We had different communication styles and were insecure because we connected so strongly that it scared us to go further. I had offered to focus on our friendship instead. But he was focused on other issues in his life and ghosted me as a result. He apologized after I explained I was confused, but his actions were lacking. So I reminded him of my boundaries (again as we had compromised before and it failed). But I never heard from him again.

He meant well by respecting some of my boundaries, but didn’t treat me like a priority with the lack of communication. So I had to walk away. It hurts because he was a good person in so many ways, but I’m glad that I learned how to be taken seriously when dating someone at the beginning and what my boundaries are.

If nothing else, these tips not only keep a guy interested…but he sees you as a person who deserves respect early on. That way if it doesn’t work out and/or you aren’t receiving that level of respect, go find someone who can do that for you.

He broke up with me and has made phone contact after a few months. A long chat. Said he’s busy for the next 5 week. 2 weeks on and no contact from him.
I don’t know what he wants..

FYI, I’ve blocked all other dating coaches’ emails because you are the guy with the most heart, depth, insight and thought-fulness in considering your advice. Bravo to you! XOXOXOXO

P.S. Congrats on your engagement. She’s a lucky girl!

I am dealing with this too right now. As high value women, we have to have awareness that some men have a certain “type” and being stuck in the friend zone means that essentially, although we are beautiful in so many ways.. the “type” we are he does not find “attractive” enough to ignite a romance… I am 5’3″, and fluxuate between 115 lbs in the summer and 125 lbs in the winter… My guy that I have been friends with for 8 months, and adore… pretty sure he’s a boobs man. I am a solid 32C when I am at my heaviest, and 34B when I am at my most lean… Either way, I think he only wants to make out and be romantic with C cup plus… This SUUUUCKS… it’s so superficial, but it is the gods honest truth, that some men, especially those that just want casual… have a “type” and they stick to it… Brown hair brown eyes, Blond hair blue eyes, exotic/dark women… white girlz… whatever. You probably have a “type” too… I am notorious for brown hair blue eyes guys.. I have only dated two brown eyed guys in my whole life… It just is what it is… If a guy has you stuck in the friend zone, it probably means you do not fit his “type” in a very physical way and it’s a signal to value yourself enough to know that you are beautiful and there is someone out there who with think you are very attractive.. Go find them!

Go get it girl! Matthew and team, would you care to weight in on this? I know this is a heartbreaker for a lot of women… myself included… I bought silicon pads to put in my bra for the summer :) hahaha… Just gotta hook them and maybe they will realize it’s just the bra they are attracted to… or maybe it’s the bra that will hook them and the me that will keep them coming back for more. It’s an evolutionary physiology thing… hard to compete with the “type” that some guys find physically attractive.