Comments on: What the Post-Covid Dating Boom Means for Your Love Life

By: Linda

Linda — Thu, 17 Jun 2021 14:51:09 +0000

During the PandemicI tried dating apps thinking that men would be more open to video chat, which helped with knowing they were not a catfish. But found the opposite. It was like the scammers were out to play and take advantage of it. Especially the ones wanting to scam older women. So I havent pursue dating all year. I miss it so much!! I am an extrovert and really miss connecting with people. Not sure when it is safe to try again

By: EJ

EJ — Tue, 08 Jun 2021 14:17:25 +0000

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How do I date when I need to rebuild my social life. I can’t see that being healthy. I think I need to get used to the transition and start creating social networks. I would love to date , socialize but jumping into bed with someone , not really interested, Committing to someone right away , not healthy without a life of my own again. I strongly believe I will meet some great men, date and get to know them and go from there. I am not online and don’t plan to be. I want the person in front of me talking , so I need to get active, take trips, courses and socially engage in life again.

By: Kelly

Kelly — Tue, 08 Jun 2021 11:25:24 +0000

In this era post what we all hope to be peak Covid, the stableness of a good mate is priority to me. Someone who is a good foundation, my anchor, my best friend, my go to. It was awesome to realize the man I was with was that person.

By: Pretty Lady

Pretty Lady — Tue, 08 Jun 2021 00:04:02 +0000

My experience is somewhat similar to Susanne’s and Shivanthi’s (in the comments). I still have the same dating and relationship goals as pre-pandemic…. Have fun dating to meet my Right man and then having an exclusive, long-term / life-partnership with him. That has been my goal for over 10 years, since my divorce was final. I was in a 9 month love coaching program during the pandemic and feel I love and accept myself more than I did a year ago. Yet, during the pandemic, I only dated 2 guys for about 4-6 weeks each, and when exclusivity or commitment started being brought up, both guys faded out or ended it/ they started dating others and wanted to keep their options open. I wasn’t pressuring; it was that type of conversation that Matthew spoke about in a prior video. I had 1-4 dates with a few other guys during the pandemic as well. Anyway, I’m feeling a little on the hopeless side because it feels like men in general seem so non-committal and have so many options online right now. I’m just over 50, and I’m fun and pretty and have a great job. My last teen at home will be going off to University in the fall. I’m truly a catch, but for some reason, men don’t seem to be able to recognize that. I’m not meeting high quality men, or the guys I think might be high quality that I meet in real life don’t make any effort to pursue me or ask me out. I keep attracting men who either drink a lot or are non-committal/emotionally unavailable, and I’m not going to have a relationship with either. Sigh…. I hope you respond to some of these comments Matthew or Stephen or Jamison! Pandemic dating was very difficult, and I’m an outgoing, out on the town, adventurous person…. Now I just feel exhausted, but I want to keep my energy high. Thoughts??

By: Tasha Roraback

Tasha Roraback — Mon, 07 Jun 2021 20:44:46 +0000

I am more eager for a serious relationship yet I’m not actively seeking that. I’m still trying to wrap my head around life, transitions and all that going back to normal entails. Taking things slow but with the goal to put myself back out there soon. What I’ve valued in a partner in some subtle ways has changed but some already existing values were strengthened in my mind even more.

By: Carme

Carme — Mon, 07 Jun 2021 20:06:59 +0000

I learned to love being by myself during lockdown,and I feel grateful I hadn’t to cope with the ups and downs of living with somebody all the time. I hav very good neighbours that supported me and a lot of videocalls and calls with friends and family.
Eventually I want a serious relationship, but I think that after so much inactivity I ‘d like to enjoy a bit of roaring twenties before (not a lot of frenzy, just having some dates).

By: Kate

Kate — Mon, 07 Jun 2021 19:08:51 +0000

I was single and in a bad way in March 2020 just before the first lockdown hit. For me it was a gift. I had time (being on furlough) to stop, go inside and work on myself mentally, emotionally and work on loving myself.
I got through it all on my own, landed a new, better job and found I was happy enough on my own. More importantly, I learned to love myself.
I would like to meet someone one day, but it is nowhere near the top of my priorities list! My priority now is buying my own home, looking after myself and those I care about and making sure I look for the joy in every day.
If there is going to be a “go nuts free-for-all” when restrictions are lifted, I think I’ll stand well back and let the madness ensue without me thanks. I’ll be sitting in my garden, relaxing in the sunshine, with a cat and a cuppa ;)

By: Tara

Tara — Mon, 07 Jun 2021 12:13:09 +0000

I went into the pandemic with a new-ish boyfriend who only just graudated university (he’s a few years younger). He was robbed of finishing his last year of a 5 year degree as it should have been, and has struggled to find work, and moved back in with his parents. It has tested our relationship in ways a new relationship isn’t normally tested I think.
I have felt so confused because I don’t want to judge him for pandemic struggles but I haven’t been able to see who he would have been if life had continued as normal with graduation and job seeking. I haven’t met his friends, see him have hobbies or anything that I first fell in love with.
I feel we clung to each other as lifeboats throughout the pandemic and now it’s starting to ease we’re both unsure about our future.
I feel so uncertain if we should stay together to see how things develop or if I should cut and run. He’s displayed so many wonderful qualities that have seen us through the pandemic and supported me emotionally, I don’t know if it’s enough to throw away. But that honeymoon phase was taken from us and it has felt so… boring?
At the same time I feel very scared to be single now in the midst of this dating scene – I barely recognise it. My single friends are grabbing the first men they go on dates with and trying to settle down ASAP after their difficult pandemics, and I can’t bear the thought of being alone when the music stops – like in musical chairs. Do I keep my current chair or try and find a new one?

By: Kerrie

Kerrie — Mon, 07 Jun 2021 11:47:51 +0000

The pandemic has not affected where I am very much although I have spent a bit more time being self reflective. I think its given me more time to decide what I really want and thats a good thing. To be honest… I’ve got to the point where I don’t really feel a relationship is necessary but if I come across a fellow in which we have shared values, mutual interest and attraction, then yeh – that would be rather grand.

By: Laura

Laura — Mon, 07 Jun 2021 11:10:43 +0000

I guess the post-pandemic life for me will be focused on going back to what I love doing, enjoying life and if while doing that I find someone I can connect with and I can go deeper into building a special relationship with… well I would gladly welcome it. On the other hand I proved myself that I can survive a pandemic alone so I am in the best position to be selective in choosing a partner. I love sharing and investing and building with somebody else, but I can enjoy life also by myself.