Comments on: The Dangerous “High Value” Guy You Should Avoid

By: C.C.

C.C. — Sat, 01 Oct 2022 13:52:09 +0000

Wow! I needed to hear this exact message today. Your words of “ego over heart” and “fear of not getting someone like this again”, spoke to me, but it’s crystal clear, when someone isn’t meeting your needs, it doesn’t matter who they are or what they have accomplished. It’s about how you feel and that’s what is key. Thank You!

By: Rachel

Rachel — Mon, 26 Sep 2022 16:46:50 +0000

I don’t want opinions from the public in this please.
This video is totally relevant to my situation. Really attractive guy and very successful in what he has achieved. I feel like I’m lacking. We have an amazing connection in every way. Been seeing each other for a couple of months and are exclusive to the point where we have discussed moving in together in the future. However my issue is, he was burnt by his ex wife about 4 years ago, he had a few houses, a farm and lost it all in the divorce, she was greedy and took a lot. Now he says he won’t allow that to happen again, he won’t buy a house with someone, as he wants to leave a large sum to his son if the worst should happen. I’ve said to him, I’m not like that, I don’t get into a relationship to think about his money house etc. he says but the law says you are entitled to half of everything once we’ve been together for 2 years etc. I’ve said I don’t care about the law, I’m in this for him only, I don’t care about his house/car etc. I’m happy to contribute to our life together etc.
it’s very frustrating because I feel he doesn’t believe me and thinks I’m going to take it all if this ends. I know it’s super early thinking about this but if he’s sharing his fears with me I’m not going to shut him down, but try to reassure him. I know time will tell how things go between us as well. Any advice from you or your team greatly appreciated thanks Matthew

By: Jemana

Jemana — Mon, 26 Sep 2022 06:21:35 +0000

Mathew I’m in a similar situation like Lisa’s. I tried talking about it but got no response, instead I was just ignored. Its such a painful place. I’m so so confused.

By: Ana

Ana — Mon, 26 Sep 2022 05:54:18 +0000

Wow. This was the most eye-opening thing. I am in a very similar situation. Not dating a celebrity but dating a literal genius. He in many ways has raised my standards for men but in other ways I’m lowering them for him. It’s been 2 years of dating and we didn’t see eachother for 4 months once because he was so busy with med school even though he only lives 40 minutes from me.

By: Shirley

Shirley — Mon, 26 Sep 2022 03:55:23 +0000

That was excellent information
Very straightforward articulate
Helpful to me ….
am in the situation need to have conversation
About future in my relationship.
Thank you Shirley

By: Jessica

Jessica — Mon, 26 Sep 2022 01:06:45 +0000

Matt, I LOVE how you slowly, step by step tease out the reasons why *Lisa may be unconsciously overvaluing the “celebrity” status of this guy.
Even a prominent dating coach like her can be hypnotised by something like status. It may come from an old wound, not being seen in childhood so much that being with this guy makes her feel like she is finally “enough”, or it would qualify her.

You are so on the money about how whatever this guy’s reasons are, it doesn’t give her what she wants. And what she wants isn’t the world. It’s a reciprocal relationship of trust and commitment. Who cares if this guy is a big deal. I’m a mother of a young baby with an incredible husband, also a dating coach myself. And I assure you, while I respect my husband’s clout it’s his willingness to be up with me at 2am when our baby is crying that matters most in this rough season of our marriage and early family life.

I feel for *Lisa and hope she leaves this man behind!

By: Roz

Roz — Sun, 25 Sep 2022 21:24:59 +0000

Thank you so much Matt , your insight makes things so much clearer for us all and you right know your value ladies and don’t let that ego get in the way
Roz

By: Devi

Devi — Sun, 25 Sep 2022 19:22:17 +0000

I was told by a psychic I would meet a person from a past-life who I was meant to have a connection with, in this life – and he just happened to be a celebrity. Trying to contact him had nothing to do with his status. In fact, I wasn’t bursting with fruit flavour about him being famous and never wanted a life in the spotlight. It had to do with what I was told was “unfinished business.” But I have since found out that he’s with someone else, so I have stopped trying to contact him. I actually don’t care anymore. I was just trying to figure out my destiny, at that moment in time. If someone asks The Soul Council for the opportunity to be with you in this life and they drop the ball when that opportunity comes up – it’s not your problem. I wasn’t the one who turned down love; it was entirely his fault.

By: Marilyn

Marilyn — Sun, 25 Sep 2022 18:09:42 +0000

Matt, the perspective you present in this video is so valuable and insightful. Thank you very much for sharing with all of us!

By: Still learning

Still learning — Sun, 25 Sep 2022 15:59:35 +0000

I love the way you sort out all the messy fluff that obscured her thinking, and distilled it into: “Don’t allow someone’s reasons to make you forget your reality. Your actions shouldn’t be based on their reasons, they should be based on your reality.”
I only wish I had had you when I was dating. However, I AM making sure that my daughter has you for her dating!