Comments on: Too Unsexy to Date? The Truth About Body Image & Attraction

By: Nadine Vanderpoorten

Nadine Vanderpoorten — Sat, 14 Aug 2021 14:47:40 +0000

Hi Matthew,

I do think people cancel dates for things that probably don’t matter, the negative effect of that is, if we truly like someone, we already lost them, because we did not live up to our promise of showing up, they were excited to see us. So they probably never get back to us again. Cos what excuse are you then goin to sell them, they might think its on them, that something is wrong with them that you didn’t show up.
Say for example as a woman, u catfish men online, you don’t look like your pictures online, that can be a reason someone doesn’t want to date, they agree to go on a date, then cancal with an excuse, cos they know they are an imposter online.
Or u had eating something in the week, ur body decides to have a bloated stomach, or have acné, or ur outfit don’t fit anymore, or shoes don’t fit, while they hope to have a good time, enjoy the date, etc,
Mostly its for silly things I think people cancel dates.
You only know if someone truly likes you if they also see you in your lesser goodlooking days. Cos noone’s picture perfect every day. If we live with someone, they also see us without makeup, when we have our period, I look horrible during my period, not my best days :))) a lot of times when I don’t feel good some days, I actually look better than other days.
I would only cancel a date if I had a real genuine reason for it.

By: Seila Sanchez Lucas

Seila Sanchez Lucas — Sun, 08 Aug 2021 09:01:40 +0000

Hello Matthew,

I loved this video. What you say is so key to successful dating but it expands to all other areas in our life. It has taken me years and years to arrive at the same conclusion. Doubting our self-worth impacts the way we portray ourselves and it is precisely how we are perceived by others. We all have flaws, imperfections and I am sure the person we are meeting for a date will only look for the light shining from our soul, reflecting on the outside.

Personally, if I have agreed to go on a date, I would not cancel out of respect for the other person. I would feel very shallow to hold back on getting to know someone just because my tummy feels a bit bloated. I would wear something that would not put the attention on my belly and go ahead with the date.

Finally, men are so less likely to notice most of the things we ladies worry about. :)

All the best,

Seila

By: Claire

Claire — Sun, 08 Aug 2021 03:12:56 +0000

Thanks for bringing this up. I think as women, we are our worst enemy! I was very insecure when I was younger, never the pretty girl in school, but after so many decades, now at 52, I really don’t give a you-know-what about how people approve or disapprove that I am not skinny enough, or my boobs are too small, or anything related to how I look. Don’t get me wrong, I’m in great shape, I make myself pretty when I go out, and can easily pass as early 40s, but I’m way past the insecurity stage. I guess the bottom line is, you just need to grow older…

By: Unknown

Unknown — Sun, 08 Aug 2021 02:47:22 +0000

Ive had a couple of guys tell me after going on a date that I should really post pictures that look like myself more, and those times I felt and was a little heavier than I normally am. I don’t agree I think some people do notice.

By: Samantha Christensen

Samantha Christensen — Sun, 08 Aug 2021 00:58:58 +0000

WOW! This has definitely been ME before. I have allowed my discomfort in my appearance to alter the energy that I was able to give on a date. I could feel myself there on the date but not fully present. We are all energy and I can only imagine, now, from watching your video, how I could show up to my counterpart as a neat and cool woman but who was “closed off” and withholding or disinterested on a date. This video shifted a dynamic I’ve had in my mind. I feel dating can be awkward, but it doesn’t have to be. I can bring my best self and my full energy to the table and that is good enough. That pulls more weight than what I look like. No 1 dimensional crap! Very awesome video MH team!

By: Samira

Samira — Sat, 07 Aug 2021 13:00:50 +0000

Thank you, great video!!!

By: Suzie Smith

Suzie Smith — Sat, 07 Aug 2021 12:57:01 +0000

I just watched your video on body image. I am a tall blonde and I’m thin due to both body style and previous bout from cancer. I’m probably too thin but can’t seem to gain weight. Because of this I have a bit of saggy skin on my arms but worse I have some cellulite on the front of my legs. I can’t stand either one and I’m very embarrassed about having those things. My crippling body image keeps me from wearing shorts and meeting someone because I’m afraid they’ll be grossed out.
I’m often told I’m a beautiful woman and the 1st thing my brain goes to is…. You haven’t seen my legs….I feel like it’s false advertising in my part. How do I get past this? I’m a very successful career woman with my own business and I spend most all of my time alone. I would love to have a man in my life. Help.