Comments on: How to Get Over the Pain of Rejection

By: N

Tue, 25 May 2021 01:59:12 +0000

The first person I ever loved ended up already having a girlfriend. I gave him plenty chances to admit but he never did. I found out from his mum who thought we were platonic. Some of his friends knew but never told me until I asked. I can’t get past why her? Why not me? How unfair it was he let her in. Preferred her was available to her and not me. I feel that it was because she was better than me he liked her more. Obviously he was capable of caring just not for me. The whole situation broke me. I’m still struggling to move on. I still feel like I wasn’t good enough

By: Andrew

Andrew — Mon, 24 May 2021 23:26:13 +0000

I tend to put others ahead of myself, because that is the christian thing to do. And I never learned to ask for what I want or need. And when I do, I get labeled an awful horrible person with no backbone. That could be because I’ve dated a series of narcissists. I don’t know. Wish I could get to the bottom of this. I just moved half ways across the country and I’m away from all of my friends from these past 15 years. Ugh.

By: MELANIE WISE

MELANIE WISE — Mon, 24 May 2021 14:24:51 +0000

I’ve been forced to move after nearly 21 yrs from my Home after my Landlord served me with a Repossession Notice, without having to give a reason! Due to Covid I had 6 months rather than one month and at first I was devasted and fearful of ending up Homeless, which at 64 yrs of age with health issues was very worrying, but after taking advantage of Free Webinars I totally changed my thinking! Looking back at all the challenges I have faced in my Life, I realised I always overcame them, so decided that I wouldn’t allow myself to give in to negativity and instead accepted that everything happens for a reason and I would get through this too and be stronger for it. Once I let go and allowed things to happen, everything fell into place. It wasn’t easy, as everything that could go wrong, went wrong,but I got through it by receiving help and support from unexpected places. I found a new home which is perfect for me in every way, cheaper, bigger, more secure, I feel so blessed and know I’m going to be really happy here, despite a few teething problems. The only thing missing now is someone to share things with. After 38 years of being alone, I’m more than ready to be in a relationship. I thought I’d found a Man that was everything I ever wanted, who makes me laugh, helped me move, sends texts saying he’s there if I need him, phones me up and we talk for hours, but I just don’t know if he sees me as a potential partner or just a friend, as every time I invite him over to share a meal he makes an excuse. It’s driving me crazy as I really like him, but don’t know if he likes me too, or just felt sorry for me and wanted to help!

By: Fiona Campbell

Fiona Campbell — Mon, 24 May 2021 11:19:08 +0000

The thing that’s holding me back is my anger towards my parents for using shock treatment on me as a child genius to restrict my intelligence so that my sister didn’t feel jealous of me. And the life I’ve had to lead to keep sane instead of the one I was destined for.

By: Leah

Leah — Mon, 24 May 2021 09:18:33 +0000

I’m now going through my worst heartbreak. After following a lot of your advices, I was able to put my dating life back on track. Fell in love for this awesome, mature guy and we got in a relationship. He has a lot of child trauma issues, but it never was a problem for us. Until he went for another country (for a 1year volunteering work) and went deep in his dark thoughts. Just a week away and said to me that I am amazing, waay to good to him, and that he didn’t deserve me. I’m totally broken. Everything we had was amazing, we nurture each other so much. He feels like he is in a very unstable place and didn’t want to leave me hanging in here for 1 year.
This is too much for me. We broke up and I’m devastated. I don’t know how to get back on my feet…

By: Dianne Hewitt

Dianne Hewitt — Mon, 24 May 2021 04:52:18 +0000

LOL, my comment is this…if I knew what was holding me back I might be able to do something about my single situation. Okay, so I paid for Match, and then tried POF free version. Not only did I get ghosted by someone I was intimate with 6 months. Ghosted again by someone I was intimate with for over a month (which was more fun than the 6 month guy) I also was ghosted by someone I conversed with for over a month, we went on a nice walk once. I was also ghosted by someone I chatted with (while he was at work) and I guess he opted out but never said a word. I don’t want to ask why, wtf am I doing? Lol, maybe boys are just dumb from where I am in there world? No luck for me. Lost in Love.

By: Shelby

Shelby — Mon, 24 May 2021 04:24:02 +0000

My biological father abandoning me at 3 years old. And my step dad neglecting me; not giving guidance ,or attention.

By: Circuit

Circuit — Mon, 24 May 2021 03:15:08 +0000

I’ve been rejected several times by my bestfriend. On love yes, but even as bestfriends, the relationship and dynamics just changed. He was a geeky, moneyless video game guy, suddenly started losing weight, started self improvement activities, earning money now.. hes a late bloomer. Suddenly has a fitness partner (girl) who he claims he just pays for fitness but actually became a friend. I feel replaced. He started to create a group for activities among new friends, which is good for him, but I’ve been left out. I’ve been rejected as a friend, and a lover as well. I’ve been with him during his down times and when he was in a rut, big and no money, and just comes around when the partying stops and he needs a break.
Ibdont like it and even if you feel fired up to prove yourself and prove them wrong, that I’m just too jealous and obsessed, the bad feeling is there and the fear that you can and will be rejected again and again lingers. It’s not really good for the soul and the mind and spirit.

By: Andrea

Andrea — Mon, 24 May 2021 01:56:27 +0000

Hi Matt,
What holds me back is the fear of being rejected by men. It feels like I always put to much into a relationship or over think that it’s going better then it is and I’m always afraid that when I met a guy I really like, he is never actually going to fall in love with me and I’m never going to get married.
The worst part is that I constantly have people telling me that I am way to gorgeous to be alone and not be married at this point in my life- which always makes me feel bad that I’m doing something wrong by not being married at this point in my life. (I’d like to point out that I am only 28 with a masters degree and professional license).

By: Diana Downes-Alleyne

Diana Downes-Alleyne — Mon, 24 May 2021 01:46:39 +0000

Thanks I enjoyed the reading