Comments on: Get Too Obsessed When You Like Someone? WATCH THIS!

By: MD

MD — Wed, 13 Apr 2022 02:47:13 +0000

Got discarded from husband who lovebombed in the beginning but I also ignored red flags. Went through emotional and financial abuse. Met a man that was also going through a Divorce, didn’t rush sex, was very respectful, got along great- everything I ever wanted in a relationship however too good to be true was seeing lies and manipulations come forth and I kept giving excuses because he seemed so genuine and we could even talk about issues yet he was lovebombing and gaslighting.

By: ML

ML — Sun, 10 Apr 2022 14:43:39 +0000

I wish I heard of love bombing when in my 20’s. I am now 65 and was married for close to 40 yrs. 4 years prior just dating him. He was over too romantic and I often pushed back. I was not in any hurry for a relationship or marriage back then, but I fell for it all. Looking back, he always had the perfect answer. I also, knew his family loved me and often said they were glad I was in his life. We had a long distance romance and long distance marriage. He travelled internationally for almost a 30 plus year career. When home he seemed so attentive and we do have two amazing adult children. I had a great career too, travelled occasionally with him and the children, we did have some great adventures. Once back in our home province, now in our 60’s, I started to discover red flags. I missed then previously or he was great at covering them up. Our whole marriage feels like a facade. It appear fabulous on the outside, but he had a secret life when away from me or the kids.. it was easy for him to do, since he travelled so much. And he could be awesome when home, but would leave in a few weeks back to his deceitful ways. In the end , I discovered multiple affairs, bisexuality, financial abuse, secret addresses, addictions to porn and alcohol and it goes on. He was a very well respected person in our community, handsome, articulate, well read and well travelled. People loved him and so did I. When the truths trickled out, it was devastating, for everyone. He said he was willing to go to his grave with his secrets. He said I was a good front person and gave him the image he wanted in public life. It is all crazy when I think back on it now. I filed for divorce two years ago. It was very hard and he made it very difficult. It seemed to be all about image. I just wanted an authentic life and was determined to break free and have a chance at a real life. I have become more discerning and continue to work on my healing. So many people thought we were a perfect couple, a power couple, we accomplished many things. I got lost in the image and thought it was love, until the evidence was too hard to ignore.
When I think back in our dating years, I did push back. Did not want to rush things. He wanted marriage within the first 5 months. I did not do it but it was fun he seemed so pursuing. I gave in four yrs later. I thought I was doing it the right way for me. I really got “had”.
In 2018 he was diagnosed with with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It took a few years before our therapist was able to confirm this. Yes, we sought out therapy. I thought this too would help us. It just made him better at keeping secrets.
There is more to share, but what I need now is to have much stronger boundaries without isolating myself, believe there are honest people out there and be open.
I wish I had the education you offer now Matt, back when I was young. Well I am listening now. Thank you for explaining what to look for and honor your yourself and your gut. Be authentic everyone. It is a better way to live. Hugs ML

By: MISSY

MISSY — Mon, 04 Apr 2022 01:16:44 +0000

After… I got breadcrumbed, with NO effort. CAN u do a video on those 2 things?! The guy never asks questions about me and is always hot and cold, I never know what he wants. But he’s started taking forever to even look at my messages, when only a lil while ago he seemed so interested.

By: liz

liz — Mon, 04 Apr 2022 01:13:15 +0000

I have a. man that we are so connected.
both divorced and little life to live.
he has everything I have been looking for.
he leaves on a. bucket list and keeps me in the loop with his adventure .
he gets home… n contact.?
what the fuck…
feel like a piece of shit.!!!
then he. contacts me with I had a get day skiing in. the sun.
I am not asked to join him ?prick!!!

By: Heidi

Heidi — Sun, 03 Apr 2022 19:34:04 +0000

Will you be taping this April 19 session?? Your courses are always in the middle of my work day.

By: Susan

Susan — Sun, 03 Apr 2022 18:36:26 +0000

This was a really nice video! It’s so good to remind everyone that we all have value, not just the person we are obsessing about!

By: Dee

Dee — Sun, 03 Apr 2022 15:34:03 +0000

Perfect Exactly what we see on a first, second, third date. Now we can enjoy the second and third date for what they are and remain in the moment. That’s the best place to be!