Comments on: The Introvert: How To Get Him Out Of His Shell – Men’s Personalities Part 4

By: Lily Rose

Lily Rose — Sun, 20 Dec 2015 19:14:28 +0000

In reply to olga. I don't understand why you cancelled a second time when things seemed to be going well. Was it because you feared that he wasn't looking for a romantic relationship? I thought you'd cleared that early on with him saying that he likes to take things slowly. I would just hive him space now. He may feel rejected at being cancelled on twice I. A row and not sure that uou will be committed to a future date.

By: Bruce Stark

Bruce Stark — Wed, 22 Oct 2014 04:25:21 +0000

Introverts are absolutely expressive, they simply do it.differently than extroverts. Instead of trying to “fix” an introvert why dont extroverts change THEIR way of thinking and see the world through somebody else’s eyes. Im so tired of extroverts thinking that introverts are just lost extroverts begging to be saved.

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By: Barbara

Barbara — Thu, 05 Dec 2013 14:53:21 +0000

In reply to Tony.

Seeing how Matt is an introvert himself, I doubt that this is his intention. I admit I’d rather have a more detailed explanation to the issue, though.

You are thinking about it as “changing” his personality, which certainly isn’t the case – not to mention that an introvert can occasionally very well act like an extrovert (it will still drain his energy, of course). And that one acts much much more open towards those who are close to him. Nevermind being talkactive.

The important thing to note down is that many introverts are much more reluctant to offer personal information, stories and the like. That does not mean that they are less communicative by default nor does it mean that they have no intention of doing so.
They are, however, slower doing so. Need more time to feel comfortable – the tips shown here encourage him to feel comfortable opening up. To feel welcome doing so and to be appreciated for what they are thinking.
It won’t change their introversion, but they will be likelier to talk about their thoughts and specifically personal information, because they will feel comfortable and appreciated for doing so.
It’s neither fixing nor changing the underlying personality trait

By: Tony

Tony — Fri, 20 Sep 2013 03:10:06 +0000

This is all worded as if to imply that introversion is some form of disorder which can, and should, be corrected. Introversion is no more an abnormality than extroversion. It does not require “fixing”.

No one is owed the “brilliant minds” of introverts (which is another common false assumption–a person is not magically “brilliant” or otherwise highly intelligent just because he/she is an introvert). Introverts and extroverts, alike, have incredibly brilliant intellectual gifts to offer. However, having an idea does not obligate a person to share it with the world.

The person who is looking to change their date (whether it’s an introvert or extrovert) is most likely dating the wrong person. A successful relationship includes an appreciation for a person’s individual qualities as well as his/her imperfections.

By: Elaine

Elaine — Fri, 12 Jul 2013 05:31:50 +0000

what about ME being the introverted one?…
=(

By: olga

olga — Wed, 26 Sep 2012 02:53:35 +0000

Hey, I was actually getting to know an introverted guy not long ago and everything was going well until I said something really stupid :( its quite a long story: He actually confessed it took him three weeks to work up the courage and give me his phone number. I texted him the day after he gave it to me and we started texting and talking ever since. Two weeks after that we went out for lunch and I really thought he was going to at least kiss me but he didn’t. Before all this I told him my bad experiences and my most recent one which it was with one of his former coworkers. I asked him why he gave me his number and in all the reasons he told me he thought I was attractive and wanted to hang out. After we went home lunch he texted me telling me he had a great time and that he was looking forward to going out again, in the conversation the topic came up of us being something more and he told me he liked taking things slow and that since we both agreed to seeing each other again that were having a good start. Here comes the stupidity, after a week I started to realize that I was liking him. See, my intentions were to be friends with him not yo actually like him and that’s exactly what was happening so i cancelled a dinner we had scheduled and since i was sick he said it was okay that he wanted ne to get well. I sent him flowers apologizing for cancelling, it was a beet mug with some white flowers as the “foam” he said he liked them and that they were very unique. So we scheduled another date for dinner that same week and all of the sudden i cancelled and i told him that it was best if we didn’t see each other for my own good!!!! He said in the text that if that’s what i wanted so be it that he didn’t have time for roller coasters that he was too tired. It has been about a week since that and i texted him to say hi and ask him of his well being but i haven’t gotten a reply back. Just two days ago i texted him that liked him a lot and that i had good but different intentions with him other than friends. He hasn’t replied back and i don’t know what to do. I want this man, i haven’t been in a relationship in like two years and he’s actually the first guy I’ve actually dated since then. I like him a lot and i miss him as a person, as a friend, and as someone I’m really interested in. I don’t know how to get him back, if i may say, he’s really an introverted guy and i just don’t know what to do. Can someone out there give me an advice???? :(

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