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By: Linda Harper

Linda Harper — Mon, 18 Mar 2024 13:37:29 +0000

By WhatsApp I told my boyfriend that I didn’t want a Fuck Buddy, so he knew that on our first date, and mentioned it. It was the best date ever, and we have so much in common. Only 5 dates in 4 months due to his new job commitments. It’s hard to pin him down, and he doesn’t like needy ladies, I will only ask him what his intentions now are in a face to face conversation. I have to do it because I’m hurting too much. I’m 75 he’s 59, trust me ladies the heart never changes.

By: Claudia

Claudia — Fri, 15 Mar 2024 18:11:48 +0000

To Lisa
Slow down and try to calm down. Wait until after your first actual date before you try to figure things out.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Wed, 13 Mar 2024 09:53:05 +0000

When is it okay to have this kind of conversation? Do you think you can dive right in on date 1 and explain you would like to give things a real go, or should you wait for date 3 or 4? I’m talking to a guy and have a first date in the diary for this weekend I like him the most out of anyone I have dated previously and we have only texted and FT so far but he has made me feel a way no one else has the last 15 months or so since I’ve been dating so I’m feeling very anxious about out first date and worried his not going to feel the same way.

By: Your mother

Your mother — Wed, 13 Mar 2024 03:59:09 +0000

In reply to Elena. You are toxic and keeping yourself in a toxic relationship… for what? He clearly doesn’t love you so it’s not love. For like? That’s what you’re after? His like won’t grow to love. Walk away with some dignity and find a man not a boy you need to mother in between sexual encounters.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Mon, 11 Mar 2024 22:46:25 +0000

Wow! This is exactly the sort of relationship I was in for about 2 years and I didn’t realise that I was avoiding the conversation until right near the end. Exactly as you said, he started to say, oh I had no idea you felt like that (he did, as I had mentioned it). Soon after we split he got engaged to someone else.

Then I nearly ended up in that situation again, but thankfully, I’ve been watching your videos and learning to trust my instincts so I called him on it, and we are now not together, but I at least avoided two years of wasted time and heartache over someone who was not ever going to be what I needed.

Single at the moment and working on me!

By: Elena

Elena — Mon, 11 Mar 2024 18:25:11 +0000

I am in a relationship for 19 months with a person who in the beginning used to give me hints of starting a future and moving together but at that time he used to say I am not on job so it is difficult for him to move together. We had a serious misunderstanding in August last year and he made up his mind that I am not good for him. I asked for a chance to prove that I love him but whatever I do, for him I do not love him, I am not honest. Though he is the one I found on multiple dating apps though he says he does not use them. As I am in my late thirties, I had a serious talk about having a family. In December he said that he has dreams regarding his career and he cannot start a family and he is willing to let me go if it is important to me. I found a job but nothing changed. I started to give him hints and last month we quarreled and he called me toxic because I am forcing him to do something which he does not want to do. Again he said he does not find me the perfect woman he is looking for who will be honest and caring and loving. People advise me that I leave him but it is very difficult for me to leave, despite the fact I am heart-broken because I want to be with him but he does not. He is not the avoider but here I am the avoider as i know what is happening but I still hope that one day he would decide to be with me. I have stopped saying anything that makes him think that I am toxic.

By: Tina Penn

Tina Penn — Sun, 10 Mar 2024 22:08:36 +0000

This was exactly what I needed to hear today. I had a guy who ghosted me last weekend and he called me today and left me a voicemail.

We have not even gone out on a date and he is already playing with my emotions. I need to be clear with him on what I want and expect from him.

By: Teresa Pesce

Teresa Pesce — Sun, 10 Mar 2024 17:54:32 +0000

Here’s something I’d love for you to talk about: How can we handle the “Yeah, right….whatever, baby. You just haven’t experienced ME yet!” disbelief in our stated standards when we are brave and are clear about them from the start?

On our very first coffee date I took a deep breath and told him how high my bar was…what I wanted in a relationship…which was a partner as 100% in as I would be. Know what he told me later? “Oh, I thought you were just checking me…slowing me down a little.” Um, NO…I was telling him the truth. But he thought he still had a chance of a temporary total commitment.