Comments on: What Tinder Is Doing To Your Self-Image

By: Caitlyn

Caitlyn — Thu, 19 Mar 2020 15:44:03 +0000

I used Tinder, briefly, when I was a first year college student, and I disliked it so much that it took years for me to give it another shot, with similar results. I realized that I disliked it because it made me feel worse about myself, not only in appearance but my inner self, as well. I felt shallow and superficial. For the same reasons listed here, to be sure, but also because I was looking at attractiveness and what little I could glean from the bio to determine who was “worthy” of speaking to me.

By: Loretta

Loretta — Wed, 18 Mar 2020 19:48:35 +0000

Yes Tinder made me question who I was and what I am looking for. It seemed that what I wanted is not out there on this app. It’s a big hook up app. I feel so much better off of it and if I’m alone then so be it. I am confident independent and should not have to lower myself to degrading guys on Tinder. There are better ways to meet guys and view their true self in person rather then lying behind a computer screen.

By: Ann

Ann — Wed, 12 Sep 2018 09:14:32 +0000

(30 F) I’ve had Tinder for less than 24 hours and I’ve had nothing but anxiety. I had 1 match who never responded and I realized I myself had accidentally swiped right on a couple guys, what if I was his accident? But for real- I’ve spent years working on my own self image and confidence, finally feeling liberated from a lot of the bullshit and minutes in I suddenly felt like what I was doing was wrong, like in its own way, participating in something that required me to make a snap first impression (based pretty much just on image/looks) without knowing someone’s motive or how genuine they are (and that they were doing that to me), felt like I was harming myself. While I understand its a “tool” to make it easier to meet people, it honestly feels harder whereas just putting yourself out there in person (no matter how awkward) somehow gives me a better idea of someone’s authenticity. I feel like I have enough social media “tools” as it is shoving these conventions and ideals down my throat that I don’t need the extra anxiety or pressure. Maybe one day I will attempt it again but right now it feels like I would be putting myself in a situation why I’m just hurting myself and I don’t want to force it.

By: Juliane

Juliane — Sun, 19 Aug 2018 01:28:30 +0000

I have been trying Tinder to see what it’s about. It gave me more insight on the type of men I attract and from my perspective it is depressing. Tinder is all about looks as you know and based on that I attract men that I’m not attracted to. Someone commented about their different luck on Tinder when overseas vs in US. I have to say, it makes total sense. The difference in the quality of how people from Europe treat you is huge (based on my experience so far). It seems cultural. I’d prefer to meet men from Europe. They are just different in the way they treat others. I’m a latina and in USA I’ve always been judged and discriminated. When I’ve encountered people from Europe they are so much more warmer as people. So my response I guess is that my self esteem while using Tinder has stayed the same. It has totally reflected my experience in the “real” world when I’m out and about. I get looks from those I feel no attraction to and the ones I am attracted to I don’t exist. Plus I culturally seem to live on the wrong side of the World.

By: Tee

Tee — Thu, 26 Apr 2018 06:37:09 +0000

It did make me feel worse about myself, and I would say I don’t normally have low self-esteem. I ended up deleting it a couple of months ago and feel really good about my decision.

By: CJ

CJ — Sat, 16 Sep 2017 22:15:02 +0000

It’s boost my self-esteem as long as you were there without jumping the gun and having expectations you will find the love of your life..for the most part, men are there to dally. I didn’t think I was drop dead gorgeous, but I saw 3,000 men in my general area liked me in a span of 2 weeks, and I felt I had options. That I have a right to be choosy now that I know who was interested. Convenient, yes it is.

By: Mona

Mona — Sun, 20 Aug 2017 21:41:49 +0000

for me it was a little bit of both…it increased my self esteem…after my divorce I felt ugly and my ex husband told me at the breakup that he wasn’t attracted to me. So to get matched got me excited but the lower occurred when the men didn’t chat with me after the first 2 days. I did deleted after back and forth on it for 2 years…haven’t been on it for 6 months, don’t miss it.

By: Charlotte

Charlotte — Sun, 23 Jul 2017 21:40:27 +0000

I haven’t tried tinder as i heard its just for people wanting sex but im on zoosk. Ive only been on it a couple of weeks and my emotions are like someone with bi polar. Ive had quite a few matches but the guys – well the 1st stood me up, the 2nd wasnt who he said he was and the 3rd was just chatting me up to then try and con me out of money. Those are the ones that hurt me as i really connected with these guys and i thought i mattered. Ive just been on a date tonite, nice guy but no attraction on my part. But the fact he hasnt tx to say thks for the date makes me feel like im fat and ugly. Another guy yest wdnt let me go till i wd send a full length photo – i told him if this was so important to him i didnt think itd work. He later put lol!!! Delete delete.., another guy who’s shown interest is always online – so im guessing hes chatting up other girls. I am not one of those instagram beauties so i will always feel that there will be someone else out there better than me. I also have to deal with 20 million messages from weirdos – 3 i had to block cos of stalkerish behaviour and harassment. With this site u can feel really gud when the tx flirting is happening but completely rejected and used at the same time. I feel the site doesnt let someone get to know u as a person merely just by the way u look and thus i will always feel inadequate.

By: Celia

Celia — Sun, 21 May 2017 14:15:01 +0000

In reply to Lindsay Dominguez. Totally true. It completely changes your view on men in the area you live and discourages you from actually going out at all...

By: Celia

Celia — Sun, 21 May 2017 14:12:52 +0000

I have deleted it several times. Apart from lowering my self esteem it’s also making me wonder if there are any potential men out there that aren’t hideous or stupid or taken.tinder has kept me from going on dates for 2 years after moving to Michigan…. on the other hand I feel like you HAVE to use it to meet anyone at all…