Comments on: How to Make 2024 the Year You FIND LOVE

By: Chelsea

Chelsea — Thu, 08 Feb 2024 22:14:46 +0000

The pattern I want to work on is not obsessing over things I cannot control. Also creating stories in my head for why I think someone does or doesn’t do something.

By: SM

SM — Thu, 18 Jan 2024 18:38:34 +0000

In reply to Natasha Cako. Thank you for your comment. I have struggled with all the same things you wrote but never can express to anyone; especially myself. It makes me sad that there are so many people with truly good hearts that want to see the good in everyone. Wearing our hearts on our sleeves is not only scary but BRAVE. Please know that reading all these posts and listening to MH videos has given me so much more power to help me learn, develop and master this crazy life where all we want is to love and be loved for the beautiful soul we are. You aren't alone!!! -

By: Margaret

Margaret — Sat, 13 Jan 2024 20:03:17 +0000

The main problem that I face is not wanting to be judged by others. I don’t judge other people, just except them the way they are,
I avoid people who gossip and are really negative. But I would very much like to overcome what happens when I have to play
my music in front of other people in spite of the fact that I know I can do it well but I just freeze. It is the same thing when I play
a golf competition. I know I can play well but when it’ a competition it is a whole different story. I just go sort of blank. Problably it
goes back to being judged. I would so much like to overcome it.

At any rate, thank you for the messages that you send out. They have helped me so much in keeping positive and grateful and
cheerful. Also, you had spoken in the virtual retreat about not being intimidated by people – took it to heart and so much has
changed. Again thak you so much.

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Thu, 11 Jan 2024 02:32:35 +0000

I’ve had the very good fortune of being able to retire on my 55th birthday just a few weeks back. My job was stressful and I felt huge relief initially. I’m enjoying discovering the ways I like to spend my time and have some amazing travel plans. That said, I think my wiring also is to find the stress, similar to they’ll way Matthew just described. I want to stay focused on enjoying this phase of my life.

By: veronica montealegre

veronica montealegre — Mon, 08 Jan 2024 11:50:24 +0000

I have a hard time setting limits or declaring standards when I meet a person I like a lot. because of a childhood episode I had to postpone my needs because my parents had many problems of different kinds, so there was no option to declare a problem or need and I tried not to bother my family, even though I was an 8 year old girl. Therefore, I have this pattern that it is difficult for me to declare what I want and what is good for me, for the good of others, this is combined with asking for help which is also very difficult for me, I have at times made my life more difficult by not asking for help.

By: Shauna

Shauna — Wed, 03 Jan 2024 08:18:39 +0000

The pattern I find myself in over and over again is feeling impatient. Feeling impatient about when the guy will message next, when he might ask me out, etc.
This might stem from when I was planning to end my marriage and needing to wait until I knew I could do it. Thankfully that time came about 9 years ago, but it took several years from when I was certain to when I left. And I feel like I used every bit of patience in me. Anyway, thanks for letting me get that out.

By: Pamela Cohen

Pamela Cohen — Wed, 03 Jan 2024 07:31:25 +0000

This video confirms what I learned in the book I just finished reading called “Reinventing your life” by Young and Klosko about the different “lifetraps” we suffer from that are formed in childhood. I identified the “abandonment” and the “subjugation” lifetraps in myself. These have led me to develop an anxious attachment style and to be with partners who are dominant and don’t serve my needs. After I recognised this, I worked hard on becoming aware of my triggers and responses that in my dating life. After dating numerous people, I recently met a person with whom I have started to build a healthy relationship, on eye-level, and where my needs are being met.
Recognising your own lifetraps is essential to changing your relationships to healthy ones. Thank you, Matthew, for this insightful video and good luck to everybody in 2024!

By: Sarah

Sarah — Tue, 02 Jan 2024 20:48:57 +0000

My lifelong pattern is to ‘get on’ with things by myself – I was often left to my own devices as a child or else I was attempting to manage my Mum’s emotions (she was often sad). If I expressed my own needs/emotions I was labelled difficult by family members (still the case actually and I’m nearly 60!)
In 2024 I will be continuing to work on asking for and receiving support, love and help from others, which is extremely challenging for me , and allowing others to love me, believing the lovely things they tell me and not feeling I need to deal with almost everything myself (and then getting overwhelmed)

By: G

Tue, 02 Jan 2024 12:03:31 +0000

Happy New Year! People pleasing plus over this last year I have become terrified of asking about certain situations going in in my life, so I found I have held myself in a sort of highly emotional ‘safe’ prison, rather than trying to be brave and ask – which can only be better than where I currently am. Its exhausting, I recognise it and want to try and take small steps to overcome it. Here’s hoping!

By: Danielle Lee

Danielle Lee — Tue, 02 Jan 2024 08:34:21 +0000

This spoke to my heart Matthew! I’ve loved your work and have been following you for 6 years and you changed the trajectory of my life with your work so thank you! What you talk about in this video though – WOW. This is what can truly help us as humans to move forward to let go of our patterns that we are addicted to and use that energy to create what we actually want! Thank you so much for sharing and as always your vulnerability. My pattern is just not being good enough in so many ways – and Ive gotten pretty good and creating situations that allow me to get that hit and fuel this addiction! And my belief is that if I do speak up for myself and set boundaries I won’t be loved. I see this with compassion thanks for the reminder!! I’m working to believe I’m MORE than enough and always have been. And those who don’t love me anymore for being me need to be released anyway. Love you Matt!