Comments on: “Why Did They Stop Chasing Me??”

By: Ornadell

Ornadell — Wed, 20 Apr 2022 15:15:33 +0000

Mistake #1 & 2 committed… how to salvage the situation?

By: Lydie Lesellier

Lydie Lesellier — Mon, 18 Apr 2022 16:40:40 +0000

Great tips.
Thanks a lot.

By: Mela

Mela — Mon, 18 Apr 2022 03:42:30 +0000

I agree that people want to hook someone when they’re interested in them and want to create desire. I’ve noticed there’s a lot of psychological tricks out there that are effected to create “desire” but as all things in life sometimes the best intentions don’t matter if the outcome is negative although from a medical perspective it seems like people think that as long as your heart is beating everything is okay. This video made me realize how someone can internalize things and take them personally in dating. No matter how much we may desire to date, the reality of the situation is that if we don’t rebuild confidence we probably won’t be successful. I think everyone’s opinion on what love is might be different like romanticizing someone inflicting pain and being the remedy at the same time but I think non- codependent desire is much easier than that. Cool vid

By: Amy

Amy — Sun, 17 Apr 2022 21:47:22 +0000

I just went on the second date with a guy who exactly did these 3 things! On paper he checked all boxes, nice enough and we had fun dates, so I didn’t know why I didn’t “desire” him AT ALL. Now I know why, thanks for clarifying, and I won’t make that mistake for next guy for sure!

By: costanza

costanza — Sun, 17 Apr 2022 20:07:33 +0000

Hi Matt,
been following you for a while, more than I wish it was necessary.
In my last situationship, I didn’t do any of the mistakes you highlighted, if anytning I had read enough about you to know which video or script to think of when in need. Still, I find myself in one of those “what the fuck happened?” situation, where he cooled off and I don’t know how much it’s due to external situation (which I believe being serious and valid), and how much he’s being a douche.
So what’s for us, self confident women who didn’t undermined ourself in the first dates?

By: Susan Knight

Susan Knight — Sun, 17 Apr 2022 19:32:47 +0000

Thank you for pointing out the distinction between love and desire in dating. Very thought provoking.

By: Denise

Denise — Sun, 17 Apr 2022 12:55:21 +0000

Great video as usual, Matthew. I’ve been in a situation where the guy has told me some of the mistakes you mention; I don’t like my body, I’m insecure… I don’t see thee negatives that he does, but ultimately I then question why I’d be interested in someone who doesn’t value himself… Because if he doesn’t value himself, he can’t truly value me.