Comments on: Think You’re Ready to Meet “The One”? Watch This First . . . https://matthewhussey.com/blog/think-youre-ready-to-meet-the-one-watch-this-first/ Have The Love Life You Want Sun, 13 Jun 2021 09:55:09 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.1 By: Linda https://matthewhussey.com/blog/think-youre-ready-to-meet-the-one-watch-this-first/#comment-1117386 Sun, 13 Jun 2021 09:55:09 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=25137#comment-1117386 Wow so insightful. You unpack the current issues we all face so eloquently. Internet dating fatigue has made us all so wary of investing energy having wasted so much time on superficial connections. Have you thought of doing your own joint dating programme for people who are like minded. Do a.retreat for the men too to get them set up. And then a joint event for people to meet and chat.
My mind is blown that men I have met have not studied relationships. Don’t know what they want. Don’t know what a good looks like for them They behave like a magical thunderbolt will tell them, that’s the one.
Matt, you are becoming so brave and articulate in your messages with every month that passes. You are a shining example of how to thrive and grow even after setbacks. Thank you for the very clear efforts you make to help us to grow and thrive too.

]]> By: Shanae https://matthewhussey.com/blog/think-youre-ready-to-meet-the-one-watch-this-first/#comment-1117328 Sun, 13 Jun 2021 01:08:05 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=25137#comment-1117328 Funny how your video talks about timing. Time means everything and I have to say I’m focusing on my self to get ready for a healthy relationship. Thanks Matt!

]]> By: Sara Aguilera https://matthewhussey.com/blog/think-youre-ready-to-meet-the-one-watch-this-first/#comment-1117295 Sat, 12 Jun 2021 20:50:00 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=25137#comment-1117295 Thank you so much!!! You honestly just made me cry! Five years ago I lost the love of my life when he had an aneurysm in his sleep. And it completely knocked me to the ground. I instantly became a single mother with four kids and I was lost and struggling to do even basic things… like even love. So it has been a long uphill battle, from figuring out how I do all of this on my own as a mother, getting a job, juggling it all. And starting as early as 2018 people began to ask me when I was going to start dating. It seemed as though I was always getting asked out. I turned them down. But my dad told me in 2018 that I needed to start dating, because he didn’t want to see me old and alone. I tried. I honestly really did try. It just felt like I couldn’t find anyone who could compare to what I had with Tony. Trust me, as a Catholic woman over the age of 40, all I ever hear is, “When are you going to get married again?”And, “How are you still single?” “Why do you choose to make everything so hard on yourself by not just dating someone— at least!?”

Honestly, I have tried. And I do enjoy going out on dates. But really in only the friendship capacity. I don’t know if or when I am going to actually be ready to accept someone new into my life the way that I had with Tony.

But I really needed to hear this right now. I keep rejecting suitors. And I keep feeling hounded for answers and reasons why this guy, “isn’t the one.” I’m just going to tell my parents I’m not ready. And make sure they understand it this time.

]]> By: Mari https://matthewhussey.com/blog/think-youre-ready-to-meet-the-one-watch-this-first/#comment-1117282 Sat, 12 Jun 2021 19:30:06 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=25137#comment-1117282 Chapter 5 & 6 really brought an “Aha!” Moment for me. Something I need to keep in mind & keep working on me. Thank you so much!

]]> By: Emily Aring https://matthewhussey.com/blog/think-youre-ready-to-meet-the-one-watch-this-first/#comment-1117278 Sat, 12 Jun 2021 19:02:47 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=25137#comment-1117278 Thank you for this great talk Matthew!!
I think I may be guilty of choosing people who were not really available for one reason or another. I think this has made me feel safer, in that deep down I knew this thing wouldn’t subsume me. Looking inside right now, I can see that I am scared of being taken over…not by a domineering bully or a needy person, but by the bond of the forever love. That which I most profess to desire, I sabotage in my choices.
Then I spend how many endless hours heartbroken at life’s cruelty toward me. I write this self recrimination with a hefty dose of humor and compassion for the flawed yet lovable creature I am.
May this insight bear healthy fruit. Thanks for holding the space for such things.

]]> By: Haley https://matthewhussey.com/blog/think-youre-ready-to-meet-the-one-watch-this-first/#comment-1117256 Sat, 12 Jun 2021 14:46:00 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=25137#comment-1117256 Love this idea of “making space for who someone actually is.” I recently heard it described as having an abundance mindset—looking at things in terms of what is there instead of what is not there. In a world of finite resources, we’re programmed to see the scarcity and feel threatened by it, but life is better when we choose to see people as abundantly enough.

Even if we eventually choose that a long-term relationship with a person is not the course we want to take, it is not because they are not enough of something but more because of some kind of functional incompatibility (which is totally ok).

When it comes to things like love, character, hope, and happiness, there is an infinite amount to go around. There is no limit on what a person can become.

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