Comments on: The REAL reason you can’t hang on to a friendship after a break up…

By: Jane

Jane — Sat, 13 Jan 2024 07:51:24 +0000

It is much easier to say Goodbye With Love … then walk away …. trying to stay in touch … or just friends … it will only cause you both furthur pain … and it leaves you both in limbo … especially if you still harbour feelings for one another … it is best to Love and let go ….

By: Prisca

Prisca — Mon, 15 Feb 2021 10:21:23 +0000

I was in a similiar situation a couple of years back. I started seeing a guy who i discovered had chosen to remain friends with his ex.We discussed about it and i got the assurance that they were just friends.He even introduced me to her as his new girl.To be honest,i was really naive about the whole thing.When i look back now,i know he was trying to have a serious acrobatic relationship with me .One day i got the shock of my life when the “alleged ex” confronted me in a public place about compromising her friendship with “my so called man”.I knew then that there were still unresolved feelings at play.I choose to walk away with my dignity intact when i realised that the guy was not willing to make a stand for me against the ex.Being friends with your ex is like that dark cloud forever threatening whatever relationship you choose to enter in.Lesson learnt there.

By: S.

S. — Sat, 13 Feb 2021 02:03:57 +0000

Hi Matt,
This is so true. I didn’t realise I still kept hoping we’d get back together until he met someone else a year later. I loved being his friend though. We supported each other through some bad times past year and had loads of fun, because the expectations of commitment were gone and he really opened up. I was heart broken when he said his new love he only met 2 weeks was more important than me after 4 years. I am friends with other guys I dated,but that wasn’t real love. I thank my ex for everything we had, even the lesson to let go which I really needed. I am free now.

By: Plami

Plami — Fri, 12 Feb 2021 09:19:34 +0000

“Treat your time like the precious jewel it is.” LOVE IT!
I am quoting you on social media!

By: Andreja

Andreja — Thu, 11 Feb 2021 22:39:28 +0000

“If you can remain friends with your ex, you were either never in love with them at all, or you still are”. I think the partners, who separated but are on good, or manageable terms with each other due to shared custody of children, are at least reasonable and mature adults. Not many behave that way after separation. Otherwise, I agree with the statement; I witnessed that with my friends, and it didn’t turn out well. There is a reason why someone has become an ex. I am not in favour of being in contact with my exes; I don’t keep any resentments against them, but I also don’t want them present in my life any more. The same holds for friendships, which have ended. I know that letting go of people, is difficult. But that’s a part of life; we sometimes hang on things, connections, whose time has expired, for too long and we can’t let loose of them. We need to make room for new people in our lives, but unless we do some “cleaning of energy ties” with them, we cannot move forward. During our life, we outgrow people for various reasons. We separate, and it would be quite unrealistic to drag all of them on our life journey; they are “emotional baggage”, which belongs to the past.