Comments on: If You’re Dating & Want a Family, You Must WATCH THIS… https://matthewhussey.com/blog/if-youre-dating-and-want-a-family-you-must-watch-this/ Have The Love Life You Want Wed, 21 Dec 2022 05:07:58 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.1 By: Mags https://matthewhussey.com/blog/if-youre-dating-and-want-a-family-you-must-watch-this/#comment-1178653 Wed, 21 Dec 2022 05:07:58 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=69909#comment-1178653 Thanks for this video Matthew! I really think it’s so important to think but to also talk more about such options! I had that option in my mind for when I was turning 30. However back then I was in a relationship and also did not want engage financially.. Ultimately the relationship ended and I took back up the idea at 33, got a consultation with doctors, but it took me until 35 to finally do it. I always found excuses, to be too busy, to not be able to combine it with my work schedule etc. In the end I really did it while working full time and it was so worth it, I was so proud of myself and it really marked a milestone of achievements for that year. The only regret was of course that I had not done it earlier. I actually did not know anyone personally who has done it, so it was a bit extra hard, which is why I think that your video is great and can be a helpful source in the decision making process.

What I also wanted to point out that cost wise it’s cheaper to do it in Germany (I would assume overall in Europe). I did it here because I am German, but the doctors assured me that the stored eggs can be transferred to other countries easily, if I happened to move. In Germany we’re looking more in the range of 5000€ ($5,3k) and I paid even less ~2500€ ($2,6k), as it highly depends on every individual body and amount of medication needed. Also I ordered all medication by myself from a pharmacy in Belgium, as the medication was more affordable there. I’m glad that the doctors suggested it themselves for me to save some costs, although I was a bit nervous to make a mistake frankly speaking. Storage costs are ~260€ annually ($275), in my case.

As to the procedure itself: it was pretty smooth. The first self-injection was the hardest one, but I watched YouTube videos for that specific medication, which gave me reassurance, although the doctors explained to me where and how it should be done beforehand. Doing it by yourself at home is a different story though, and I was a bit nervous I must say. I also had a close friend with me for the first day who gave me additional reassurance.
The egg retrieval itself was also very smooth and not painful. I actually even worked until the very last minute before I had to go into the doctors room. I was on local anesthetic only and for me it worked fine for that 15min procedure. Overall I had 31 eggs successfully frozen (41 harvest), which is a lot, especially in one go, hence I was really happy and proud that I went through with it. It did make me feel empowered.

The only pain followed afterwards, for approximately 2-4 weeks. I still felt very bloated, I looked a bit pregnant. I could ride my bicycle even days later only very carefully as I felt every bump on the road very differently, as if not all inside of me had “healed” yet. But that’s about it, all 100% back to normal after 2-4 weeks.

That was my experience which I’m happy to share here.

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By: Heather https://matthewhussey.com/blog/if-youre-dating-and-want-a-family-you-must-watch-this/#comment-1178544 Mon, 19 Dec 2022 03:13:07 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=69909#comment-1178544 I am in my mid 30s. I am single. I just want the find a great man to love and love me back and get married. I don’t want to have children at all.

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By: Louise Cook https://matthewhussey.com/blog/if-youre-dating-and-want-a-family-you-must-watch-this/#comment-1178515 Sun, 18 Dec 2022 18:06:57 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=69909#comment-1178515 It’s such a fascinating topic. For me, it’s making the decision about whether children is for me. I always saw myself with children but for whatever reason, the relationships I’ve had, haven’t amounted to me having any. I’m 36 now and single. I don’t have a lot of family support around me so that worries me. It feels like if I think about not having children, it makes me sad and upset because the whole biological pull is to reproduce but then I always don’t want to rush into anything purely just to have a child.
For me, it’s not necessarily the getting pregnant part but deciding whether or not to action anything as the years tick by and I’m still no further forward.
It’s certainly a frustrating age to be where starting a family is concerned.

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By: Megan Gardner https://matthewhussey.com/blog/if-youre-dating-and-want-a-family-you-must-watch-this/#comment-1178513 Sun, 18 Dec 2022 17:35:59 +0000 https://matthewhussey.com/?p=69909#comment-1178513 Wow! What an incredible and informed conversation! I am 39, single, and have always wondered about freezing my eggs for myself. Has the ship sailed? What is the process? Is it worth it at my age to consider? Well, I learned a ton. I feel a bit of relief knowing there is still time for it, if I choose to do it. And if I couldn’t become pregnant with my own eggs that donor eggs are an option. I realized that for me, even though Ive always wanted to have children from my body, I dont want it enough to go through freezing my eggs and using a sperm donor to raise a child on my own. So that takes some pressure off. Also, knowing that I have a history with depression and anxiety and that the body is really pushed through the process, makes me hesitant to try. And even in a natural pregnancy with hormones increasing and changing my body/brain chemistry, that has been a concern to me. And that’s all without the unaffordable financial factor, which applies to me as well. I think in watching this and forming this comment I realize I’m ok if I never experience pregnancy.

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