Comments on: To Anyone Feeling Single and Lonely . . .

By: Devi

Devi — Wed, 07 Jul 2021 09:13:01 +0000

Anthony Bourdain was a big hero of mine, too. And if he were still alive and in pain, this is what I would tell him: “Real love is a long marination of qualities to do with respect, admiration, appreciation, character, affection, cooperation, honour and sacrifice.” (It’s a quote I borrowed from Dr. Laura Schlesinger.) -But if you haven’t had that experience of love in your life, then you can rationalise to yourself that you haven’t experience real love, yet – so anyone giving you anything less than that, is or was, just a waste of your time, until the real thing presents itself. And it’s a belief that is worth living and waiting for, for all of us smart enough to recognise it, when it does present itself. We have to learn to love wisely, instead of too well. (“Tale of a man who loved not wisely, but too well” – that was Othello. And look where it got him.) Loving wisely, rather than too well; with our minds that have a set criteria for what love is – that is the way forward. I wish Anthony was still around so I could have told him that.

By: J.T

J.T — Mon, 05 Jul 2021 07:09:29 +0000

Last month I was so burned out at work that I had no energy left to speak. My colleague came in to request something from me. I did not speak I just nodded and kept looking at my screen. He caught on that something was off so he came to stand in front of me and he saw tears rolling down on my face on their own beneath the mask.
He said “Ok, forget my request. It’s already lunchtime. Did you eat?” I said no. So he dragged me out to lunch.

To be honest, it was a very kind gesture of him. It felt a little better to have a good companion during my meal instead of breaking down alone – buried in work.

By: Alicia O

Alicia O — Mon, 05 Jul 2021 02:46:04 +0000

I’m not dating anymore (I’ve decided to take a break until my kids are grown up) but I keep watching your videos anyway. Today’s resonated with me. I feel lonely all the time and in my job (I work as a home healthcare worker) I see a lot of lonely people, kept at home with health problems which make going out a challenge. Many live alone or with caregivers who are burnt out and lonely themselves. The pandemic has made things ten times worse. With cellphones and tablets, and tv streaming apps to occupy our time, a people spend so much time in artificial contact with people that it results in a loneliness in our society which we don’t even realize exists. I mainly work with the elderly, and I often hear about the way they met their spouse, the most common ways being at a dance, at a sports day, at church, through a friend or they were a neighbour who lived down the road. Back in the day, people actually went out to do things and meet people and they really wanted those real relationships. Nowadays, we sit on our phone and it keeps us from boredom but it makes us oblivious to the fact that we really aren’t cultivating those important relationship, because our so-called relationships with our “Friends on Facebook” are not really relationships, they are unfulfilling in ways which we need. I moved back to my hometown a few years after the relationship with my children’s father went kaboom and I have struggled to make friends. I played in rec sports leagues and volunteered in an effort to make friends and though those activities contributed to me feeling happier, it never led to any friendships created. People just seem busy or they already have friends and don’t need more. I hold out hope that one day I will find a kindred spirit, a friend who I can really connect with. Maybe if I can find a friend or two, I won’t feel like I need a romantic relationship to fulfill those needs of companionship. I’ve already decided to hold off dating for the next decade but when the loneliness rears its ugly head, I find myself on an online dating app contemplating finding that special someone to share myself with and feel less lonely. Its too bad their are no major apps for finding friends rather than lovers.

By: Jidetha

Jidetha — Sun, 04 Jul 2021 22:11:03 +0000

Correction: *make me …

By: Jidetha

Jidetha — Sun, 04 Jul 2021 22:08:08 +0000

Feeling like there is an abundance of love that I still have to give is what I struggle with, it is less about loneliness and more about being unable to give that love to a special someone, outside of family, feeling is that what brings me to Matthew’s ‘How to Get the Guy’ videos, etc., because without Matthew’s encouragement to persevere, how dreary life would be. Yes being in this together with amazing individuals makes me love myself more. Thank you Matthew for always being there when I need you most. Continue the good fight because we sincerely appreciate you for being ‘you’ to us.

Jidetha V. Somersall

By: Mag

Mag — Sun, 04 Jul 2021 19:00:24 +0000

Hi Matthew, thank you for this video. I think what makes our world such a lonely place is lack of kindness in every day life and blindness to the others. People forget that a smile or a simple good word is important and sometimes means a world to a lonely one. Hugs to everyone who feels lonely today :)

By: Nadine Vanderpoorten

Nadine Vanderpoorten — Sun, 04 Jul 2021 14:15:48 +0000

Hi Matthew, so true what you say, we all are here to be on this single journey together, its also something to look forward to, that can keep a person goin, that is what we should create more of in our life, things to look forward to. I really value you in my life, happy to be a vital part in the commmunity :) hugs x

By: Carmela

Carmela — Sun, 04 Jul 2021 08:58:01 +0000

I really liked the part where the audience lit up. I think it’s beautiful and sometimes not feeling alone when you’re surrounded by people can be activated by just that, genuinely. It’s great to have the ability to be able to appreciate all that our emotions can do for us, especially the ones that are commonly repressed. I agree, sometimes it feels like there’s a secret agenda to always remain positive, but the reality is that there are ups and downs in life like the quote “it’s okay not to be okay”. I like the idea that productivity isn’t only work that you get paid for. Work can be defined in all areas of our lives especially when working on ourselves.

By: Crystel Tottenham

Crystel Tottenham — Sun, 04 Jul 2021 03:43:24 +0000

Connecting people and becoming connected is the most noble goal I can think of.

I sense it takes a deep, personal understanding for this to become your ‘why’. So thank you, Matthew, I hope you always know you are, also, not alone.

By: Marta

Marta — Sat, 03 Jul 2021 23:49:04 +0000

Wow, truth so rarely spoken about because there is so much stigma attached to being lonely!