Comments on: 3 Signs He’s Not Serious About You

By: Confused and want answers

Confused and want answers — Sat, 09 Nov 2024 12:22:19 +0000

I met a guy two years ago we were friends with benefits at first something we both agreed to. About a year later after he moved in with a girl he says he had loved me all this time and when I asked him why he left all he said was he got scared pretty much and after another 6 months we are together but now I’m confused because we hardly spend anytime together and we live together he isn’t affectionate and we hardly ever kiss even when we’re going to work and there really isn’t any bedroom stuff going on like maybe once a week if even that. So it’s got me wondering does he really want me and care for me like he says or am I just getting used? I’m so confused and need help please.

By: Melli

Melli — Tue, 19 Mar 2024 03:22:28 +0000

In reply to Jennie gunter.

Hi Jennie,

I came across your comment (I hope you were able to reach Mathew ), but I can relate to your situation. With a mother who literally prevented me from having any partner in my life until the age of 39. She sabotaged all previous interactions I had with a potential partner. Putting all sorts of “ultimatums” on me, pushing me to choose her. I had to show her that my heart is big enough for both of them.
It was only then at 39 she accepted my now current husband. I wouldn’t give up just yet. There is hope. The mother may not approve, but he is showing he is prepared to “defy” her wishes and continue seeing you. She will come around. She has no choice but to eventually come around. It’s how humans operate. I think keeping good communication with your partner in regard to how you’re feeling towards his mother is likely your only “better” option. At least then he knows 1. You’re “aware” of it, and 2. You’re prepared to respectfully “defy” her wishes for the relationship, too. You are “united” for the “fight” – not literally, of course.

Sometimes, we have to take a step back and allow others to “catch up” in the moment. Having been in your partners position, I personally don’t think anyone would act this way if “leading” on. It’s likely there is “someone else” he’s trying to please – his mother…

Remember, it’s your relationship, not hers. I wish you all the best and I have faith all will fall in place for you

Cheers,

Melli

By: Jennie gunter

Jennie gunter — Wed, 28 Jun 2023 23:30:32 +0000

Hey! I watch your relationship advice videos, and read packs you give out too, I find your advice fascinating and insightful! I’m very much desperate for help, I have not long (around 5 weeks) come out of a year and few month long relationship, sadly that was my longest, and my deepest connective one. Oddly we had 2 and half weeks apart just before we split, I did partially want to separate, but I was, and i am still in love with him, he however on that day seemed more keen to separate, but wanted to stay in my life, so then he the day after eneded up wanting to see me, and we spent 3 nights together, and haven’t stopped seeing each other since, and it’s been weeks.. I’m having regular contact, progression too (he has introduced me fully and have spent time with them regularly), also there’s a little bad blood with his mother, as, as we do as normal humans, is tell your best friend, family member when all the little disagreements happen, never when all the good stuff occurs.. strange really, as to this day I still don’t understand why she took such as disliking to our relationship overnight! Now, she is the only family member he has left and she has very much got a firm grip on him and, If I’m honest I don’t believe that she will ever approve of his choice in partnership as his last partner she disliked very much! I say all this as she is in the centre of this, she is lonely, so am I, but she takes all the time she possibly can from him xand I don’t know how to rebuild a bridge

When it comes to my ex partner, I don’t know where to go from here, we are enjoying our time together n with his v close friends, he stays over, I now go to his, which I didn’t in our relationship, we text, but not as much, it’s like starting over, or am I just being strung along? I really need your help Mathew, I have more questions to ask but this comment would be even longer than it already is!
I live in England, so sadly I’ve never beeb able to go to one of your retreats, I know I need you, you are the man I need to speak to and learn from, I just can’t afford to get to you in California, that’s just a dream unfortunately! So all I can do is reach out here and hope you hear me, thank you for taking so much time to read this, if you actually do.. sent with questions and holding on to hope x

By: Christy Tuttle

Christy Tuttle — Wed, 28 Jun 2023 03:58:47 +0000

We had a physical interest in each other, only.
Now it’s been 3 weeks with no physical contact.
Moving forward in hopes to remain friends.