no phone calls for me anymore from this narcissist, whom I dated for 3.5 yrs., in this awful time of corona. Who can top that story?

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Sun, 19 Apr 2020 23:50:00 +0000

By: Liz

Liz — Sun, 19 Apr 2020 22:45:23 +0000

I’m in that same situation. Only difference that I did tell him how my needs weren’t met. He ignored me so now I don’t want This relationship. I don’t need to be begging anyone for love and attention. If it doesn’t come from him, it’s because he isn’t feeling it.

By: Kate

Kate — Sun, 19 Apr 2020 21:47:41 +0000

Very interesting analogy. What if the two “colours” are so similar that you cannot say if they have been blend or not, i.e. what if the needs of two people in a relationship seem so similar at a certain point in time that it is hard to tell if all needs have been met?! And what if they change?! My ex and I e.g. were very similar concerning our wishes and needs in the beginning and then apparently he changed (of course to some degree we all do and so did I, but not my defining character traits), but did not speak up about his changed needs. Needless to say, it ended messy.

By: Jo Johnston

Jo Johnston — Sun, 19 Apr 2020 21:46:47 +0000

Thankyou for sharing this video.
Before this virus thing i was already having problems with my bf, he wasnr talking much and he has new mates who are half his age and do stupid things.
When this virus hit i had to be healthy for work so asked my bf to physical distance from me, he didnt take that well as he doesnt like being alone. The new mates are at his place across the road every day, smoking and carrying on like a group of kids, i feel they all need to grow up and take this seriously, we are in a small town in Australia without any cases but i think that is luck.
My bf is making it extremely difficult to have conversation by not txting or ringing and spending all his time with the new mates .
Did i set my boundaries too high? Am i being to selfish with my time and space? I want to be safe and healthy.
Any insight is welcome