I met a lot of strong, independent challenging women who had lives of their own that they worked hard to create and placed at the top of their priority list. These women were interested in me because I was tall, lean, intelligent, financially secure, had a car, my own place and was dominant, open minded and energetic in bed. But, they had busy schedules, and they valued their independence.

I had a collection of them. My instant messaging program had dozens such women. And, when my daughter was with her mother for a week, and I wanted to get laid, I would message them, one by one, until I found one who was free and interested, and then I would show up, sometimes with alcohol and/or weed, and I would have sex with them, and then go home. Which was exactly what they wanted.

But, I did not commit to these women. None of these women had a snowball’s chance in hell of participating in a committed relationship with me. Their sense of self worth was intrinsically tied to their ability to abandon me any time they wanted to.

They are like a friend who never takes his shoes off when he comes to visit because he is always ready to run out the door at the drop of a hat, and half the time he bails on you half way through whatever it was the two of you were doing together. You don’t hate him, he’s a fun guy, there are no illusions, you’re not going to be disappointed because you know what he’s like… but you don’t trust him.

Eventually the emptiness of it all caused me to stop, not because anyone shamed me into it, but because I wanted a deeper connection than these women were able and willing to give.

I stayed single for a while, then I worked on getting myself to a place where I could pursue a serious relationship with one of those young women that you said we don’t take seriously.

Where, precisely do you get the idea that what you wrote in your article is accurate. Is it accurate? Do other men actually want this? Am I unusual? Or are you just selling bullshit to lonely women so they can look down upon the men who don’t want them and salvage their pride?

They want if for what they do and who they are!

They want to earn it, and be adequatly paid for it!

They want to prove it to those they work for represent; have duties towards; have commitments to; and those they want love and admiration from!

They want to be recognised in the appropriate way for their deeds and intent!

They want to know that they count and can be relied on!

They want the chance to gain respect!

They want to be judged as a man by men who are men!

They want to be worthy of those who put their love and trust in them!

I just meet this guy at the beach and we hit it off But when I got home from my vacation we were still texting at one point he asked me if I liked baseball I told him no he never texted me back I try Tex told him we could be friends he never answered so that’s the many reasons I am giving up

You really really really need to get a grip and get away from this guy. Read “The Rules” this guy is never coming back and you need to move on right now!! Seriously

Thank you for this AJ.