Finally My Ex is back after a bitter breakup,,,,,,,,,,,,

Dear Matt,
My advice to you while making another show to focus more oh how overcome the heart break ❤️‍ in details because when you describe in details how we are feeling your are opening emotional wounds which make us unable to listen to you or look for the answers to heal because of the powerful pain you remind us with.

Both of us are older. Both had two failed marriages.

Both of us had decided we were done w romantic partnerships. Then we met.

Met January of last year, saw each other several times weekly at gym where we met, went to lunch a couple times then dinner. Older, we both put it all out there openly. It was so refreshing.

Then a month of long distance intimate calls followed by 4 months of sharing life.

Then out of nowhere I was ghosted. My deep respect for him slid tremendously. It is easy for me to love, but hard for me to respect and I so respected this person.

He had bumped into the pain of his second divorce from 15 years prior!! It was a shock to us both.

He ended up saying we were a mismatch. He continued to connect, I instituted thanks to you the “no contact rule” and the LLC has helped me maintain.

Suddenly after four months he texted and invited me to visit to see a completed project I helped a bit with.

I replied that it wouldn’t be healthy and that my feelings had not changed.

A week later he located where I’d moved to and mailed me a note. He said he hoped we could resume our friendship, someday, somehow.

I wrote but never maile a three page letter addressing all my feelings of confusion regarding who he really is and what he really wants, wondering how we can resume what he ended up calling a summer romance. So do you want to resume what was a romance? Impossible if it was only for summer. Do you want to be just friends? Already told him I’m not doing that, and either possibility hurts.

Told him my transition is about healing and putting myself in the healthiest place possible for current and future relationships. I quoted, “ Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed unless it is faced”.

Which is the authentic you, the 9-month forthright truth teller or the one-day silent ghostwriter? Or ????

I told him the sudden ghosting and lack of honesty kicked the emotional wind out of me and that I’m still feeling the sensation.

He sent note almost two weeks ago. I still haven’t sent my reply, wanting to first receive some guidance from you, Matt.

I’d just started to date again when this happened. My recent date wants to know if my ex-boyfriend has his hooks in me.

In this video you break down more clearly each piece of why this type of relationship reveals this isn’t our person. I think it helped me really start to get it.

Still wondering if I should mail my reply or not.

Then one week he starts pulling away and acting weird. Doing things for me to get upset and break up with him. Instead of reacting, I told him in a very calmed way that “he should take his time… that my feelings for him were still strong but that I might not be there when he decided to come back.” He replied: “ok, I wish you well”!!!!!

Later that week, he told me that his ex had reached out… she had just broken up from a long term relationship… and he still had feelings for her.

He is now in a committed relationship with her. I wish him the best. I am now in a better relationship, with an incredible man that treats me like a queen.

Things happen for a reason. The relationship was not perfect as he has an avoidant attachment style that made me feel a bit anxious from time to time. I am now with a secure attachment style person and it feels amazing!

My heartfelt sympathies to you Linda. I know that pain and wouldn’t wish it on anyone. But if it makes you feel any better, we have all been there, done that and wore the t-shirt. The healing will come, just hang in there.