Comments on: These 2 Words Will Help You Heal Your Heartbreak

By: Amanda

Amanda — Mon, 22 Mar 2021 03:20:01 +0000

Hi Matthew. I’ve been MIA for a while but found this & the following video delightful. I AM very good at exaggerating men’s good/bad points – the demon/angel thing’s great. In fact that’s how I was with the last 3 “promising” guys. And I HAVE stopped whingeing! One disappeared entirely, and one I run into occasionally, but don’t “buy into” anymore, and he doesn’t know it, but he’s become a rather pitiful character in a book I’m writing and I’m DELIGHTED when I discover he actually lives up (or down) to the scenarios I predict for my character! And the third was a good friend before and is still and I shrug to think it could’ve been any different. His wife’s in a nursing home with Alzheimer’s. I visit her regularly and he’s grateful but even if she predeceases him I don’t think he’ll ever be there for me. But I don’t read his FB posts about their lovely large extended family anymore, realising that OF COURSE they could never accept another woman in their dad,or step-dad’s, or father-in-law’s life, or if they could, it wouldn’t be me. Sadly, I don’t have any of that, but that’s a separate issue, I DO have other stuff to get on with! And I HAVE done a lot of healing. So I’m actually on track with my life!

By: Mary Macharia

Mary Macharia — Mon, 15 Mar 2021 17:36:44 +0000

This is so insightful! I really like the analogy of the athlete recovering from an injury.

By: Carli

Carli — Sun, 14 Mar 2021 19:42:12 +0000

This is so good! This is so true! Thank you for every second of this wisdom. I can’t tell you how helpful it is to be reminded that I am a more useful person to my loved ones and the world because of this break up, the reminder that I can do hard things, that a healthy plan of recovery is important, that healing takes time and to be gentle with myself, and most importantly that just like his “feelings changed”, so will mine! It’s a problem because it hurts, not a problem with my growth or a reflection of my future.. Don’t wake up with 6 problems as a result of ignoring these truths.. hair grows, emotions change and I could not be more encouraged. Thank you

By: Helene

Helene — Sun, 14 Mar 2021 18:26:18 +0000

Omg Clarrissa sounds so smart

But seriously this is so good.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Sun, 14 Mar 2021 16:07:11 +0000

Interesting that you should send this today. I think my relationship is over after a huge fight yesterday. It’s dreary and cold here in Montana and I want to curl up and waist away. I know that I stood up for myself and had integrity while untrue accusations were thrown my way but my self-esteem did take a hit. I will probably go for a walk later but now I think a nice self message and some “My so called life” is just what the doctor ordered. Thanks for always helping me and many others through these rough times and trumpeting that we are worthy of respect, dignity and love. I hope to find it someday. This too shall pass.

By: Kathleen Kelly

Kathleen Kelly — Sun, 14 Mar 2021 15:28:49 +0000

I want to stand up and cheer after listening to this! Somewhere there’s a person listening to this who’s feeling so hopeless, who’s in so much pain, that they’ve considered ending their life just to make the pain STOP… and now they have hope to carry on.

Matthew, Stephen, you’ve probably saved a life today.

Best,

Kathleen

By: Pamela Vintimilla

Pamela Vintimilla — Sun, 14 Mar 2021 15:22:09 +0000

I really liked all the comments and points of view, I agree with Matthew that if we don’t take care of that heartbreak, we might end up with 6 or more problems added to that one. I recently went through it, and now I am trying to regain that balance and getting things in order. I feel I wasted too much time in the middle of the healing process in terms of the other things that I had to take care of while healing. But in the end, we are human beings learning and under constant construction of ourselves. Life is beautiful no matter what! Thanks!

By: Cheri

Cheri — Sun, 14 Mar 2021 13:02:05 +0000

Emotions zchange as we grow and expand our life experience. After a heart wrenching loss I pushed things that prior would have been something I didn’t do . As I did these things I changed I grew inside. Over time this became a plethora of new experiences that built my confidence my energy my mind. My emotions changed because I was a different person than I was before. My perspective changed so much that when I ran into him almost 6 months later I didn’t want to be with him it was like ,the moment in Pride and Prejudice the original pbs series when elizabeth says to the charming but I’ll fit Wiickam – Go Go I would not wish you back again ,

By: SHIVANTHI KULASINGHAM

SHIVANTHI KULASINGHAM — Sun, 14 Mar 2021 01:50:49 +0000

I appreciated Stephen Hussey’s words here. I resonated with what he was saying because he expressed raw emotions. And I love the Athlete vs Hangover Recovery methods. A big ‘Aha’ moment for me.

By: Arlene

Arlene — Sat, 13 Mar 2021 23:20:19 +0000

Hi I been in a relationship for 18years now I did all I should,we build a home together after all those years he move like he don’t care and everything about our relationship change in a second,we have a daughter together and he changed so much I don’t even know him right now.Now our relationship is coming to an end because he said it’s over and he don’t need or want me.Mathew it hurts so much because I put so much in this relationship and love him so much but he don’t love me.I don’t know what to do…am feeling so broken because I did nothing wrong.