I am glad you did brought up to issue because you’re speaking to the converted. It’s basically my life, in a nutshell. Men often go after me on the basis of how I look – only to find that it’s the least of my qualities – and then they can’t handle it.

Oh dear; was being valued on the basis of how I rate as a piece of ass, meant to simultaneously exclude having self-respect, boundaries and an assertive opinion? A GEEK IN THE BODY OF A SUPERMODEL? WHAT DO WE DO? RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!!

It leaves me in the predicament of being chased mostly by assholes (read: narcissists). And then when I do try to speak to someone that I like; someone that I think is on an intellectual par with me, demonstrates the qualities of OCEAN (open, conscientious, empathic, agreeable and not neurotic) – he freaks, runs and I get ghosted.

Methinks tis’ quite the predicament. Quite.

Btw ‘Tall, Dark and Handsome’ is an archetype which describes the Romantic poet Byron; a ‘Byronic Hero’, who was reputedly a womaniser, hence the other phrase associated with him; “Mad, bad and dangerous to know.” (But I am guessing you knew that, already?)

P.S. It’s interesting how Google managed to confuse your height with mine? I am the one who is 5”7.