https://matthewhussey.com/blog/other/relationships-what-you-want-vs-what-you-pay-for-it/ Have The Love Life You Want Sun, 25 Apr 2021 18:56:06 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.1 https://matthewhussey.com/blog/other/relationships-what-you-want-vs-what-you-pay-for-it/#comment-1111105 Sun, 25 Apr 2021 18:56:06 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=25005#comment-1111105 Thank you Stephen. This is so true. The last few years I’ve been working all the hours that God sends, building my own writing practice and completing book-length projects, which have been all-consuming. I have hobbies, take extremely good care of myself, and do all that I can to maintain all key friendships and relationships in my life. In dating, I have found that men like the idea of me, building up an image of the person they think I am, often disregarding the reality of my life (which manifests as anything from patronising comments [“you’re too pretty to work this hard”] to guys who show me off in front of their parents, friends, and bosses, telling me how great, smart, and worldly I am, but then are never willing to read, learn languages, or join me for a yoga class, which are some of the things that account for my time). While I’ve never struggled getting interest from guys and have been in several relationships, I’ve never been able to find the right fit and have asked myself many difficult questions about the changes I’d have to (be willing to) make to be in a relationship. I’m hopeful and always look forward to new connections, but I’m at times wondering whether what lights me up in life is even compatible with a long-term, deep, committed partnership, and, if it is, what type of person would excite me and keep up with me, while making me willing to trade off some of the things I love now for this new thing I’d love in the future (and what kind of life they’d have to [want to] be living for me to fit in with their vision).

]]> https://matthewhussey.com/blog/other/relationships-what-you-want-vs-what-you-pay-for-it/#comment-1111030 Sun, 25 Apr 2021 06:09:13 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=25005#comment-1111030 In my career i always encounter the term “hidden cost” but i never thought of it when it comes to relationships. From now on,i will consider this!I know this information will help me choose to enter into a relationship with costs that i know i can handle very well. Thank you!

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