Over years of being on TV and radio, running a company with over 30 full-time staff, and speaking to audiences of thousands of people, I’ve learned the techniques that make people immediately compelling.
I’ve also learned the annoying habits that people get wrong (and which must be avoided at all costs if you ever want to win people over…)
So here it is, my #1 secret to getting people hooked in the first 60 seconds…
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I wanted to watch this all the way through but had to read it bcos audio not that good. But caption not on the screen long enough. So I got frustrated and turned it off.
Telling a story & really listening to people & helping them is very important to me.
This is exactly how to start ALL relationships! No two people or companies are the same. Early in my career I heard it pegged as WIIFM – What’s In It For Me? – ME being the person who you’re talking to. Ask key questions, relate key points back to them, THEN discuss you. Listening first makes it easier to touch on the things that connect your world to that company’s or person’s situation. This is a great reminder and GOLD for anyone who hasn’t done business or life this way. It really does work!
Dear Matthew,
all that concern is who will paid the bill. I’m not a very rich woman but all men said I will sent you a gift but you should paid for the enormous bill of delivering the parcel. Now that you could buy at your country into a small price yet you should paid an enormous bill of charges and then never heard for the guys.
Thank you
Your sincerely
From Reshma Cungayowaree Bacorisen
I have cancer, and everyone I speak with compares their health experiences to mine. Foot surgery is more dramatic, etc. Conversations are one-sided. The conversation turns into me being their psychologist, and the conversation ends when they’re done telling their stories. I guess I’m having a problem transitioning or relating experiences. My current way of resolving this is just not talking to people who have an inability to reciprocate.
Dear Matthew,
all that concern is who will paid the bill. I’m not a very rich woman but all men said I will sent you a gift but you should paid for the enormous bill of delivering the parcel. Now that you could buy at your country into a small price yet you should paid an enormous bill of charges and then never heard for the guys.someone should accept you as you are and you couldn’t obliged someone to love you but come and meet you by his own willingness but not forcing him to came to meet you up at your home place but by his own willingness came from his wish to meet you.
Thank you
Your sincerely
From Reshma Cungayowaree Bacorisen
Now we know why “me,I have,I do” people makes us run to the other side of Galaxy… Dudette, I dun’t care if you traveled, you have more things even more knowledge than me or whatever… *Eureka moment!*
Great video.Common sense to me but most don’t even have a clue because they’re so wrapped up in themselves or they’re so insecure. I get it!
i always get an error when trying to get any of you free stuff…..very frustrating……..
This is the core problem of all relationships. Humans are genetically wired for survival and we only care about ourselves, really. But because we are supposed tybe intelligent beings, we should overcome this ancient programmed instinct and care about the other person, which is a signal that they are more impressed to us than ourselves.
I have a boyfriend for years, who never really had a relationship and he never cared about my heritage or who I was as a person. He likes me but if I wasn’t in his life, he would be just fine too. He is constantly breaking my heart and letting me know because I ‘ll never be the star of our show. He likes to be alone and he doesn’t really want a partner in life. I know I deserve better but can’t seem to break up with him for good. I don’t feel wanted. And I love and care about him more than he ever will me. It makes me crazy and I am yearning for a real connection, to be someone’s world.
Thank you so much
Matt I love listening to you and you have helped me grow a person BUT this one bit of advice is by far the most powerful. It reaches across every strand of life.
Just Brilliant
OMG, I totally looooved this video because it’s so true.
I was thinking more of a sales presentation & even for making friends, more than dating hehe Maybe because I have a bf :)
Love u Matt!!!
Living/dating n Hollywood and working in entertainment. All everrrrr people talk about is there a bloody resumes. I don’t effing care what you do, or what show you’ve been on. I care who you are, what lights you up and how you light others up. ♀️
This might be the most game changing advice you’ve ever given. Thank you!!
Hi Mathew,
Thankyou for all of your emails and videos. Youur way of explaining the complicated communication skills is cool!
Wow…
Your point of view caught my eye and was very interesting. Thanks. I have a question for you.