Does it have to be an American guy?
Do you really “need” him or do you just want one?

Say something before you build up resentment then there’s no turning back. If it were me, I’d take a Zyrtec allergy Med and kill the baby talk!! There’s nothing worse than hearing “baby talk” come from anywhere but a crib!!!

Girlfriend. You got to speak up on those two. You will soon start to resent him. Who knows, he may be very understanding and accommodating. But if you’ve already built up resentment there’s no turning back.
On the other hand, he SHOULd be accommodations and gentleman like. Although I have dogs and love furry friends, BUT it is a human’s bed and humans deserve first dibs! Don’t hit him right away with both. Start with the most annoying first! Your health is most important tho!
If it were me, I’d probably take a Zyrtec and then go after the baby talk since that’s a BIG turn-off for me!

Don’t ignore the red flags! They’ll come back to haunt you!!!

Ooh girl that’s a hard one. I’d be afraid that if you only seen him twice that maybe it might be too early to ask? That is unless you talk a lot on the phone? Can you give us more of a backstory? How much you’ve seen him and for how long?

The same with the baby talk. Here’s why. You expressing your needs explicitly, clearly and directly = providing a blueprint for him regarding how to make the relationship work really well for you.

If you don’t express your needs, your hiding from him the path towards making a great relationship with you possible.

When you reveal the path, he may or may not take it. However, at that point you’ve done your part by making the path known to him.

Because I can tell you this: I met a guy online. He lives in Dublin and I live near London. So I thought it would be a waste of time but bis messages were so nice that I answered anyway but was writing to/dating other people (Is that mean?). My other date (x) wanted to be exclusive and I reluctantly stopped writing to the Dublin guy. But after a couple of dates things with x disintegrated and I found myself relieved. So Dublin guy came to London and said he could come to my town to see me. We had to really nice dates. I happen to go to a conference in Dublin in 2 weeks. I had planned that last year. So I’ll spend a couple of extra days to explore and it would be a nice chance to see him again. He now invited me to stay with him and I’m slowly accepting. Als if things go well, I kind of want to ask him. Because what’s the point in investing and getting attached if I don’t even know if/when I will see him again? So when/how do I go about this?